#questioning polyam

[withered--s0uls]

Hi uh polyam tumblr I have a question...

Confessing in general is scary af already. But how tf do I confess to TWO people,,, bc like,,

That sounds scary af sobs

[questioning-culture-is]

Hey so I'm freaking out a bit because I thought I knew my entire identity then I think it got more complex! So I'm a pansexual girlflux person and I realized I might be polyamorous but I don't really mind the thought of a monogamous relationship either? Like to be it wouldn't matter if I were in a polyamorous relationship or a monogamous? I'm fine with both I don't understand??? Send help.

Hey anon, check out ambiamorous!!! it's basically exactly what you described here!!

@ambiamorous-culture-is

-toni

[raavenb2619]

Can i be polyam, aro, and demisexual?

Yep! 

It’s fairly uncontroversial that someone can be both aromantic and demisexual. Perhaps a little more confusing is being demisexual and polyamorous, but there’s nothing about being demisexual that means that you can’t be polyamorous and demisexual polyam people definitely exist. 

Some people are confused by the idea of someone being both aromantic and polyamorous, but it makes sense to me that they’re compatible. Some aros are interested in queerplatonic relationships, and there’s nothing about a queerplatonic relationship that says it has to involve exactly two people. Also, some aros like having sex, and of those aros, some of them are interested in having multiple informed and consenting partners. You can take either of those ideas of how an aro could by polyam and add demisexuality into the mix and it still makes sense, so there isn’t any reason someone couldn’t be polyam, aro, and demisexual. 

[questioning-culture-is]

questioning culture is wondering whether you’re aromantic, quoiromantic, polyamorous, or multiple of those because you don’t understand jealousy and can’t differentiate between multiple types of attraction

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[questioning-culture-is]

hi :)) i am a girl and i have a girlfriend, but i recently met a boy (it was in september, when i went to a new school) and i often think about hugging him when im around him, not specifically sexual things, but it has come to my attention that i may be attracted to him in a romantic sense, since i have also thought that it would be nice to be in a relationship with him and i really like his company.

so what's stressing me is that my gf and i are in a distance relationship (she doesn't live far away, we just don't have much occasions to meet so we mostly chat and sometimes facetime) so i don't get to se her often.

this may sound dumb but because of this i can't really "test" if i am attracted to her. but i still think about kissing her and i do feel like i love her.

does this mean im polyamorous since my feeling for my gf and the boy is really similar? because im almost always stressing about lying to myself and what if im kinda cheating on her rn? how do i know if im polyamorous?? please help if you can :((

ok so first off, attraction isn't cheating. Attraction is not something you can control, it is not your choice and it is (most likely) not breaking the contract you have with your girlfriend. For the question on whether you're polyam I would like to direct you to @polyamorouscultureis @polyam-culture-is and @ambiamorous-culture-is

hope that helps!!

-toni

[questioning-culture-is]

Not really a culture thing, but do you know anything about polyamory? What it feels like to be polyamorous? I'm sorry, but I've just been questioning for a while.

check out @polyamorouscultureis!!! They have an FAQ linked and will be able to help you much better than me!!!