Realizing some people genuinely do not realize abuse and harm towards children is not always intentionally done by some evil loveless person who does not care about the child at all.
Sometimes its done by people who love you and are genuinely trying to protect and help you and were taught that this behavior IS helpful and loving and going to make things better for you.
We need to recognize that we are ALL capable of doing that. Of thinking we are doing the right thing whilst we are actually causing someone real genuine harm or even trauma.
If we think these things are only done by "evil" people we fail to recognize it in our OWN behavior and thus the cycle of pain only continues.
Realized this when I tried to present a project proposal about raising awareness for how child harm and abuse is actually a lot more prevalent if not literally inescapable in our society one way or another and a large number of people tried to refute me and I didn't get it. I had real scientific evidence up on the screen for how behaviors a large number of adults participate in, are actually abusive because they cause lifelong damage to a child's mental health, development, and self esteem that will stay with them for the rest of their lives even in less extreme examples.
These behaviors are normalized in our society despite causing genuine harm. These behaviors are abusive even if they are not commonly recognized as such yet. But this causes people to think certain behaviors towards children are okay when they are genuinely harmful. That potentially, at some point in our lives we may have said something to a child, a child we may care very very much about that could have genuinely seriously hurt them. Not because we are EVIL but because we are human. But it's still wrong and bad. And we need to recognize that we are capable of causing genuine harm and even trauma to another person without meaning to or realizing it because if we do not and think our actions are always in the right we WILL end up DOING THAT. You NEED to question your societal biases in order to AVOID hurting the people around you, especially people you care about.
But the average person believes in order to do abuse or damage on that scale you need to be an EVIL person. Which is why when you try to discuss that children receive abuse intended or not from a large number of adults in their life, people will jump on you and try to argue about how GREAT their childhood or childhoods of others they know were or how GREAT they treat their own children and you're just being pessimistic there are not evil evil bad child abusers everywhere in our society.
You're right there isn't.
Most of it is just normal people
who think they are doing the right thing.
