Unpopular opinion: the transgender community is toxic and hostile as fuck for no reason
(Most of the things I'm about to mention (except one or two) were told to me before I considered myself trans-exclusionary, emphasising the fact that none of the things that happened to me had any valid reasoning behind them).
ANYWAYS
2026 fucking sucks cuz wdym I'll get sent rape and death threats for not wanting to interact with the transgender community (I have PTSD and I was sa'ed by my friend who literally IS transgender so obvs there are triggers there).
Y'ALL WILL NOT BELIEVE THE THINGS I'VE HEARD. YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE IT. I've been told my sexual assault wasn't real, and that all my sa'er did was probably look at me wrong. I've been called transphobic for saying I don't want to have anything to do with the community so that I don't get triggered. I've been told sex with a trans 'woman' would FIX ME. BY AN IRL PERSON. I'm a MINOR. I'M 16. 16 YEARS OLD. 16 YEARS OLD AND BEING TOLD HAVING A DERANGED MAN FUCK ME WILL FIX MY PTSD.
I've been told my male alters make me 'genderfluid.' I HAVE P-DID. Do you know what DID stands for? DISSOCIATIVE IDENTITY DISORDER. IDENTITY DISORDER. DISORDER. IT'S A FUCKING DISORDER. AND I'M BEING TOLD THAT HAVING ALTERS OF DIFFERENT GENDERS IS CONSIDERED AN IDENTITY. It's not a fucking identity it's a DISORDER. THEY'RE MY ALTERS. MY FUCKING ALTERS. I don't care what you want me to do, they're my alters, they hate you, I hate you too, FUCK OFF.
It happens with my alterhumanity too. I'm an alterhuman myself, I have nonhuman alters. Apparently someone can't be transphobic and a therian at the same time. Says fucking who? I've been told to "pick a lane," but what happened to your little rants about therianthropy not being a choice? So you're just going to betray the meaning of your whole community just because you had a tantrum when you discovered people have different opinions to you?
I don't care if I'm transphobic, it's the only way I'll ever want to be honestly. Better than supporting the degenerates who told me I should be more comfortable being NAKED in front of people just because I reported feeling uncomfortable around a biological male in a FEMALE change room. That was their excuse btw, "you should feel more comfortable in your body and not be afraid to be naked around other people, it's natural." Right so it's my problem, got it, kill yourself you fucking moid.
A personal stance term that focuses primarily, if not solely, on CDD spaces and community support. Those who are CDD-centric have separated, or wish to separate themselves majorly or entirely from syscourse for whatever reason prn may have (e.g. exhaustion with hostility in syscourse spaces, personal health reasons, etc.).
Those who are CDD-centric are:
Pro-CDD-recovery, and respect individual systems' desires for final fusion or functional multiplicity
Non-traumagenic plurality critical, and believe NTGs do not belong in CDD spaces. This includes using CDD terms (note: the term "system" in regards to identity alteration was first used in medical texts to refer to pwCDDs, and is thus included) or claiming their experience is parallel to CDD systems in any way.
Syscourse-critical
Anti harassment
Anti fakeclaiming (this includes fakeclaiming NTGs for their believed experiences)
Anti "armchair diagnosis," forced syscovery, and forced trauma recognition
Suggestions for tags:
[in addition to CDD tags; yes syscourse is often placed within CDD tags, this is why we filter content]
#cdd centric, #cddcentric, #cdd centric community, (and more, we are open to suggestions).
This is a long post, there is a lot more under the cut. Help with image IDs & PT are extremely appreciated.
Behind the Flag
Colors:
The Foggy Blue represents complex dissociation & CDD systems as a whole
Green is for healing and growth. There are two shades of green as a representation that there is no "one acceptable path" to recovery. The choice of only two shades was influenced by the two primary forms of system integration: functional multiplicity and final fusion
Yellow is for community, and healthy/positive community spaces
Orange represents strength, and for those who speak out against misinformation, mistreatment, and injustice—no matter what "side" (particular to syscourse, as this is a syscourse-critical stance) it's coming from
Red is for the establishment of personal responsibility to enforce boundaries: blocking accounts instead of harassing others, filtering tags to minimize the amount of discourse one engages in, etc.
The blue-greys were color-picked from the CDD system pride flag.
The symbol on the flag is based on the system signet. This design retains the original meanings behind the symbol's design, while also being inclusive of P-DID systems (as the original signet is OSDDID specific). The meanings of the symbol are as follows:
The largest circle stands for systems as a whole
The inner circle within the largest represents complex structures within systems (such as subsystems) and internal parts that rarely or do not front
The smallest circle at the top (interrupting the largest middle circles) represents the structure of P-DID systems. [Explanation of this symbolism at the end of the bullet points]
The larger outer circles represent more overt parts (+ symptoms) in CDD systems
The smaller outer circles represent more covert parts (+ symptoms) in CDD systems
The stems that connect the circles signify each alter's connection and purpose to the system
Credits and many thanks to @the-complicity-system for their input on the revised system signet to also be inclusive of pwP-DID! I included their wording for the symbolism of the P-DID alteration, because I honestly can't explain it any better, myself—and I feel the wording coming from a P-DID system is more meaningful than it is from a system who does not have P-DID.
“I like pdid's symbol being a circle with another smaller circle interrupting the complete link bc it avoids the idea that the stuck host is the like main guy but still is a linked focus of the system.”
In coining this stance term, I need to make myself as clear as possible:
I coined this because I wanted a term to describe my individual beliefs.
This is NOT a push to abandon the anti endo community.
I'm tired of syscourse and how hostile it is—and how much worse it seems to have gotten in the span of time I've been on Tumblr (close to 2 years). While I've identified most closely with the anti endo community, there's been a growing association with animosity within our spaces (this isn't everyone, nor is it "all the time;" but it is a trend and it isn't getting better with time).
I enjoy the anti endo community as a whole, but I don't feel fully connected to a lot of the ideals that circulate through that side syscourse anymore/most recently. This is why I'm creating this term, and possibly (hopefully) separate community tags.
Additionally, I feel as though syscourse is completely unproductive. CDD systems who push to educate are rarely listened to by the (pro)endogenic community. Endos who try to express how they experience plurality are shut down just as quickly. Nobody listens to each other, and I feel it's pointless. I don't want to involve myself in syscourse anymore, so I'm creating this term to step away from it and focus on constructive, CDD-centric spaces.
Just because I follow medical texts and say “you need trauma in order to be a system” doesn’t mean:
I’ll not accept you for not remembering any trauma
I’ll force you to uncover traumatic memories
I’ll expect your system to function in one specific way
I’ll force you to talk about triggers
I’ll force you to tell me about all your trauma
And so much more that my brain has blanked on.
The only thing that I will expect of you is to go find a therapist or psychiatrist as soon as is feasible for you - and I don’t care if that means now, in a months time, when you move out of your current living situation, in a few years once you have some financial stability, whatever. I just want you to get help as soon as that opportunity comes.
I referred to my headmates as 'the voices' for a while because I hadn't accepted that I was a system and their voices were the first symptom that was overt enough that I couldn't explain it away, but it's become a joke now
CDD system ask game because it's been long enough that i need to make another one of these
🪅 Is splitting a frequent occurrence for you? How long does splitting take for you? What is that experience like?
🪁 What's a unifying like/dislike that (mostly) everyone in your system shares?
🔥 Are there any alters that swear more/less than most of you?
🏆 Who is a alter you'd like to thank/give some recognition to? (no need to name names if you're/they're not comfortable!)
💐 What is something someone has done/can do that makes you feel seen/supported as a system?
📻 How does internal communication work for you? Does the ability to communicate vary between alters? Does communication take the form of words, images, emotions, etc.?
🥁 Do you experience chronic pain?
🎒 Are there any items you carry with you that help ground you? If not, what would you choose to carry?
🐾 Do you have any non-human alters? Feel free to share what species!
🗓️ Do you have any alters that feel connected to/like they're from a different time period? Feel free to elaborate!
🍋🟩 Are there flavours most of you like/dislike that specific alter(s) hate/love?
🎻 Are there any songs/genres of music that most of you like/dislike that specific alter(s) hate/love?
❓ What is a question you still have about your disorder?
🚫 What is something about your disorder you don't think is talked about enough?
🗂️ (if you have a journal) Do you share a journal or do alters have their own journals?
🎼 What is a quote/lyric that really resonates with you?
🪵 What is a piece of advice you've received/something you've learned that has helped you and you'd like to share with other systems?
note: this ask game is made and intended for those w DID/OSDD/p-DID/etc. please only use this if this applies to you :))