Most of us understand the foolishness of trying to compare ourselves to others. We would readily admit that no good ever comes from it.
Yet, whether we are comparing our home size, paycheck, physical features, or any number of measurable (and even un-measurable) things, we do it all the time.
How can we stop comparing ourselves to others?
We often compare the wrong things.
With the more influence of social media it has become common to compare externals and measure ourselves with the others on the basis of clothes, cars, homes, paychecks, beauty, or even followers. But externals are rarely a good measure. Net-worth has never been a good indicator of self-worth.
We always compare our worst with their best.
We compare ourselves to what actually âappearsâ to be better than us and living a perfect life. That is because we always think of the âworstâ what we know about ourselves. Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. Be proud of them. Donât brag, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage.
Life isnât graded.
Itâs not a race or a competition that we have to win by being better than most of the people on the planet. It does not depends on how better you are than others but how best of a person that you can possibly be.
Comparison robs you of joy.
When we start to compare ourselves to others we stop living the moment, we stop enjoying what we have and what we have achieved. We then donât thing that how far we have come and how much progress we have made since we started and faced so much difficulties to achieve what we have but instead of that we divert our attention to what we haven't achieved yet.
Thereâs no end of comparison game.
There is an infinite number of categories upon which you can compare yourself, and an almost infinite number of people to compare yourself to. Once you start down that road, you will never, ever find an end.
Be OK with imperfection.
No one is perfect. And we must learn to be OK with that. Sure, keep trying to improve, but donât think youâll ever be the âperfect personâ. If you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect.
Focus on the journey.
Life is a journey. We are all on a journey, to find something, to become something, to learn, to create. That journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have. It has everything to do with what we want to do, and where we want to go. Thatâs all you need to worry about.
Learn to love enough.
If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. You will always want more. Thatâs an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness. No matter how many clothes you buy, no matter how many houses you own, no matter how many fancy cars you acquire it will never have enough. Instead, learn to realize that what you have is already enough and try to be grateful about it.
We hope this post will help all of you beautiful people to be more happier and bring you motivation on your way to your goals!
Just keep in mind that the tendency to compare is as human as any other emotion and it will not disappear over night! It takes patience and time!
You are so amazing and unique!
You are special and deserve happiness and all the love in the universe!
