PSA
Non-sexual times with someone that you sometines have sex with are really important.
Sometimes people don't want to be turned on and some people don't seem to get that.
Sometimes, you want to be able to light up when you talk about something that you love without the response being, "You look so hot when you get all fired up like that"
Sometimes you want to be able to say, "I feel like I look nice right now," without getting looked up and down and then grabbed and kissed in response
Making everything sexual can feel devaluing. Writers of romantic novels definately don't get that, and a lot of people irl don't either. So thank you for coming to my ted talk














