Placements that downplay their looks out of fear of being perceived
venus-ruled people (taurus or libra rising)
｡♡˚ Being perceived well is a very high priority for these folks, whether they are ready to admit it or not. It's difficult when there's also harsh venus/asc aspects involved because it can make these people hyper-aware of others and how they're showing up in the world. They notice everything -- tone shifts, glances, snarky comments, noises, etc. This hyperawareness makes them want to become people pleasers and not really lean into their own preferences, identity, style, etc.
｡♡˚ When these people dress up, it's intentional and precise, but with a purpose. It's as though they're not willing to give anyone a chance to see them out of their "element" or curated persona, so they plan everything that they wear to stay socially attuned. If they are withdrawn and stop trying, its because they can't stand being evaluated by people.
｡♡˚ I think it's fair to say that venusian ruled people deal with a fair share of judgment, especially surrounding look and presentation. The attention could actually be envied by others -- people assume it's good attention, but I've noticed these people end up feeling really exposed, actually. It can be lonely if people only perceive you one way, and it's the way that isn't even... you. So, sometimes, these people stop "trying" to avoid unwanted attention. I think it's actually wild how frequent these people have "pretty" privilege to the outside world, but that privilege really hasn't gotten them but but feelings of invasion in some way, shape, or form.
moon/venus negatively aspecting asc
｡♡˚ Now it depends on what's being aspected. But for instance, having venus conjunct/square/opposite ascendant might really crave being perceived, or being seen for exactly who they think they are. The problem is that this sometimes doesn't translate irl. These people can "miss the mark" when it comes to how they're being perceived. They might feel intense desires of approval from others, which can lead them to either overcompensate with their looks OR totally withdraw from trying. They could feel like rejection is right around the corner if they try.
｡♡˚ It's a bit different for people with moon conjunct/square/opposite asc because they're afraid of how people will react to them, especially if they show up as their true authentic selves. They can really struggle with self-expression in fear of not being understood, felt, or accepted. Vulnerability is not easy for this placement. They make some really good art though.
Saturn-ruled or Saturn 1H people
｡♡˚ These people tend to really shrink themselves to avoid unwanted criticism from others, and this is because it could feel like they've lived most of their lives under a microscope. It can feel like their every move and motive has been studied, analyzed & judged right out of the womb. They have learned very early on how to avoid the spotlight and not trust attention, so these people could have an attachment to muted colors, nudes, beige aesthetics, etc. They can even find it a challenge to incorporate actual colors into their wardrobes and it's not necessarily because they care about what people think, but because of these early life patterns they learned as children.
Neptune-ruled or neptune in 1H, 7H, 8H, 10H, 11H
｡♡˚ Ugh, these people. The problem is that they want to show themselves off to the world. They are gifted, talented, and beautiful -- the problem is that they are very seldom appreciated when they are completely and entirely themselves around others. People are very physically attracted to them, but these individuals sort of set off a projection of who other people want the neptune person to be in their minds. For instance: if the neptune person is quiet and a little shy or detached, the person might perceive neptune's actions as uninterest, aggression, or even seduction. It can get weird. If these people stop putting effort into their looks it's because of feeling objectified, or like people do not really like them for who they are, but for who people think they are based on their physical appearance or energy. It's not just about looks, though. These people can even gatekeep their real personalities if they feel rejection in this area. Sadly, these folks could think that people may never really like them for who they really are.
Pluto-ruled or pluto in 1H, 3H, 4H, 5H, 8H,12H, pluto square/opposite venus, mars, jupiter or ascendant
｡♡˚ I am including many types of plutonian placements here because the energy is intense, regardless. These poor people were probably rejected as kids, specially when it comes to showing off a talent or interest. These people could feel like others do not really care about what interests them, and so this could make them want to stop trying, or putting themselves out there. Boundary violation is also prominent here too, and this could lead to people wanting to stop putting effort into their presentation due to the level of intense attention they draw in naturally.
