#parasocial behavior

[maladaptivejen]

As much as I might like to joke and play around with it, I'm not parasocial.

I don't actually know Awsten Knight. I don't "get him" better than anyone else. I fully believe he's a very different person than his online persona.

I relate to his lyrics a lot, but not because of a special connection or some bullshit. It's just because he's very good at putting into words some human emotions we both happened to feel at different moments in our lives - which is probably helped by the fact that we are close in age, although I'm older than him.

This ability to relate, by the way, is what makes art enjoyable to me.

But it doesn't make me, or anyone else who doesn't actively know him in real life, have a "special connection" to him. Or "get him" better than anyone.

However, I do know the character he plays in my RPF stories, because in those, I shape him according to my perception of him. (Which, incidentally, is why RPF is fine in my opinion. You're basically just turning these people into characters, it's not actually them in those stories.)

So, in the end, I guess I'm RPFsocial? I pluck real people from real life that I have no real knowledge about aside from what they want me to perceive, and throw them into a cauldron of drama and angst that they will hopefully never experience in real life.

[justuraverageweirdo]

Guys we have lost the plot WHAT ARE WE DOING

Scar should never have had to post this in the first place. This fandom has a huge problem with how parasocial some people are and it’s getting to a dangerous point now. Goodtimeswithscar is not your friend, he is your entertainer. He is a real person that y’all need to leave the hell alone.

[blulowy]

Okay, unexpected but very serious chat.

You know how in Dried Flowers AU watchers are based on different parts of the fandom? If no, go read it now -> HERE.

Now back to the chat.

I know you all like Secret Keeper. BUT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND THAT THEIR BEHAVIOUR IS TERRIBLE BAD.

THIS IS NOT OK. BEING PARASOCIAL IS NOT OK.

I utterly hope that none of you actually had done this. But if, somehow, miraculously, you misunderstood my standings on parasocial relationships because of SK and had done something like that (not even necessary to Scar) - please reconsider your actions and behaviour.

I hate to say it, because I genuinely wanted to keep it a reveal in the comic, but Secret Keeper isn’t a cute silly guy. Their actions should make you uncomfortable. They make DFAU!Scar uncomfortable. THAT IS NOT HEALTHY. SECRET KEEPER IS A BAD PERSON. DON’T BE LIKE SECRET KEEPER. THE COMIC IS MADE FOR YOU ALL TO LEARN THAT PARASOCIAL RELATIONSHIP IS BAD AND SUCKS AND GROSS AND JUST DON’T DO IT.

Don’t force me to change the end of the story so it is just spelled out for you how bad it is. I want to give the story satisfying end, but if this community doesn’t understand that parasocial relationships are not healthy and good: I will swap the ending for less cool but more clear message.

Edit: I want to apologise if my post sounded like I’m making this about my AU. I don’t. For me it’s easier to work with a comparison rather than say harsh things. On top of that for people who say that it’s a low chance that my followers had done that: while yes, I utterly hope no one actually showed up to Scar’s house, I had experienced stalking-like behaviour from people I don’t know. I guess seeing Scar post about it was the last straw for me to just explode and put my raw mind into text. Which is not an excuse to my poorly written statement. I apologise for not treating this issue more seriously and taking more time to phrase my response.

[ihat3bl00dsm33ll]

being parasocial is so bad especially when they're not a public figure like grgrgrrgr why don't you just show up again I want to know more about you i fukcing oloev wyou ineed you eplaze👾

[smosh-fessions]

i find that a lot of people are very parasocial about smosh, no one really gets that they all have a life outside of preforming for a youtube channel and i get a little cringed out when people comment things under their posts like “who is there” etc. People need to realize that they are humans and they make their content realistic and relatable for the viewer which leads people to think “oh i would be such good friends with blank because of this” and stuff like that. It’s to a point where i feel bad for some of the cast.

Anyways i love ur blog and thanks for reading!

X

[obtuse-antlers]

I hate when my favorite blogs flirt with every anon that shoots a low effort ask. Am I really not enough?? How many paragraphs do I need to write??

[this-is-parasocial-delusions]

first 🤖😈 song made me dissociate slightly, it's okay.... i love you anyway, my daughter.

[glorioussunriseeverdeen07]

really missing david lynch again