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[the-sides-dimension]

I think a drag queen system host would be serving front

[making-gender]

"contradictory" labels that don't contradict any definitions, within exclus parameters.

(this doesn't mean I don't support contradictory labels that don't fit these! It's just pointing out hypocrisy from anti-contradictory labels folks)

Bi lesbian: if a lesbian is a woman or non-binary person that loves women and non-binary people, that usually means they like genders the same and different from their own. Bisexual doesn't automatically mean someone likes every gender, just at least one gender like and unlike your own. (This is still the same for the 2 gender definition)

Ex, a woman who is attracted to women and non-binary people falls under both bi and lesbian by definition.

This goes the same for bigays, mspec lesbians, and mspec gays

Lesboy & turigirl: not all women are non-men and not all men are non-women. Multigender and genderfluid people do not need to put themselves into one box to accurately label their sexuality.

Panlesbian & pangay: abrosexuals are cool and the split attraction model is not just for aspec attractions.

BiPan: see above + pansexuals fall under the definition of bisexual, many just choose to use 1 or the other. These people just use both.

Gaybian: a nblnb relationship fits both the definition criteria for gay and lesbian.

Again, these arent the only forms of these labels I support. I just want someone to stop for a second and ask themselves why they hate these. "That's not the definition!" Cannot be the answer. Stop bothering strangers because you don't personally understand their sexuality.

[the-sides-dimension]

Friendly reminder that declaring your blog a "safe space for systems of all origins" makes your blog explicitly not safe for trauma survivors. Allow sheep and wolves, and you'll only end up with wolves.

[the-sides-dimension]

Me: trauma wasn't even that bad maybe I've been lying to myself this whole time

Little casually dropping horrible things that happened to us as a child in conversation with my boyfriend:

[the-sides-dimension]

Next person we see who says "actually it's healthier to all have the same name and not act like different people and anything else is anti recovery" is getting it

Yes, it's healthier to be one person. Unfortunately we have a complex dissociative disorder.

(Note: if that works for you, that's fine. But to act like anyone who isn't as far along on or on the same recovery path as you is wrong is idiotic and occasionally privileged)

[the-sides-dimension]

I've got a curiosity . Do not participate if you are a non CDD "system"

is it rude/ableist to say you have DID when you actually have a different CDD for simplicity's sake

no, it's fine

yes, it's rude/ableist

nuance, lmk in replies

Voting ended onMar 8

In this case I specifically mean when trying to explain to non-systems

[the-sides-dimension]

Person: narcissistic abuse isnt real!! Mental disorders aren't inherently abusive!

Same person: All paraphiles deserve to be beaten to death!! DNI even if you're non-contact!!