#relationship breakup

[shrimpymoonnoodles]

get out of that codependent relationship girl. Jam to that musical soundtrack you love

It's really easy to get hung up on someone and the pain they've caused, but then I realize that even when I was in their life they didn't spend a second thinking about me, let alone the time I've let them consume my energy and happiness. Sometimes I think if they saw how much they hurt me then maybe they'd care, but they never did, so why should I?

Don't let the toxic people in your life continue to control you even once you've cut them off. Their opinions are worth as much as the time they spent caring for you, none at all. But you see them everywhere, right? You're still waiting for that next text, wondering how they're doing, are they okay? You miss them. You think of them when you wear that t-shirt they liked, when you listen to that song they liked, when you watch that show they talked about constantly, when you go that place you used to share, how do you even get over this? Should you just stop enjoying the things that make you think of them? Stop listening to that song, stop watching that show, revamp your closet, find a new favourite place, because it hurts so goddamn bad. It's okay to put up boundaries, to take a break from some things, but Y'know what? to hell with what they would think, to what they liked, and to what you shared.

Listen to that song, blast it in your car, learn all the lyrics if you want, dance the fucking night away.

Watch that show, laugh your fucking ass off, cry about the character deaths or literally the smallest scenes, draw fanart and ramble away.

Wear that outfit, you loved it first, (and even if they got it for you, what matters is what YOU think of it.) Do you feel fine asf? Then you are, screw how they feel about it.

If you still enjoy the activities they did too, keep enjoying them, if not for anything else, have fun as fuck just to spite them.

One of the people in my life who got me into the Hellaverse soundtrack hurt me like, well, hell. I considered no longer listening to it because every time I hear fucking Blake Roman I think of them. But you know what? I listen to it constantly. I vented by singing All 2 U and 2 Minutes Notice with friends, I applied songs to my ocs and discussed with other friends what their favourite songs were, I annoyed tf out of my brother by incessantly getting Cotton Candy stuck in his head, I got excited with my friend about her favourite actor and marveled and laughed over his different character portrayals, I loop the hazbin soundtrack while doing dishes, drawing, writing, or literally just for fun. Why? Because I enjoy it! I love so many of the songs, whether because they resonate with me, they make me think of characters I love, or because they're just fun to listen to, the reason really doesn't matter. What's important is that I'm enjoying something FOR ME, and what THEY think about it DOESN'T MATTER. I don't exist for them.

And do I still think about them constantly? Yeah. Does it still hurt asf? Yes. Am I over them? To be honest, hell no. But I'll get there. And it starts by taking control back

[lauralikegirls]

Dear October,

it’s been exactly two weeks and i still can’t get you out of my head. i don’t even know how to explain it… and the worst part is that it feels wrong. like, i shouldn’t be thinking about you this much. for all i know, you could be talking to another girl right now, going out with someone, living your life like i never existed. and still—you’re always there, somewhere in my mind. and sometimes i don’t know what to do with that.

this morning, on my way to school, i saw a girl who looked like you. even though you don’t even live in the same city, for a second i let myself believe it was you. it wasn’t. but still, just seeing someone who looked like you gave me this quiet shock i wasn’t ready for.

today i decided to wear the bracelet you gave me. at first, i kept it in my pocket, like i always used to. i think i went so long without wearing it that i forgot what it felt like to have it with me. it feels like a protection charm somehow… like a small piece of you i can carry around. i almost cried when i put it on—i’m not even gonna lie. my eyes filled with tears, but i held it in because i was at school.

but when i got home, my dog jumped on me and broke it. the bracelet just… snapped. i still have some of the beads, and i’m going to keep them. but it hurt more than i expected to see it fall apart like that.

i think about you all the time. there are little things throughout my day that remind me of you. songs i can’t listen to anymore because they bring you back. places where i swear i can still feel you. i haven’t gone back to that mall where we first met—and i don’t think i ever will.

i keep wondering how everything ended so fast.

you’ll probably never read this. you don’t even speak english. and maybe you’ve already forgotten about me… maybe you’re with someone else right now. and still, every single day, i catch myself writing letters to you that i’ll never send. i just write them because it’s the only way i can get you out of my head.

maybe one day, i’ll be your favorite writer.

but just so you know—i was born into a world where you didn’t exist, october. and you were born into a world where i already did. we were even born on the same day.

so maybe someday, we’ll meet again. and maybe we’ll look back at everything that happened between us—all the confusion, all the feelings—and somehow, we’ll laugh.

[jamieannmason]

I came across this song and band on my for you page on Instagram

After listening, I was instantly hooked. I love this song, I am literally burning this track out listening to it over and over again!🍻🔥

[lunarrmoonss]

I don’t think you understand how much you meant to me. I never thought there would come a day where I couldn't text you and tell you about the funny thing that just happened. or call you because I missed you. you don't understand how you were so intertwined into my soul. I miss you so much.

[yikesforever]

When does the hurt stop

[peakygroupie]

So I've not been around as much as normal, liking things here & there but not commenting. Had some RL stuff going on which has required all my energy & resources not to break. Hopefully I'm gonna come out the other side stronger & happier 🤞

[rain-dro0ps]

Unrelated post compared to the usual.

It has been a week since my boyfriend asked for space after us having a big fight. During those times, I kept on messaging him asking him if he wants to talk about it already. He would then reply with “you should be resting / we need more time / use this time to think about things / go spend more time with your family and friends because you need them more / we need to rest because a lot of toxic things have happened.”

I then waited for a week to pass by before messaging him once again. I told him that we should talk about it already because it has already been a week since the space begun (this has been by far the longest space we’ve had), and that I’m ready to hear whatever he has to say to me. He replied “You should wait. Don’t hasten things up since you still don’t know what I’ll be saying to you. Respect the space I asked from you, use this time to think. If you keep this up, don’t blame me when I block you from all of my social media accounts. I won’t even try to entertain you if you plan on coming here at my place just to talk to me. We need this space, and if you can’t do that then let’s stop already.”

Now, I’m not going to make any more attempts to “chase” him just for us to communicate. I’ll let him have this space. I’m worried that I made things worse instead of letting him have his space. I consulted with my friends and they said that he’s going to break up with me after this space, especially that he refuses all of my attempt to communicate with him. Although, one of his close friends told me that he’s not the type to ghost people, and that he still has high respect for women, And I have been overthinking that he’s planning on calling it quits after this space.

Should I be worried? Is he planning on ending our relationship? Did I make matters worse? I love him so much and I want to fix our relationship so bad, I want to make things work. There’s still a chance if we just talk about it, if we just compromise with one another.

[kateandnick4ever]

I hope so!