There’s something about the HLVRAI fandom that’s been bugging me for ages, and yes, i get it, there’s tons of posts like this, but.
This is something that really, really needs to be said (imo anyways).
Stop making Benrey predatory towards Gordon, and stop writing off Gordons trauma as something small.
I’ve seen this fairly often with Frenrey, and it’s gotten to the point that, personally, it’s affected my view on Frenrey. And i’m not saying Frenrey is problematic; when done right, it’s cute! And you can ship it however much you like! But the problem is is how it’s perceived.
I’ve seen a few weird fics and art that make Benrey out to just be predatory and just odd to Gordon. I can’t think of anything off the top of my head, and besides i don’t want to make the artists/authors out to be bad, but it’s just... weird.
Benrey is a canonically gay man who, in Wayneradiotv’s words, “Lusts after Gordon the entire series” and is “completely unreciprocated” by Gordon. Of course, the fact that Benrey canonically has a crush on Gordon sparked a massive outpour of Frenrey art, or Benrey x Gordon. It was already shipped before, but now it’s probably the most popular ship in the HLVRAI fandom.
And, with all fandoms, comes many problems with the shipping, such as making the characters out-of-character or just making the ship... weird.
The biggest problems i’ve seen so far is Benrey being made out to be predatory and being someone who doesn’t respect Gordons boundaries and the ship being made into something problematic as a whole.
Again, i reiterate, i’m not attacking Frenrey or those who ship it. I’m sharing my experiences with what i’ve seen and what i think are problems.
See, Benrey has never pushed Gordons boundaries when it comes to him having a crush on him. The most he does is ask Gordon if he wants to kiss during the final act and when he does actually kiss him at some point. He never forces himself onto Gordon at all.
So, generally, i don’t know where this idea of “Benrey being predatory and not knowing boundaries because he’s an alien” came from.
I’ve seen some... really weird shit with him though (some kinky stuff, Benrey vowing that he’d be the cause of Gordons death in a... sexual? way, etc).
It sure as hell doesn’t help that sometimes, Gordons trauma is completely ignored.
Benrey did some really bad shit. Gaslighting, manipulation, hell even being the cause of Gordons arm being cut off- Benrey did a fuck ton of bad shit and is one of the many sources of Gordons trauma (The only exceptions are Tommy, Sunkist, and maybe Darnold).
And for the life of me, i cannot figure out why Gordons extensive trauma is repeatedly ignored. I can understand wanting fluff, and just generally wanting cute and lovey stuff in general, but. You can’t ignore trauma.
Especially when it comes to the idea of Gordon having childhood trauma because of him and Benrey being friends as kids.
I’ve only seen this idea- once? Maybe? But i don’t doubt that others have had this idea before, and it just bugs the living fuck out of me.
Childhood trauma is intense. it’s not something you can just forget (or, in some cases, remember). You can’t just get over it. It takes years to recover from, especially with new trauma added onto it. Hell, trauma you get later in life may take a lifetime to recover from, if at all!
And consistently going with the idea that Gordon can just get with the item of his trauma is really fucking bad.
And i have to reiterate that Frenrey is not inherently problematic, i’ve seen some really cute art of it and some wonderful ideas.
But there’s problems that the HLVRAI fandom needs to stop ignoring and actually start working on.
Feel free to add onto this post; and for the love of god don’t be a dick and attack me. Constructive criticism is welcome as well.