PICK A CARD: some reminders you need to be reminded of!
Hello and welcome to this new post of mine, this time I will give you a reading on what you should be reminded on. I hope you enjoy!
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Pile 1
Right now you are in this space where everything just feels a bit dull, or heavier than it should be. It is not that your life is falling apart or anything dramatic like that, but your outlook on things is just not where it should be. You look at things and instead of seeing what could go right, or what is already good, you immediately go to what is missing, or what is not happening yet. And while that is understandable, it is also something that is really holding you back in ways you might not fully realise. There are definitely still things you need to do. This is not me saying you can just ignore everything and live in your head or pretend everything is fine. There are responsibilities, things for school or work, things you said you would do that you have not done yet. Even small things like cleaning your space, organising your life a bit more, getting back on track. You already know this, and you have been putting it off, or doing it halfway and then stopping again. It is not that you cannot do it, you just do not feel like it matters enough right now. But it does, just not in the way you think. Because the main thing here is not discipline, or productivity, or you needing to suddenly fix your entire life. The main thing is your mindset. You are moving through your days as if there is nothing really waiting for you, nothing exciting, nothing worth putting that energy in for. And that is simply not true. It is like you forgot that your life is still moving forward, and that there are so many things that can still happen for you. You have a lot to live for, even if you cannot feel it right now. And I know that sounds like something people just say, but in your case it is actually very present. There are people around you who genuinely like you, who enjoy your presence, who feel good when you are there. You might not fully believe that, or you might downplay it, but it is definitely there. You are not as alone in this as you make yourself think sometimes. And your future is not this empty, unclear thing either. You are going to achieve things, and not just small random things, but things that will actually matter to you. You will look back at yourself and realise that this version of you just could not see it yet. That is really what this feels like. You are in a phase where you cannot see forward properly, so you assume there is not much there. But there is, you just are not connected to it right now.
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Pile 2
This is something you already know, but you do not actually apply it in your life. You tell yourself that you understand it, you even tell other people this advice, but when it comes down to you actually living it, you just, well, don’t. and it is very visible in the way you give yourself away to other people. not in a dramatic way necessarily, but in small ways, consistent ways, ways that definitely add up over time. You do not find your happiness in other people. and i do not mean that in a cold way, or that you cannot feel joy when others are happy, or that you cannot love deeply. because you definitely can, and you definitely do. but the problem here is that you rely on that as your main source of happiness. and that is where things start to go wrong. You give so much of yourself to others that when they are not there, or when they do not give back the same energy, you feel empty, and that is not because you are empty as a person, it is because you have not been filling your own cup. you have been pouring everything into others and just hoping that somehow it comes back to you in the same way. but it does not really work like that. You think that if you care enough, if you are patient enough, if you are understanding enough, that people will see that and give it back to you. and sometimes they do, but not in the way you need. not in the consistent way you need to actually feel stable and happy. so you end up in this cycle where you are constantly waiting. waiting for someone to notice, waiting for someone to care, waiting for someone to choose you in the way you choose them. And that waiting is what is draining you the most; because while you are waiting, you are not choosing yourself at all. you are not prioritising yourself, not really. you might tell yourself you are, you might do small things here and there, but deep down your focus is still on other people. on how they feel, what they think of you, whether they will stay, whether they will leave. and that is not something you can control, no matter how much you try. You cannot build your happiness on something that is that unstable, and i feel like you know this, definitely. but there is a part of you that does not want to let go of that idea, because it feels safer in a way. it feels like if you just try a bit harder, love a bit more, give a bit more, it will finally work out the way you want it to. but in reality, it just keeps you stuck in the same patterns over and over again.
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Pile 3
There is definitely something here about you needing to slow down your thoughts a little bit. Not in a way where you stop thinking completely, because that is just not realistic for you, but more so in a way where you realise that not everything that crosses your mind actually needs to be analysed the way you tend to analyse it. You are very often in your head, and while that can definitely be a strength in some situations, right now it feels like it is doing more harm than good. It makes you see patterns where there are none, it makes you question things that are actually very simple, and it makes you feel like something is always going on even when it really is not. There is this sense that you are waiting for something, or expecting something to happen, or expecting some kind of shift, and because of that you keep looking at everything around you as if it is a clue or a sign leading up to that. But the reminder here is that sometimes there is no build up, there is no hidden message, there is no deeper reasoning behind what is happening. Sometimes things are just neutral. Sometimes nothing is going on, and that is okay, even if it feels uncomfortable to sit in that. You might notice that when things are calm, your mind almost tries to create something to focus on. You replay conversations, you look at small details, you think about how someone said something or why they did not say something, and you try to connect it all into something meaningful. And while yes, sometimes things do have meaning, not everything does. Not every look, not every word, not every small change means something bigger. And you definitely need to start reminding yourself of that more, because right now you are treating everything as if it has the same level of importance, when it just does not. There is also something about balance here. You are not wrong for being intuitive, you are not wrong for picking up on things, but there needs to be a line. Because when everything becomes something you need to figure out, you never really allow yourself to just experience things as they are. You are always one step ahead in your head, trying to understand it, trying to label it, trying to predict it. And that takes you out of the actual moment more than you realise. It also causes you to not enjoy certain things as much, and sometimes even brings you in a headspace filled with anxiety while there is no particular need for it. You do not always need to worry, and if you realise you are worrying it is good to double check whether or not you are ‘genuinely’ in a situation in which it makes sense, or if it was your head coming to a chain of conclusions on its own based on something that could be merely a coincidence.
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