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DDR Revolution 3rdMIX

[queerunbound]

National Coming Out Day: "Letting In"

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Coming out can feel like a burden sometimes. 

Choosing who to tell, how to tell them, whether it's safe or not. It's exhausting, and it starts to feel like work or labor…all the uncertainty. 

That's why I like the term ‘letting in’ instead of coming out. It sort of flips the script. Coming out, to me, feels like you have to push yourself out into the world and decide whether you're ready to come out to a specific person (or everyone all at once!) and whether they're ready to receive what you have to say.

Letting in, to me, is like deciding who I'm okay with getting to see this vulnerable side of myself, with this part of myself that I might still be exploring or not totally sure about. 

It might feel like a distinction without a difference to some people. If you still want to use the term coming out or if you prefer letting in; 

or maybe for some people you're talking about coming out to, 

and other people you're letting them in to see the vulnerable side of yourself…

…you don't owe disclosure to anyone. 

That's what letting in tells me. I have the ownership over my story. I get to curate my truth, my identity, and who sees me for who I really am in my full queer self. So, if coming out feels heavy today, maybe try thinking of it as letting in.

[everythingaboutbiotech]

Summary of Atomic Habits by James Clear. This book examines the psychology and science behind how habits form and provides practical strategies to build good habits and break bad ones.

➰The Habit Loop

Habits form through a simple loop - cue, craving, response, reward. Identifying these components allows us to reshape habits.

◾◼️⬛The Compounding Power of Small Changes

Atomic habits are tiny changes that accumulate into remarkable results, like compound interest. Focus on small improvements consistently.

💠Making Habits Obvious

Create visual reminders and cues. Make good habits visible and bad habits invisible. Harness habit stacking and temptation bundling.

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📈Increasing Desire and Frequency

Make habits attractive. Add satisfaction and enjoyment to the habit routine. Leverage our natural cravings and sense of identity.

🔕Shaping Your Environment

Design your environment and context to make good habits easy and bad habits difficult. Control cues, remove triggers.

📐Measuring Habits

Tracking habits creates awareness that leads to improvement. Monitor progress, but focus on consistency over perfection.

⌛Maintaining Habits Long-Term

Habit change is a slow process of small tweaks iterated over time. Make tiny changes and build momentum. Don't quit at the first sign of struggle.

🤝The Role of Community

Surround yourself with people who have positive habits. Leverage accountability partners. Make habit change social.

😇Skill vs. Habit

Focus on building diligent habits over talent. Maintain high standards and emotional commitment to fuel motivation.

💯Avoiding Extremes

Allow for flexibility and balance in habits. Habits support but don't fully define your identity. Moderation helps habits last.

[luciaestelle]

Mid September affirmations

Everywhere I go, people are drawn to me

Opportunities and favour find me with ease

I am abundant

I am at peace and happy and proud of myself

I am filled with love and joy

Money comes to me easily

[ruanghatimanusia]

Your Perspective is Your Happiness

Sibuknya orang bekerja adalah idaman para pengangguran.

Luangnya waktu orang yang menganggur (unemployed) adalah idaman orang yang sibuk bekerja.

Jabatan tinggi mungkin idaman seorang "bawahan". Padahal, terkadang orang dengan jabatan tinggi pun 'lelah' dengan jabatannya karena terlalu banyak tekanan hingga akhirnya pun resign.

Kulit putih mungkin idaman orang berkulit coklat, padahal kulit coklat sawo matang adalah idaman orang berkulit putih.

Tubuh yang langsing adalah idaman orang gemuk, sebaliknya tubuh yang berisi adalah idaman orang yang kurus meski keduanya pun sama-sama berjuang keras untuk mendapatkan tubuh yang diinginkan.

Memang, ketika sudah memiliki sesuatu hal, seringkali lupa untuk mensyukuri yang telah dimiliki.

Rumput tetangga memang selalu tampak hijau hingga tak menyadari bahwa di depan mata tumbuh bunga yang bermekaran dengan indah.

Pada dasarnya, kebahagiaan hanya soal perspektif. Tanpa sadar, kebahagiaanmu diukur dan dipengaruhi oleh pikiranmu, ekspektasimu, opini orang lain, atau bahkan sudut pandang diri sendiri maupun orang lain.

Padahal, kita dapat menemukan kebahagiaan yang tersembunyi, jika mampu melihat dari berbagai perspektif. Ya, besarnya masalah tergantung pada sudut pandang orang yang melihatnya..

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"If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased."- Katharine Hepburn

[yestantra]

Romance yourself. 🌹 Love yourself. 🥰You are your LONGEST lasting relationship ...

from Your FIRST breath to your LAST.⏳

You can’t pour from an empty cup. 🎯

So fill yourself with love. ❤️

I share the tools I used to heal from heartbreak & begin attracting healthy relationships in my self-love ebook “12 Days to Self-Love”. 🥰

It is filled with self-love tips & practices. It is also an Intro to Tantra. 💖

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Self-love — Yes Tantra

Self-love — Yes Tantra

Here are some of the topics that I dive into!

* What is Self-Love?

* Affirmations, mantras and self-talk

* Handling negative emotions like a boss

* Dumping diet culture

* Breathwork techniques

* Cultivating playfulness

* Connecting to your higher self

* Attracting love and romance

* Attracting money and abundance

* How to date yourself

* Accepting (and loving!) your body

* Saying NO to what doesn’t serve you

Get ready to fall in love like never before….

...With the person you’ve dreamed about…

...and waited for…

Love,

Dominique

[ruminationsandbrainbugs]

I don't like who I am That's ok All that means is that I know who I can be And that's a vision I intend to follow

A Signpost That Doubles as a Mirror