This is so true. My mother's smear campaign against me, starting after my dad died, was a whole 'nother layer of trauma. I started noticing things about her and the golden child and I wasn't quiet about it, which led to me becoming the new family scapegoat. Reposted from @carolinestrawson Smear campaigns⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Narcissist smear campaigns are one of the most difficult things to deal with after leaving narcissistic abuse.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Once the narcissist knows you know what they are truly like, they need to denigrate you and your reputation so that they can still maintain their sense of importance,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What makes it even worse is when they are enabled by their flying monkeys and you get abuse by proxy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ A narcissist has a deep in a wound, a childhood trauma, that leaves them with such a deep sense of shame.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If that pain threatens to come to the surface it will completely overwhelm them. If they think you will tell anyone about who they truly are, they need to get in first to counteract that!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It will deny their entire existence with this persona they have created to hide that wounded child inside.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you start to break away from that narcissistic person and it’s clear they’re losing control of you, they fear you can see them for who they are.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Then once they know, you know, be prepared.... This is why it is so important to heal your own inner wounds so others saying untruths about you doesn’t cause complete dysregulation for you highlighting any old feelings of your own lack of worth.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Heal this, and smear campaigns hold no power 🦋⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #narcissistfree #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissistic #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissists #emdrtherapy #emdr #rtt #rapidtransformationaltherapy #codependency #gaslighting #cognitivedissonance #psychologicalabuse #ptsd #ptsdsurvivor #cptsdrecovery #complexptsd #traumahealing #divorcerecovery #ptsdawareness #positivepsychology #gaslighting https://www.instagram.com/p/CI1yg6VDcLB/?igshid=1it60b307t092
