#actually pdid

[anti-willo-hiccup]

“You can’t just form DID because your parent wanted you to do the dishes”

An example I’ve heard not applicable to me

Actually. Depending on how that occurs, it could very well be something that contributes to the formation of a CDD.

If it was “if I don’t wash the dishes, my parent beats me” then yeah.

If it was “if I don’t wash the dishes, my parent will lock me in a cupboard” then yeah.

If it was “if I don’t wash the dishes, my parent will yell and scream at me” then yeah.

If it was “if I don’t wash the dishes, I get silent treatment” then yeah

If these are all happening frequently, or other punishment methods I have not mentioned, and it’s something that’s inescapable then it can absolutely contribute. Just because it was “small” (ie not necessarily overtly abusive) doesn’t mean it can’t have contributed to causing a CDD.

Not to mention if these are happening just over washing some dishes, then there is likely other traumatic issues going on in the household.

This is just an example, and doesn’t give the full story behind CDD formation, it’s mostly just a “hey you were traumatised, doesn’t matter what made you traumatised, you are valid as someone who has been through trauma”.

[thesicksys]

systems with did, you are loved.

systems with osdd, you are loved.

systems with p-did/di-dd, you are loved.

systems with low amnesia, you are loved.

systems with high amnesia, you are loved.

systems with differing alters, you are loved.

systems with alters that don't differ much, you are loved.

systems with nonhuman alter, you are loved.

nonhuman systems, you are loved.

RAMCOA/OEA/TBMC/Programmed systems, you are loved.

systems who used to be endo/pro endo, you are loved.

systems who used to be harmful, you are loved.

diagnosed systems, you are loved.

self diagnosed systems, you are loved.

suspected systems, you are loved.

undiagnosed systems, you are loved.

systems who don't remember their trauma, you are loved.

systems who remember their trauma, you are loved.

queer systems, you are loved.

systems who use xenogender/neopronouns, you are loved.

systems who use parts terminology, you are loved.

systems who use alters terminology, you are loved.

systems who use headmates terminology, you are loved.

systems who use any term to replace parts, you are loved.

systems who like to be treated as multiple, you are loved.

systems who like to be treated as one person, you are loved.

systems who want final fusion, you are loved.

systems who want functional multiplicity, you are loved.

systems who are still in an abusive situation, you are loved.

systems that have multiple/comorbid disorders, you are loved.

systems who are neurodivergent, you are loved.

polyfragmented systems, you are loved.

systems with a high headcount, you are loved.

systems with a low headcount, you are loved.

systems who have a headspace, you are loved.

systems who don't have a headspace, you are loved.

systems who use plural, you are loved.

systems who don't use plural, you are loved.

systems, you are loved.

[anti-ntg-terzo]

I think what a lot of non-traumagenics don't understand is that this isn't a "people in your head" disorder. It's disassociation, losing days or weeks at a time. It's being unaware when time is passing. It's not having a sense of self. Not knowing what you enjoy, or being unable to enjoy what you enjoy. It's looking in the mirror and not recognizing the person in it.

It's looking at close family photographs and not knowing who any of the people are. It's forgetting friends, forgetting family, forgetting loved ones. Forgetting peoples' faces, their voices, not understanding who's texting or calling you. It's not remembering even having fun, or happy events.

It's difficulty with school and work, sometimes being physically unable to comprehend the information you're receiving. It's losing your job because you forget that you even have one. It's being lucky if you even graduate. It's being unable to have a driver's license if you get diagnosed. It's not being able to even get a job if you have it listed as a disability in your paperwork.

It's being paranoid, afraid of the people around you. It's random bouts of emotions that make no sense, such as anger or fear. It's not being able to remember what some emotions feel like. It's even not being able to process emotions.

It's intrusive thoughts that feel impossible to get around. It's potentially endangering yourself or others, sometimes without even knowing why. In cases of abuse, it's intrusive thoughts about being abused. It's unwanted desires, impulses, and urges. It's being terrified of your own mind.

It's comorbid with other disorders that are created from trauma. Systems often are borderline, narcissistic, antisocial, histronic, obsessive compulsive, schizoid, etc etc etc, multiple of them, or in extremely severe cases, almost all of them.

Of course, these experiences vary from person to person, however this isn't "there are people in my head" funtimes. CDDs are created from extreme childhood trauma, usually abuse, where our personalities split to cope with the trauma. Alters are a symptom, not the whole disorder.

If you're non-traumagenic, or support them in any capacity, you're ableist. Point blank. And if you are tulpa or support them, you're racist, too. Tulpamancy is an advanced spiritual practice from Eastern Asia religions that takes years to understand and perform. It is completely different than alters.

You don't have people in your head, you don't have alters/headmates/parts if you don't have a dissociative disorder. Plain and simple.

[system-comics]

I was talking to a friend/acquaintance about this and thought I'd share!

[anti-endo-pdid-positivity]

This is your reminder that it’s ok to not know everything about your system and how it works.

It’s ok to go “I don’t know why that happened” and “I don’t know who is influencing me right now”. It’s completely normal and part of the disorder’s design - to keep stuff hidden from you.

[opossum-et-al]

CDD system ask game because it's been long enough that i need to make another one of these

🪅 Is splitting a frequent occurrence for you? How long does splitting take for you? What is that experience like?

🪁 What's a unifying like/dislike that (mostly) everyone in your system shares?

🔥 Are there any alters that swear more/less than most of you?

🏆 Who is a alter you'd like to thank/give some recognition to? (no need to name names if you're/they're not comfortable!)

💐 What is something someone has done/can do that makes you feel seen/supported as a system?

📻 How does internal communication work for you? Does the ability to communicate vary between alters? Does communication take the form of words, images, emotions, etc.?

🥁 Do you experience chronic pain?

🎒 Are there any items you carry with you that help ground you? If not, what would you choose to carry?

🐾 Do you have any non-human alters? Feel free to share what species!

🗓️ Do you have any alters that feel connected to/like they're from a different time period? Feel free to elaborate!

🍋‍🟩 Are there flavours most of you like/dislike that specific alter(s) hate/love?

🎻 Are there any songs/genres of music that most of you like/dislike that specific alter(s) hate/love?

❓ What is a question you still have about your disorder?

🚫 What is something about your disorder you don't think is talked about enough?

🗂️ (if you have a journal) Do you share a journal or do alters have their own journals?

🎼 What is a quote/lyric that really resonates with you?

🪵 What is a piece of advice you've received/something you've learned that has helped you and you'd like to share with other systems?

note: this ask game is made and intended for those w DID/OSDD/p-DID/etc. please only use this if this applies to you :))

[unstablemotions]

I guess this is luckily being talked about more, but if you have symptoms of a complex dissociative disorder (DID, OSDD-1, P-DID), but you don't remember any "super horrific trauma" that doesn't mean that 1) you don't have a CDD because the trauma "wasn't bad enough" or 2) that there's secret, repressed memories of extreme trauma in your subconscious. Maybe you do remember most of what happened to you, but you've normalised it to yourself as "not that bad". Us trauma survivors tend to minimise our own trauma. One time, a friend of mine had gone to group therapy and everyone was telling bits of their pasts. He was sitting back thinking "wow, they all went through some really terrible stuff. I got lucky that my trauma isn't that bad", but then one of the others came up to him later and told him she was really horrified by his story and how she couldn't imagine having to survive that. And then he realised that even though he knew his childhood had been fucked up, he was still undermining just how bad it was. And honestly, that person who came up to him was doing the same

I'm not saying that you can't have any hidden trauma memories of extreme abuse. You absolutely can, of course - that's the case for many. But also remember that you currently might be brushing off the trauma you do remember. Maybe you think "it wasn't that bad", but do all of you agree? Is there some part of you that will freeze up and panic when you're reminded of that thing from your past? Maybe you don't personally hold the trauma reactions as a part, but perhaps there's some other part of you who's holding onto the trauma, so you can function in your daily life. Just want this to be a reminder to those who need it

[therabidgraveyard]

You know what fuck you. You wanna be anti endo, then stop using pro endo terms and shit made by endos and pro endos.

No more pluralkit

No more simplyplural

No more tupperbox

No more "alterhuman"

No more "traumagenic"

No more pluralpedia

No more #pluralgang

No more #syspunk or #pluralpunk

No more hazardqueer

Fuck right off.