#pro con list

[evilducks-offical]

Why we should rule the world, for your consideration. Ignore the cons. The cons do not exist. We do not know who put them there. This is anti-duck propaganda and you should turn your eyes away from the cons.

:)

[thoughts-of-the-unheard]

im effectively LOSING IT im watching bones season eight which i dont think ive ever actually seen before and bones has a pro and con list of if she should run for president and booth says being a fugitive is a con and she goes “are you saying that you think i would be a bad canidate? because donald trump was thinking of running.” and this was 2012 i-

[arte-muse]

how to turn a girl into a pro-con list

the last time we spoke

you said you didn’t want

to see her anymore and when i asked

why

you started listing off

all of the things you once told me you loved about her.

well 

let me tell you - 

the cheating

the choosing

and all the rest of it,

none of it

scared me half as much as that did.

that you could fall out of love

at all is one thing but the fact that you did it

so quickly, without any notice

leaving her quiet in the bathtub

all knobby knees and

missing you - just as pretty

as ever -

that scared me

most of all.

[flarefloofer]

The Pros and Cons of Wolfcuts

Pros:

Cool

FLUFFY

Dont have to shower for 2 hours

Light and whooshy

very fun in wind

yipee meme

Shake hair out like dog

Nice swoops

dont have to detangle for thirty minutes every morning

very fun to hear the snip snip when getting it done

It just looks nice like what a vibe yknow??

Friends think it looks epic

Personally I think it’s more aesthetic than waist long hair that keeps trying to fight me

Doesn’t matt!!

Got that cool™ hair

Cons:

Can’t have braids

Ponytails are a mess

Why does it feel like I have spiders on my neck gah help

waking up in the middle of the night because GAH SPIDERS

bangs poking my eyes

cant see there’s HAIR

neck hurts while getting it done because you’ve been there for over an hour and she’s still texturing

why is my hair just anti-texture what is this

Adding texture serum but my hair hates me anyway

My mom keeps trying to sneak pictures of my cool™ hair and now my sister is doing it too and I’m not photogenic enough for this

Fighting for the swoops to go in the right direction

After like one night it occurred to me that, yes, it needs to be styled and, no, I cannot just walk around with a bedhead

Grows out way too fast (which is a con because no more wolfcut :c)

[jackpotcomicsno5]

iz mcbc the girlboss or iz jimmy the girlboss

[aplaceforthesoul]

i love my boyfriend but recently i feel like i 'enjoy' my friend's (male) company more and my friend just makes me feel more at ease when im stressed even though he doesnt try and my boyfriend tries hard to help me but he just cant. and the fact he doesnt need to try and succeeds more than my boyfriend is upsetting my boyfriend and makings even worse but i dont want to give up my friendship. am i wrong here? what should i do?

I’m not sure if you’re in the wrong, exactly? but I can understand why your boyfriend’s upset over this ): having an emotional connection in a relationship is so important?! it’s how you connect with each other and understand each other, it allows you to have a more meaningful and deep bond with each other, it creates trust and empathy because you’re allowing yourself to be vulnerable, it matters a lot. so if a relationship is only really about the happy times, and there isn’t much conversation about stress or sadness or more negative emotions? then the relationship can start to feel a little unbalanced or superficial, and not as meaningful. 

it might sound really simple or cliche, but it could be worth writing a pro / con list? take a step back from both your relationship and your friendship for a moment, take some time to really think about what you think, how you feel, what you need in order to be happy. people underestimate pro / con lists, but they shouldn’t! it can be a really good way to untangle thoughts and to give you clarity, you can get some better understanding of how you feel and what you want. 

so make two lists, one for your boyfriend and one for this friend. dedicate the left side to pros – why you want them in your life, good things about them that have a positive impact on your life? and then have the right side about cons – not so great things about them, any negative thoughts or feelings you’ve had about them which have had a lasting impact, things like that. obviously this situation can’t be completely solved by the number of dot-points on the pro list being bigger than the number of cons, I know it’s not always that simple. but it can help to organise thoughts, it can help bring to light things that you maybe weren’t aware of.  

finally? write down any extra thoughts or feelings you have, ask yourself some seriously deep questions, make yourself think. some food for thought: 

why do you think you feel you enjoy your friend’s company more lately over your boyfriend?

what is it that your friend does to make you safe and less stressed, that makes more of a difference than your boyfriend? 

what do you want out of relationships? 

why do you feel that your boyfriend isn’t able to calm you as well as the friend can in stressful situations? are you a very touch-orientated person and need hugs and the human touch to feel calm, and your boyfriend isn’t that way inclined / doesn’t like physical contact? is he just not a very empathetic person?

what qualities does a person need to have in order for you to be happy, content, safe, fulfilled in a relationship with them? 

do you think you’ve maybe changed as a person and don’t have as much in common with your boyfriend now?

writing the pro / con list and writing down thoughts can help you decide what to do next, unfortunately I don’t think I can really help with that decision. if you genuinely love your boyfriend and want to be with him then stay in the relationship! fight for it, show him that you care so much about him, make him a priority in your life when you can. if you feel that you have changed as a person though and that you don’t have as much in common or connect as well with your boyfriend, it might be time to end the relationship. I hope this helps you out friend, all the best <3

- tash

[ask-a-haku]

I-It’s really h-harder than you think it w-would be...

[ @mun-month @askasorrymiku ]

[mmbrown750-blog]

Pros & Cons of User Tagging

Pros: 

Studies show that patrons prefer keyword searches over subject searches. More natural language terms provided by tags (such as “light bulbs” instead of “electric lamp, incandescent”) will improve the user-friendliness of a catalog. 

Tagging has a greater opportunity to be inclusive of marginalized communities. The language used by the Library of Congress can be archaic and, at times, outright offensive (see my post that mentions the term “illegal aliens”). Giving users the power to assign tags to books in the catalog allows for greater diversity in the classification of materials. 

Tags adapt over time in a way that the Library of Congress can’t. Subject authorities in LC move slowly. Tags can be updated at the speed of your Internet connection. 

It creates a sense of community. When patrons are able to participate in the creation of the catalog, and are actively involved in the library’s website, strong communities can be formed centering around the library.

Cons

It can be hard to standardize.  For example, some patrons might use the tag “LGBT” where another would use “LGBTQ.” 

There may be typos, redundancies, and overly personal tags (”to-read,” or “library book”). 

A librarian (or librarians) would still need to check for trolls (although some tools, like BiblioCommons, have already taken that into account). 

For more detailed pros (and some mention of the cons), check out my posts on LGBTQ materials, We Need Diverse Books, epistolary fiction, and unreliable narrators.