#misogeny

[prodigal-explorer]

questions to ask yourself when critiquing a female character:

1. is she boring, or are you saying that because she’s a girl?

2. is she annoying, or are you saying that because she’s a girl?

3. is she a bully/overly aggressive, or are you saying that because she’s a girl?

4. is she a crybaby/overly sensitive, or are you saying that because she’s a girl?

5. would you like or even tolerate this character more than you do if she was a boy?

[waywardbananawolf]

The avatar fandom is a place full of misogyny that if they see a woman being against the male protagonists they will say that she is "irredeemable"

[singofsolace]

Okay my last living grandparent is possibly actively dying and I don’t know what to do or how to feel about it, so instead I started rewatching SVU to provoke any feelings at all, like your average fucked up person, and it has just occurred to me that in Season 1 Episode 5 (“Wanderlust”) of SVU, Elliot Stabler gets INFINITELY MORE patience, grace, and understanding from Cragen than Olivia Benson did in episode 1, when they were investigating an exponentially worse criminal???

Like Elliot literally admits to his captain’s face that he dropped the ball on a case specifically because he was imagining his daughter in the place of the person who wound up being the perp, and that *Olivia’s* objectivity is what saved the case… and yet Captain Cragen is SO NICE and understanding about it??? And reassures him that feeling things in the sex crimes division is okay—it’s when you STOP feeling things that you have to be worried—but yet the same man literally threatened Olivia Benson with losing her JOB in the pilot for essentially the same reason??

Obviously, I know there’s a double-standard at play, so this isn’t “news,” but still???

How did none of the writers realize that within the first five episodes of the show, they blatantly demonstrated that Stabler gets a free “pass” for getting emotionally involved in cases for personal reasons, while in the pilot (literally ONLY FOUR EPISODES EARLIER) Olivia is told there is only one “get out of jail free” card in the pack, and treated like a bad cop for being emotionally involved in a WAR CRIMES case where the “victim” by all accounts deserved what he got?!!?!? Like.. what???

Make it make sense???

[eaglesnick]

The Death of Free Speech.

In my last rant about British politics I discussed the Tory move to the right and highlighted the United Nations concerns regarding increased police powers and the threat that poses to our democracy.

We all know that the Metropolitan police have been found to be “institutionally racist, misogynistic and homophobic.”  Now we have direct evidence that Leicestershire Police also has misogynistic questions to answer after the appalling way it has treated Labour MP Stella Creasy.

Ms Creasy was subject to an investigation by local social services because they had received a complaint from a man claiming Ms Creasy’s "extreme views” were a threat to her children because they might adopt her beliefs,  and they needed to be taken into care for their own protection.

A safe-guarding review was carried out by a panel of people from social services, the police and schools, and the complaint was dismissed as being completely unfounded. The panel then contacted Ms Creasy because they thought she and her children might be at risk from the complainant.

The man in question had never met Ms Creasy or her children. This man, who used an alias, was contacted by Leicestershire Police, and was given an informal warning and a community resolution after it was found the man had repeatedly emailed Ms Creasy’s office, angered by her “man-hating" politics.

Ms Creasy now has a social services record that cannot be legally deleted from the files. To add insult to injury, Leicestershire Police said the man was  “legally entitled" to express concerns to social services and that she should "expect to be challenged" because she is a woman MP in the public eye.

In short, Leicestershire Police have sanctioned the weaponising of the threat to have your children taken away from you if someone disagrees with your views. How can there be free speech if women with something to say can be subject to misogynistic trolls?

Have we really reached the point in this country where the police accept attempts by intolerant individuals to have peoples children taken into social care simply because they do not agree with the views of the mother? What if you don’t like the beliefs of the father? Will the police sanction similar complaints against male MP’s?

As Ms Creasy said:

“The normal reaction would be utter horror at the suggestion my children should be taken away because someone disagrees with my views.” 

Sadly, this appears no longer to be the case. Maybe the police-state has arrived sooner than I thought!

[beabaseball]

Occasionally I remember periods exist and I automatically start losing my shit at everyone who's ever stuck their nose up and snottily declared the body doesn't affect the mind

[kniznaakritikantka]

Can we talk about misogyny on the part of writers?

Quite often in books, especially novels and romantic comedies, I observe that authors make the female character overly emotional, such a silly hysterical woman, and the man in her background, of course, is sensible, calm, even one could say unavailable. A real knight, who takes responsibility for her and protects her from the whole world.

Every time this happens, I want to ask: when will you stop passively humiliating women?

I can count on the fingers of one hand stories in which the female character was originally more mature and complete, not created to be an addition to the man. A woman's value is not to dissolve into her partner, or just to love him. A woman is a fucking human being, with her own experiences, traumas, emotional needs and defense mechanisms. And then you read reviews that talk about love for a man and humiliate the female character because she is "infantile". By the way, usually those male characters are a red flag. We just tend to idealize men with abusive tendencies)))

I am not against this type of female characters, when they are emotional, flashy, because there is a huge number of such people, and that's normal. But why can't you reveal them as a normal person? Show the influence of society with its patriarchal attitudes, how detrimental this is?

I will give you the example of "The Spanish Love Deception". Initially I liked the book, but still the final chapters caused contradictory feelings. Reading the reviews of different bloggers, probably 80% of them were negative towards Catalina and her "infantilism", that she annoys them and other things. Except that she is quite logical and understandable in terms of personality organization: the author goes deeper into her past experiences, which explains certain attitudes and reactions. The main red flag in this story is the man: in one of the final chapters, when Сatalina has an anxiety attack (there may have been a real panic attack, but I don't remember exactly), instead of showing compassion for her condition and helping her get through the situation, Aaron starts pressuring her, manipulating her trust and words about love. I didn't know that disrespect for partners' feelings is now considered romantic.

And there are enough such examples in different books. This society needs a powerful therapy to at least start seeing women as people.

[intruding-stranger-universe]

ever noticed that there are a significant lack of wlw or even just ships with women as main pairing in fandoms most are mlm (not to point fingers i’m a huge fan of sterek). i kep thinking why cause many good ff authors ship a lot of wlw and w/other pairing in general but they dont write as much fics as muchas mlm fics male main characters or male povs. the same is with poc or queer people. 

Many say it is racism well i think its true atleast partially. but i think its easier to write white males as opposed to a poc or a woman i might be wrong cause i’m no writer. i think so because of something that happened few days ago. i was shopping alone and got hungry i went to the nearest cafe but promptly came out it was almost instictive for me because the shop was quite narrow and rectangular shaped  with benches along the length the shop was almost empty and the first few seats were occupied by half a dozen men and the seats left were at the back i was out of the shop without thinking much about it. i didn’t think about it until it was good 5 mins after coming out. i’m a 23 year old indian woman. if it were on of my male friends or relatives they would’ve gone inside in a minute ( the samosas looked tasty) and not thinking philosophical thoughts about life and saftey and role of women in indian society. so if you are writing a poc or a women or queer person there a lot of little ticks ingrained into our mannerisms and daily life is more instinctive than anything. how do you write this and without titbits like these the character will also seem a little 2D a white male won’t really notice or take into account (not much if they do) if the lift is filled with just men or you know have to take a look around when you go to a club or pay extra attention to your drinks or cleavage or how your new workplace have no poc or women employees etc.

[androgynouscollectivekingdom]