Low-key feeling like the asshole regarding my roommates.
One of them is technically moved in already, but because it's over a week early the landlady is asking if he can pay for that week. Tbf, he's going on a vacation or something today and won't be back until end of the month. But he's still been there past the 3 day no pay guest period. After 3 days, it's considered an extended guest stay and so there's a small fee.
My other roommate views this as a non-issue, their words, and doesn't see why he should pay. I just cited the clause in the lease and in the group chat they've kinda begun to pull away. I told the new one he should consult this matter with the landlady and that none of us should be speaking about any other's lease with the landlady. We have individual leases and are only responsible for ourselves.
I do think it's worth noting a few things: 1) until I feel like there's a reason to care, I don't care about someone else's agreement and tenure with us. Basically honor the lease, pay your share, don't start shit there won't be shit. 2) sweet as they are, I do feel that my longest roommate is something of a busybody. It comes from a good place and i love them for that, but sometimes it feels like they don't know when to pull away and let others solve their own matters.
I have caught flak in the past from them and others in the friend group for seemingly not caring or not caring enough about an issue. I'm just someone who remains neutral if I don't have all the information or any stakes in the matter.
I don't think I'm being the asshole, just being the voice of reason and trying not to do anything that jeapordizes anyone's stay or violates any of our leases. Trying to protect us and the landlady, like she's really fair and has had some godawful tenants that have left her traumatized. And this is her business. She doesn't have to be nearly as lenient as she is.
Edit: i do feel it's worth mentioning, my longest roommate tends to defer to me as "head roommate" and pull me into things regarding other roommate's matters. Something that I have mentioned I don't like and asked that it not be done. I have expressed that I do not want to be a resource in discussion about someone staying, I have and will continue to emphasize that any matters related to tenancy should be discussed with the landlady. I will tag along as moral support or to mediate, but I will not speak on anyone's behalf regarding any matter.
