#sibling abuse

[recoverynerdheals]

They won't say it out loud but in a dysfunctional family, the one who chooses to heal becomes the threat.

Not because you're wrong but because your truth makes them uncomfortable.

The moment you stop shrinking to keep the peace, set boundaries, or say "This isn't okay with me anymore," you'll be called dramatic. Selfish. Too sensitive.

But listen: You're not the problem for wanting peace.

You're not too much for choosing healing over silence. You're not breaking the family-you're breaking the cycle.

They'll shame you because your growth reveals their wounds. Keep going.

Your voice might rattle the room, but it's also the reason future generations will finally breathe easier.

You are the cycle breaker. And that is something to be proud of.

[ilkyute]

Cyclamen : an awareness flag for those who are survivors of sibling abuse, this flag is for survivors of any kind of abuse; be it incest, cocsa, physical abuse, etc.

Tagging @radiomogai @goatgai.

[art-and-politics]

When they talk about older sibling guilt but I was 12 years old wondering what I'd done that my sister hates me so much

[this-is-parental-abuse]

I absolutely support victims of parental abuse speaking out, and we absolutely deserve need to talk a lot about parental abuse. But I would like to remind people that sibling abuse often ties into parental abuse. Sibling abuse barely ever gets spoken about as it is already, and it can absolutely happen on its own without the parents knowing. But most of the time, the parents know, and they let it happen. Whether it be because they themselves are just as abusive and think the siblings' actions are correct, because they're too weak to properly reprimand/get help for the sibling, the parents favour one child over the others, or they too are genuinely scared of their own kid.

Obviously, no parent wants their child to be a bad person who causes harm, and being faced with the reality one of your kids has abused the other is absolutely a harrowing ams difficult experience. But it's your duty as the parent to stop that behaviour. Weather that be by separating the siblings, getting mental health services involved, gods forbid but law enforcement involved, having one sibling stay at another family member/friends house, etc. Whatever the methord that works for you, it is your DUTY as a parent to step in when one of your kids is abusing the other. If you don't, you are complacent and letting the abuse continue.

Sibling abuse is barely talked about, but it's devastatingly real, and more often than not, the parents are involved directly or know of it and don't do anything about it.

This has been a PSA from a victim who was abused by their mother AND sister.

This is very true.

Sibling abuse is serious and it is a parent’s responsibility to prevent and address it.

[undead-barbie]

Okay but can we as a society PLEASE talk about how normalized it is for older siblings to hate and abuse their younger siblings, ESPECIALLY younger sisters? It especially hurts because for most younger siblings, your big sibling was like your idol as a child, your first friend and someone you looked up to. It definitely doesn't help that literal trauma and physical/emotional abuse is almost always just passed off as "sibling rivalry" like no i don't think trying to defend myself against a physical attack and having my only weapon of self defense ripped out of my hands and used against me is sibling rivalry. If a parent did that, cps would be called. If a partner did that, it would be domestic violence. But when your brother does that? Suck it up, you have 10 minutes left to get ready for the homecoming dance (Anecdotal example, btw). Not to mention everyone will tell you after that to just make up with your sibling. It's okay, siblings fight! You're not just going to stop talking to them, that's your sibling! Except if it was anyone else who'd done it, you'd be congratulating me for standing up for myself and escaping an abusive household.

TL:DR can we please just stop fucking normalizing sibling abuse. It's not cute childish rivalry. It's abuse. Plain and simple.

[seapotty]

Brotherly Love

[misspiggy]

need to talk to people with terrible sibling relationships, people that cannot relate to their siblings & if they weren’t related would never interact with them😐

[ancientpersacom]

I wish fandoms weren't so gross about twins.

It's not wrong to say twins tend to have particularly close relationships, they're literally born on the same day and are going through all their developmental milestones at the same time. For their early childhood, they are together pretty much 24/7 since you can't just leave a baby/toddler unsupervised to tend to the other one. So yeah, twins tend to have a uniqley close relationship. Actually theres some very intretsing studies about the psycology of twins and how they are raised and socalised comapred to other siblings that would be very intresting to explore through fanfics and such about a set of twin characters. But for some fuckass reason, creeps just INSIST on reading the relationship as romantic.

Hey, guess what? hugging your twin is not romantic, it's familial. Sharing a bed on holiday with your twin is not romantic, it's familial. Holding hands with your twin is not romantic, it's familial. Even kisses on the cheek, which is very normal amongst family in many cultures, is not romantic, it's familial. Affcetion amongst family is so normal (given said family isn't a toxic one), and when it comes to the unique closeness a lot of twins have, it's even more normal. OF COURSE the people who spent all their major childhood developmental years together, going through the same things at the same time, are going to be close. And it's just fucking disgusting how so many fandom spaces just cannot fathom familial bonds as just that. Familial. That they can't simply enjoy twins as twins, explore their unique family dynamic as twins without bringing incest into it.

The sexualiastion of twins is just so fucking gross. Seeing them as nothing just these clones of each other to have kinky threesomes with is fucking disgusting. Not just because of the incest part, but because it completley strips them of their individuality. Both twins, even identical ones, are an individual person. They may be uniqley close yes, but they are INDIVIDUAL people, not just clones of each other. And their sibling relationship should not ever be the subject of some freaks insestuous fantasy.

Twin on twin abuse does happen, twins can be in toxic co-depentant dynamics, these abusive situations DO occour. And they DO deserve to be talked about in factual and accurate ways, victims of twin on twin abuse deserve to have their stories heard and validated WITHOUT some freak jacking off to it. Twins desrve to see themselves in fiction without freaks shipping the characters that reflect their real relationships.

I'm not a twin, just the oldest sibling. And gods, the thought of people getting off to older-younger siblings is so fucking vile to me as it is, I can't imagine being a twin and seeing so much disgusting fetishy content around twin characters. I'd feel so voilated. I've been writing a book series for years now, and have a set of twin characters. And I've been doing literally everything in my power to make their relationship both accurate to a set of twins that went through something traumatic together and how it's affected them, without giving twincest fuckers anything to even remotley jack off too. Unfortunatly, given how fandoms treat twin characters already, I think they'd just do it anyway even if the twins hated eachother. And it's just so sad and gross.

TLDR: people are really fucking gross about twins and it's fucking sickening.