#sexualising

[myfandomrealitea]

"Sexism in video games isn't a thing anymore!"

My brother in christ Kuro Games removed a male character's pant zipper because male players complained that their female players were having fun sexualising it and making jokes but refused to change the jiggle physics on a female character's tits which literally flop around and wobble when she's standing still breathing despite multiple complaints from female gamers.

[fookingavacadoss]

petition to cancel how*rd stern’s interview with harry after sexualising not only him but dragging his family in between in the last interview.

the worst thing (except the stunts) harry’s team has ever done is this interview.

[mcrwall]

[comeinwiththerain-22]

Thought I’d try out reddit but after a quick search of Taylor Swift over half of the results are either men blasting ‘The Man’ or posts sexualising her and other female artists... and apparently, these posts don’t seem to go against their guidelines

[itsjustlyle]

Do you know me? Really know me? You have opinions About my opinions About my music About my clothes About my body Some people hate what I wear Some people praise it Some people use it to shame others Some people use it to shame me But I feel you watching Always And nothing I do goes unseen So while I feel your stares Your disapproval Or your sighs of relief If I lived my them I’d never be able to move Would you like me to be smaller? Weaker? Softer? Taller? Would you like me to be quiet? Do my shoulders provoke you? Does my chest? Am I my stomach? My hips? The body I was born with Is it not what you wanted? If I wear what is comfortable I’m not a woman If I shed the layers I’m a slut Though you’ve never seen my body You still judge it And judge me for it Why? We make assumptions about people Based on their size We decide who they are What they’re worth If I wear more If I wear less Who decides what that makes me? What that means? Is my value based only on your perception? Or is your opinion of me NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY

Billie Eilish

[i-am-and-proud]

So, here’s my problem. At the moment, I’m reading Atonement by Ian McEwan. A classic, some would say. And so far, I think they might be right: wonderful writing, good build-up of the story and interesting characters.

But.

I’m seventy pages in and already I have issues with the way he describes the relationship between men and women. Not in the superior/inferior way, but in the sensual/objectifying way.

One of the characters, Cecilia, undresses herself to her underwear - for entirely non-sexual purposes - in the vicinity of Robbie, a young man of around her age. They’ve known each other since their youth. After this incident, Robbie is lying naked on his bed, thinking about it. His thoughts are that before, he had thought she was horse-like, but now, he sees her beauty.

Next, he ponders why Cecilia could have been angry at him, and he thinks that her anger may have been used to guise her ‘unconscious desire’ for him, and that she had wanted to show him her beauty and ‘bind him to her’.

Now, these quotes may seem innocuous enough, but they are at the root of a bigger problem in our society, namely, as I said before, the objectifying and sexualising of non-sexual actions of women. These few thoughts of Robbie show some kind of belittling view on women, it describes women as seductive vixens that want nothing more than a man lusting after them.

And sure, these are the thoughts of a young man in a book, these are the thoughts of a character. But that’s a distinction that is difficult to make. When reading the book as a book and not looking at it critically enough, one might start to think that these reasoning are normal.

Sure, you could say that I’m overreacting, and that I’m reading too much into it, but it’s a reoccuring irritation of mine: most often, these scenes of young men pondering the underlying viciousness of women, are written by men, and lately I don’t feel right reading them anymore. It’s starting to bother me, the unthinking negative portrayal of women in men’s literature.

And the greatest problem of it all, is that no man seems to understand the wrongness of it, and people (mostly women) trying to address it to the public, are being laughed and scoffed at.

[mental-health-advice]

when I was younger, probably like 9-11 years old, my dad would like poke/squeeze my boobs that were just starting to come in cause puberty and he was saying that when I was 13 he couldn’t do it anymore because I’d be too old and he did the same with my butt, I hated it but I didn’t do anything about it. Now I’m 14, and I have 2 friends that I hang out with. One of them her like the personality and the other, he says her butts big but I’m not supposed to tell her that tho.i don’t want to lose her

Hey lovely,

I’m sorry to hear that your dad has done that. I can imagine it made you really uncomfortable and that you hated it! But when you’re at that age, it can be really hard to stand up against these kind of things. You don’t really have any reference material so you don’t know whether it’s supposed to be normal or not, so you let it happen even if it makes you uncomfortable. Now that you’re older you realise that regardless of whether it’s normal or not, if it makes you uncomfortable you’re allowed to stand up for yourself! 

Do you think you can tell your dad that you don’t like it when he criticises your friend? His criticism is very superficial and what matters in a friendship is how much fun you can have together. What she looks like is so unimportant. Friendship is based on so much more than looks, often everything but looks. Is this something you can try to explain to your dad and? If you’re able to explain why it bothers you, he might stop doing so. It can very well be the case that he simply has no idea this is bothering you but that he definitely doesn’t want his comments to upset you so that he’ll stop right away when you tell him. 

How is your relationship with your dad in general? You mention two aspects that don’t seem to be great, but I’m curious as to whether overall you do have a good relationship with him or if there’s more underlying issues there. I think that if you do have a good relationship then it’d be worth considering to not only tell him about his upsetting comments about your friend, but also about that you didn’t like it when he poked you when you were younger. If your relationship isn’t as good, then it’s still something you might want to consider but I can understand if you don’t feel comfortable opening up to him about.

I don’t know if there’s another parent or guardian in the picture, but maybe it’s something you can talk to them about as well? It can help a lot to have someone by your side, whom you can talk to whenever anything happens that makes you uncomfortable. Your comfort is what matters most here! I hope this helped at least a little bit. Remember you’re allowed to stand up for yourself! <3 

Sometimes what seems impossible, is just hard.Love Pauline

[el-i-x3-blog]

"Stop Sexualising Women."

As you do, I was just casually scrolling through Instagram (self promo @x_lkj_x ) and then I first came upon this post, my first instinct was "Wow, okay - this is a really good thing to stand for." My second thought process, however was

This is what I commented on the post. This was my secondary thought process. The post had a variety of comments I believe it was over 2k comments or something, but nevertheless some people were commenting things like

"What an idiot"

"Cover up"

And so on and so forth, but I couldn't help think that people don't quite get it. I believe, from my own interpretation that she was walking around like this to show breasts shouldn't be seen as a sexual idea. But then, to contradict things - people were commenting things like

"It is a natural thing to be attracted to this. It isn't sexualising."

Okay, fair enough. But over the years, certain things (eg. Breasts) have turned into something more sexual rather than natural. You wouldn't say a leaf is sexy would you? No, because it's a leaf. A natural thing. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing bad about calling a woman or a man sexy, it's a compliment not a derogatory term.

But back to the point, this woman who did this, did it to represent that the human anatomy is completely natural not something that should be indifferent or sexualised.

Being attracted to a women doesn't mean that it is an opportunity to 'go at it' the same with men, both genders are sexualised to a certain degree. At the end of the day, men and women are alike and at some point in everybody's life they will be sexualised weather they know it or not.