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[blondebrainpowered]

Violent Femmes - Blister in the Sun, 1983

[paradoxlemonade]

No actually I'm with the boomers on this one. Why tf would you want to buy brand new clothing with holes in it? I could mostly excuse it with jeans since denim is at least a sturdy fabric and the structural integrity of the rest of the garment is more or less intact. But tshirts???? Sweaters?????? Those are already more fragile, why in hell would I want them to have MORE weak points????? For the same brand-new price as something that will last years longer??? Fuck that shit

[lizzieraindrops]

idk if I've sent this before, but I just want to say there have been multiple moments playing through Lightfall & Defiance with my boyfriend where I've just say "Destiny is a story about shapes and grief" because HOLY SHIT IT'S SO TRUE.

DESTINY IS A STORY ABOUT SHAPES AND GRIEF!!

thank you anon, i'm delighted to hear it.

literally though. this is my thesis statement on destiny. it's literally All about grief told through a metaphor of shapes. dig deep enough into any storyline and you'll find that it's about the shape someone's grief takes - the shape of grief, if you will.

literally every character is experiencing a kind of grief, and their stories are about how it shapes them and what shapes they let it take.

sometimes those shapes are horrific - see Eramis, the Hive Gods, making choices that increase the suffering in the universe. other times the resulting shapes are kinder, choices made out of grief to alleviate that same suffering in others - see Zavala, Eris, Caiatl, Misraaks. some struggle to move through their grief, resisting letting it take form at all - see Ikora, Nimbus, Osiris - though Osiris is working on it, nowadays. some are destroyed by their grief, like Uldren. some struggle to balance the pain and grief of the past with the potential pain and grief of the future, like Elsie and Mara.

i really like the way destiny's overarching narrative frames your choice of how to respond to your grief as the most important thing. anyone can have terrible things happen to them, and we inevitably do. but the action you choose to take in response, whether or not it accomplishes what you hope, is the only thing we truly have control over. therefore it is the most powerful way you can shape the world. maybe it's corny, but i think that's deeply inspiring. nothing wrong with a good bit of corn if you mean it. and destiny most certainly, earnestly does and i respect that so much lmao

[doubledragonhelix]

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[alloaroworlds]

Since I’ve gained fifty-odd followers in the last few days and some folks aren’t allo-aro, I thought I’d mention my tagging policy.

I don’t tag. I tag my own original posts to some extent, and I usually tag very explicit content or GIF-leaden stimboards, but that’s about it. The only way I can run this blog and @aroworlds / @aroflagarchive, where I do tag, is by cutting down the workload.

(I have chronic hand, thumb, wrist and shoulder pain on both arms, largely provoked by repetitive movement. It’ll be my ten year anniversary of pain-related disability in October ... not something I really want to think about!)

Additionally, I absolutely do not and will not warning tag for non-explicit and casual sex mentions. Nor will I ever I warning tag for mentions of sexual attraction and related experiences. I’ve written about the pressure I feel to constantly warn/advise for my existence in general/shared aro/a-spec spaces, so it’s important to me to have an online space where I don’t have to attach that metaphorical sign to content expressing my identity.

Even my aro creative content Tumblr doesn’t offer me that freedom. (I am acutely aware of what it means to warning tag for a story describing othering associated with adding said tags for terms and experiences associated with my shape of aro!) So I need a space where I get to avoid doing so, and this account is that wonderful space.

If you need content tagged, I absolutely encourage you to check out the allo-aro community page to find an allo-aro blogger who can accommodate your needs. I am entirely on board you doing what you need to keep yourself safe while also learning from and supporting allo-aros! That person just isn’t me.

(So, to those who folks who must leave: farewell and good luck!)

On an unrelated topic, I have gotten several lovely anons expressing feelings related to the FYA situation. As much as I appreciate your support, encouragement and kindness, and the time you took to send them to me, I hope you’ll forgive me if I don’t post them. I don’t want to create a situation where we’re constantly rehashing this event or repeatedly discussing how bad that post was. I think enough has been said, now, that we can give FYA a space to learn, consider and respond with an approach for the future and acknowledgement of what they need to do to shape their relationship with the aromantic and allo-aro communities (as folks sharing the broader a-spec space).

(FYA has a lot to do to earn my trust, but I’d like to give them the chance to do so.)

I hope you understand that I do take those asks as a gift for me, that I am so very glad you sent them, and I really do want to express my gratitude for the support sent from other allo-aros and a-spec allies to allo-aros. Given that my inbox often serves as a mechanism for people to question, delegitimise and police allo-aro identity, it’s been truly wonderful to see the opposite this week!

I hope we can turn the conversation less towards one account’s behaviours and more towards identifying and halting community-wide habits of allo-aro erasure, supporting allo-aros in our feelings and experiences, making shared aro/a-spec spaces more welcoming and inclusive of allo-aros, and joyfully celebrating and encouraging the expression of allo-aro identity, pride and creativity.

Thank you so much for reading, followers old and new!

- K. A.

[no-zaku-boy]

For the past two or three years, instead of giving myself concrete goals as resolutions ("read x books", for example), I've given myself things to work toward. Sort of vague, hard to quantify or even specifically qualify, but much easier than Pass/Fail tasks.

One of my main resolutions for 2018 was to try something new. Without going into specifics that I'm still reluctant to share, I went for an opportunity that I wouldn't have been able to talk myself into even considering not too long ago. It was stressful and uncomfortable. I cried almost every step of the way and was extremely, unfairly hard on myself. Ultimately, I didn't make the cut. And it felt bad, and I cried more. In public. Like, a lot. BUT! I did something I'd never done before (technically several somethings, some of which improved other areas of my life along the way), and I did better than I honestly thought I would; out of thousands of people, most of whom had prior experience I couldn’t claim and had been through the exact process before (many of them more than once), I made it into the top 10% on my first go. Even though nothing tangible came of it, I'm proud of myself for making the attempt and can tell it changed me, made me more confident and resilient and open in ways I've always struggled to be. It doesn't sound like much, I'm sure, and a lot of it is thanks to my incredibly patient and supportive partner who listened to me hesitantly explain what I was thinking of doing, something coming completely out of left field from his point of view, and replied, "That won’t be easy. How can I help?" (I am so lucky and grateful to have boything beside me), but it shows, to me, that I've gone from writing myself off before I've even tried to, well, *trying*, even if it's Really Hard and Scary and I Want to Go Home.

Something as simple as trying would have been impossible for me just a few years ago during the worst of a deep depression, but I've grown, and I guess my resolutions have come to reflect that since I started getting better: instead of coming up with a checklist of things I never quite accomplish and feeling bad about what I can only see as failure, I’m taking the opportunity to look back on how my experiences have affected me over the past year and assess where I have room to change for the better.

This year, my resolutions look more or less the same as the last couple years, but they've been working so far, so I want to share them again and even offer them as suggestions, totally up for individual interpretation, on how to approach 2019: Try new things. Do things you enjoy with people who make you happy. Do more for others. Be healthier. Build. Grow.

[drarrymylove]

tfw you’re writing a drarry drabble and you are 732 words in and haven’t even mentioned Harry once.  like...good lord Jeni, it’s a drARRY DRABBLE

get your life together

[candycryptids]

I still think the highlight of me playing a Dog who plays the Bagpipes, is that I regularly look up YouTube videos of Bagpipes to play when I use skills n such. Like [This] or [This]