Jes, really need your thoughts re: some other people's headcanons about Ilya/Sasha that the reason ilya is so good about consent now (with Shane and/or in general) is bc of his previous traumatic expirience with Sasha being too pushy and not really caring abt Ilya's comfort and so on (with Ilya probably bottoming first)
we all get to headcanon things however we want and I’ll bravely die on that hill even when I disagree with other people’s headcanons lol. and this is one I personally don’t agree with! I for sure headcanon them having a kind of messed-up dynamic but in my head the situation is much more like, what you’d expect to get when you smash together two rich boys who both have insaneee daddy issues & a barely repressed desire to blow up their own lives via risky sexual behavior. I bet the sex was hot and the danger really DID get ilya going because if you feel numb 24/7 on account of how much you hate your home life and how much you’re drowning in grief no one else acknowledges then the super reckless, potentially career-ending risks you take are probably the only things that really break through. ilya can self-harm through sex just fine without needing sasha to also be an abusive boyfriend! I assume they were both careless with each other in the way that you might expect damaged teenage boys who were growing up in an emotionally repressed culture to be… and I doubt that either of them thought even for a second that This Might Be Love. but no I think ilya is a good and considerate sexual partner with shane because he’s a good and considerate person and also because he knows shane isn’t sexually experienced. and he didn’t do that with sasha because 1) sasha was sexually experienced and 2) sasha didn’t like it sweet.
