#predatory behaviour

[balkanradfem]

I have another workplace harassment story (or at least an attempt of it). It happened a few months ago, but back then I was so stressed I couldn't even think about it. I can talk about it now!

So there's this older woman I met through work; she's been a friend but also a great contact. She often recommends me to other women, who then hire me for work. I've asked her to only ever mention me to women, and never men, but alas, she's not a feminist, she has sons, she sees no harm in m*n.

She called me up, all excited to tell me about an older m*n who needs me to do some work for him. I was sceptical, explained it's not smart for me to go and be alone with a m*n in a place, but she went on about how he's okay, not problematic at all, he's verified as a good person, no need to worry, his neighbour guarantees for him. I was even more sceptical, but at this point I could tell she's so excited about this, if I refuse to go, I will offend her. She wanted me to just go meet him and discuss it, in a public place, and with a worried heart, I said okay. It turned out meeting was set to be immediately, so I headed over there.

As soon as we met he wanted to show me his home, where I would be working, so we headed over there, to discuss what needs to be done and the pricing of it all. However when we got there, he insisted we have a sit down, drink something. He made jokes about how us young people have poor manners, and the older generation knows how to do business; drinking first. He offered me alcohol, which I refused, and settled to just drink some juice. I was so uncomfortable around him I never took off my coat, I didn't want him to be able to look at me.

He started a conversation about family and I am bored out of my mind. I knew his wife died recently and it worried me how little regard or fondness he was displaying for her, he wasn't grieving her death. He was mildly inconvenienced she was no longer doing shopping for him and complained about how supermarkets would not take a list and collect his items for him. I felt loathing but acted polite. He told me about his brother who lived over at the seaside; I tried to ask a follow-up question to be conversational 'Does he like it over there?' He took this as an opportunity to say 'Yes, a woman comes to him biweekly to do what is natural.'

He looked at my face carefully as he said this, and I immediately looked away, trying to show I'm feeling uncomfortable. I knew he just told me his brother was raping prostituted women. He continued, ignoring my discomfort 'You know what I'm talking about, right?' I was mute, still refusing to look at him. 'It's all natural, right?' he tried to get me to agree with him. I didn't indulge.

I was thinking about how I was in his house, and needed to get out of there. If he wouldn't let me out, I knew there were stairs leading down from his balcony, and I could jump a fence if needed. I hoped it wouldn't get to that. I needed to say whatever would have him believe it's best to let me out now.

'Okay, so we're all set and I can come on Monday, what time exactly?' I turned the conversation back to work, and he smiled and told me the time. I thanked him for the drink, told him we'll see each other on Monday, and turned to the door, which thankfully, he let me go to, and I got out.

I rushed home, disturbed and scared. I was alone with him for 10 minutes and he put prostitution on the table. I wasn't going back there for anything. Now would my female contact believe me this happened? He made sure to mention prostitution so vaguely a third person might not believe this is what he was referencing. I called her.

'I'm going to tell you exactly what happened,' I told my contact on the phone. When I got to the place in the story where he referenced 'what's natural', she jumped to his defense. 'Maybe he was joking!' she tried, and I said 'He looked me in the eyes and asked if I knew what he was talking about. He tried to get me to agree it's natural.'

'Did you know he was a director of a big firm here in the city? He's not like that, he's a honest man!'

I didn't want to waste time explaining to her that directors are more likely to see women as resources always available to them, that they're used to coercing women into anything, holding jobs over their heads. Instead I said: 'Please think about this. With what intentions would he say this to me, when he only knew me for 10 minutes? Why would he put this topic on the table to a person just starting to work for him? Tell me what he wanted to get out of this.'

And she understood. She said 'sorry' and I asked her to let him know, via whatever contact she had with him, that I will not in fact, be appearing on Monday, because I had no desire to ever speak to him again.

She called me later to relay that she told his male neighbour, who was now very upset and needed to yell how his neighbour is a bastard and he'd never have believed it of him. I didn't believe a work of it. I bet they're in it together. I thanked them for believing me, and proceeded to completely avoid that part of the city, so I don't run into that guy again.

I think that guy was testing to see if I would be easy to coerce into prostitution for him. If I had stayed after he brought it up, he would have taken it as a 'yes' and would either trap me in his house during work, or refuse to pay me unless I do whatever he wanted. If I had refused, he could blackmail me, spread rumors about me, make sure nobody else hires me, he could lie about what I did, or didn't do. He's influential and his word would be believed over mine. I'm sure being a director of a big firm gave him plenty of experience to sus out what women were scared of the most, and most easily threatened with. I really only have radical feministm to thank that I clocked this immediately, because had I been still under the delusion of equality and 'not all m*n' rhetoric, I would have been coerced into 'giving him the benefit of the doubt' and 'maybe he didn't mean it that way', and by the time I had it confirmed that he was a predator, it would have been too late. Even him offering me alcohol right off the bat was a red flag.

Anyway real happy I got out of that one, and it was disturbing to discover that you really can't be alone with a male even for 10 minutes without them trying to take advantage. It's even worse if you know that prostitution in croatia is legally punishable – only for women! Prostituted women can get in legal trouble, m*n paying to rape cannot. Really great for women trying to get out, they can be threatened with prosecution if they don't do what m*n want them to. Anyway this place sucks and don't forget to hate all m*n!

[somethingaboutmeisntright]

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If you are active in fandom spaces— Especially Sander Sides or Hazbin Hotel, I encourage you to read this thread for your own safety!!

There is a user you may know as they have been called out before, that goes by the name Roman Calvary System, Calvary or Roman Calvary, they were previously known as The Trojan Horse Collective or The Trojan Horse System but has since separated that identity from themselves as a Sub-System although I doubt the validity of that claim because they have previously admitted It was simply to seperate themselves from their past.

Calvarys previous partner, Atlas, somebody who also came forward about Calvary and their repeated abuse, has also been allegedly exposed for inappropriate and gross behaviours regarding children and also saying the n word as a white person. While I cannot speak much on the situation regarding Atlas due to my lack of knowledge, I can bring forward evidence I have seen regarding the claims.

However, this post will probably focus more on Calvary as I have been involved with the drama regarding them personally and I know more about it.

Calvary has already got themselves a reputation amongst the Sander Sides community for various abusive and disgusting behaviours- Just some of them being inappropriate exchanges with children (As young as fourteen) Telling people to kill themselves, wishing death upon peoples mother, being racist/racially insensitive. I wish that was the end of the list but It sadly is not. Calvary has also been condemned by Thomas himself personally which there is evidence of in a seperate call out post that I will be linking below, along with all the other evidence of their behaviour.

Something I would like to close down before it gets brought up as an excuse is the infamous ‘I’ve changed’ tactic. Calvary recently made a post on their X (formerly known as Twitter) claiming that they have changed as a person and the drama is from when they were fifteen and they have since bettered their behaviour- This is not true. Calvary has not changed and has not bettered themselves at all and the drama is not just old things from when they were fifteen. These incidents are recent and from this year.

One of these instances being Calvary (Or one of their alters, Remus- An alter you will probably see a lot of here as he is the main perpetrator of most inappropriate exchanges regarding children) attempting to SRP with a literal fourteen year old- Instead of doing the logical thing and refusing to SRP with a minor, they pulled the typical ‘If you’re okay with it’ card, and I mean, sure- Maybe an uninformed minor would be okay with it but why are YOU okay with it as the older person? ‘As long as you’re okay with it’ Why are YOU? That is very creepy and gross behaviour and any decent person would have refused to SRP with a minor, people under the AOC.. cannot consent.. It is your responsibility as the older person to have known better and said no. You should not try to SRP with minors and you shouldn’t be okay with it either.

Another instance regarding their Remus would be an instance where another one of their alters blatantly admitted that Remus finds it funny to make inappropriate comments about people and even FUNNIER when it’s a minor- You know what that makes Remus? A predator, finding it funny to walk all over peoples boundaries and even more so when It is a child is absolutely horrific and taking pleasure in making children uncomfortable is not only disgusting but also blatantly predatory.

Remus has also been harassing, threatening, and finding out personal information about a minor because they came forward about Atlas dating them when they were *eleven* and Atlas was fourteen, I am sure we can all agree that that is not okay and that the age gap is obviously a problem, minors can very well hurt other minors and be in appropriate towards other minors, Atlas should not have gotten into a relationship with an eleven year old at fourteen years old, children are capable of taking advantage of other children, I’m not sure if that was the case here but regardless, you should not date an eleven year old at the age of fourteen. You also shouldn’t call black people the n word. You also shouldn’t say sexual things to minors.

I will be attaching screenshots of these instances below and potentially reblogging with more to the story because there is a LOT! If you see these users, please be cautious of them, especially if you are a minor!

[anastasiaskarsgard]

Hey, labeling self centered abusers as narcissists/narcissistic is very harmful for people with npd-a cluster B disorder that’s very stigmatized and often caused by severe childhood trauma and abuse itself, just say self centered or self absorbed.

Mmmmm…. Having a personality disorder is generally negative for all parties involved. Justifying having one by past trauma gives the stigma that if you didn’t have an ideal childhood or went through some crazy traumatic event, that you’re more than likely messed up from it. That’s not always the case. There’s plenty of people with terrible histories that turn into wonderful people that never hurt others ever.

Being diagnosed with any personality disorder is never a good day. They’re all destructive. They all hurt people in different ways and have a hard time maintaining relationships. But nobody is diagnosed with a personality disorder unless they show a long period of time with certain traits and behaviors. This is not an overnight diagnosis.

So if you’re npd, you’re most likely terrible to people but can’t see it. You just care that someone is labeling a person with narcissistic personality traits as bad, because you’re not bad right? You’re different. You’re special. People just don’t understand you right? You don’t use people right? You never gaslight people or discard them im sure. You don’t love bomb, or cheat or manipulate ever im sure. (In case the sarcasm isn’t obvious… it’s there)

These people that are proud of being Psychopath or sociopaths (which in reality are antisocial personality disorder) that want to be viewed in a positive light confuse me as well.

[furiousgoldfish]

I haven’t seen many of DissociaDID video’s on youtube, but a recent predator attack on them had me seething with rage. I will link the video for anyone who’s interested to see what happened, but I have to warn it’s filled with manipulation, predatory behaviour, pressure, grooming, reversals, dismissal, and the worst kind of boundary violation, and the victim is now struggling with court proceedings and trying to save their business which is being taken hostage. Link

There’s a second video from a commentary channel, and all of the manipulation and the abuse is being discussed in the comments, and they have pointed out a lot of it, but I feel we could benefit from dismantling the entire thing and breaking their abusive tactics one by one, to make sure all of the other potential victims could see how bad it is. Here’s a link to the video discussing all of the messages shared between DissociaDID and the predator.

If you can think of anyone who talks to you in this way, insists on a connection after you express discomfort, insists on their ‘innocent’ intentions after they’ve already demonstrated predatory ones, laughs at your concerns, puts their feelings before your boundaries, accuses you of emotional damage while committing way worse damage to you, and generally speaks down to you as if your reactions are wrong because you’re ‘young’ or ‘traumatized’ or ‘overreacting’, know that you are being targeted by a predator, and you have every right to assume the worst intentions and end it. The feelings of this person don’t come before your comfort. Even saying that, I know the biggest problem is the fear you feel in your gut over what they will do to you if you reject them, as shown in the video, they can get insanely dangerous.

It is currently unsafe to be openly traumatized online. If you want me to break this manipulation tactics further apart, or you can break it apart yourself, please write in the comments or replies. If DissociaDID doesn’t win this we better organize a protest. This can not be allowed to happen.

[whoneedssexed]

Therapist Reacts to CORALINE

[intersexelphie]

terfs and their allies: trans people are predators and sexual deviants!

also terfs and their allies: show us your cock!!!

🤨 sexual harrassment much???? fucking creep

The fact they’re doing this to people they supposedly view as women and don’t see how they sound like any other creepy cishet guy when they do that 💀 fucking weirdos

Also, while drag was started by black trans women, it’s quite different now to what it used to be and comparing a trans man transitioning to being a drag king in the modern day is just ridiculous 💀 they are on the internet yet still have no fucking clue what they’re talking about

[ofkilljoysandslytherins]

Not only is he a certified F-boy but Park Jae Eon is excessively creepy yet people adore him thanks to pretty privilege. In fact his attractiveness is almost weaponised against the people (usually woman) he interacts with. Its so easy to blame everyone else but him because he is the master of implying without committing while meeting the bare minimum of human decency (atleast on the surface). It's such predatory behaviour.

[copycatgumi]

I hope that self hating slut terf bitch kills herself. Sorry this is triggering you, Bug. Honestly I don't know much about sex work but drawing seems more demanding and like it takes more hours than most sex work. And the fact you deal with DID? I can't believe that terf is trying to make herself seem like the victim here.

lmao yeah, and like. "wah i was raped" like..... so was i..... i was also traumatized..... and have DID................ you're not the victim you bully/stalker/predator. you're all of those things.