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Pick-a-Pile: ❀࿐Your Future Spouse’s First Impression Of You
Before love takes hold, there's this quiet moment when two people see more than just looks. It's a pause where you just *know* something about the other person.
This reading looks at that initial feeling your future partner gets when you first meet. Not the whole story later on, but that little spark when they think, This person matters.
Pick the image that catches your eye. Trust that gut feeling.
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🕊️ **Pile One**
Your first impression? They feel a sense of relief they didn't even know they were missing. Meeting you, it's like something inside them can finally relax.
You might seem calm, even if you don't feel it. There's just something steady about you that makes them trust you right away. They can tell you mean what you say, that you're patient, and that you're genuinely kind.
They might not get their attraction at first. It's not this huge thing, but more like knowing it feels good to be around you. Safe, but not boring. Known, but new.
Later, they'll see that first impression as the start of them opening up. Around you, they feel like they can be real in a way they normally aren't.
♨ **PileTwo**
Their first thought is a mix of interest and nerves. Meeting you is like a whole different vibe-a little wild, a little exciting.
They notice you right away, even if you're not trying to stand out. You've got this energy about you, a quiet confidence that makes them want to know more. They might feel a little unsure, like they don't know if they should get closer or back away.
You wake something up in them-desire, curiosity, courage. Talks with you feel charged, and they keep going over things you said, trying to figure out why you got to them.
This first impression feels like it was meant to be, even if they don't say it.
☘︎ **PileThree**
Meeting you starts with a sense of something hidden. They think there's more to you than what they see at first-a soft side, some strong emotions.
At first, they might see you as mysterious, not because you're closed off, but because you don't show everything at once. That makes them want to get closer, slowly, and learn who you are little by little.
There's something romantic about how they feel about you from the start. Not over the top, but meaningful. Like meeting someone you already know, even though you never met before.
Even after you first meet, they'll still think about you, trying to figure out why you stuck with them.
If you want, tell me which image you picked. Sometimes, that first impression is just the beginning of your story.
And if you're curious to know more about your love life, I do personal readings where we gently explore what shapes your relationships.
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emily fields and the myth of the "nice girl" + complete bundle
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it’s always the quiet ones.
emily fields was never the loudest in the room, she didn’t need to be. she was the one who knew exactly how to blend in while everyone around her self-destructed in plain sight. she moved like water, flowed around conflict, let people project what they wanted onto her. she kept secrets. she held space. she smiled when it hurt. and no one really asked how heavy it all was.
✧ the ‘nice girl’ isn’t always nice, she’s just scared
let’s start here: performative softness is not kindness, it’s self-preservation. most of us didn’t become the nice girl because it’s who we really are. we became her because we had to.
maybe you were parentified. maybe you were the middle child. maybe your household was high-stakes, and keeping the peace felt like the only way to stay safe. maybe you learned early on that if you were polite, agreeable, and helpful, you wouldn’t be left out or punished or abandoned. you were never rewarded for speaking up, so you stopped.
emily’s storyline is full of moments like that. remember how many times she was guilted into loyalty? how many secrets she kept for other people’s comfort? how her own desires got buried under what other people needed her to be?
girlhood teaches us to be mirrors for everyone else. but being a mirror means no one really sees you.
✧ how to stop shrinking: the nice girl detox plan
okay, soft girl. here’s how we deprogram the performance:
🕯️ 1. audit your people-pleasing patterns
go through your day and ask: how many of my choices are made out of obligation? → did i say yes because i meant it or because i didn’t want to upset someone? → did i compliment them because i meant it or because i felt awkward? → did i shrink myself so they could shine?
you can’t change a pattern you don’t recognize. naming it is step one.
🕯️ 2. start disappointing people on purpose
this sounds dramatic, but it’s necessary. begin small. cancel plans. say no. don’t explain. don’t cushion. practice letting people be a little upset.
you don’t owe anyone a version of yourself that’s emotionally exhausting to maintain. the real ones will adjust. the fake ones will fade. both outcomes are gifts.
🕯️ 3. reclaim your anger
emily had quiet rage. and so do you. it’s time to honor it. being “nice” for too long makes you numb, and numb girls don’t glow. you need to feel the anger. write it out. scream into your pillow. lift heavy weights. listen to music that makes you feel like the main villain. anger isn’t evil, it’s clarity.
→ rage reminds you of what you deserve.
🕯️ 4. romanticize boundaries
make them beautiful. → “i don’t do last-minute favors.” → “i’m not available for gossip.” → “i’m prioritizing myself this weekend.” boundaries aren’t walls. they’re doors you control. if you’ve been too nice, boundaries will feel mean at first. they’re not. they’re just new.
✧ softness doesn’t mean self-sacrifice
emily’s biggest heartbreaks came when she gave too much to people who didn’t give back. sound familiar?
we’ve glamorized being the selfless girl, the empathetic one, the ride or die. but when you’re always the one giving, comforting, understanding, you disappear.
the “nice girl” is often lonely. exhausted. craving someone to finally ask how she’s doing. if this is you, know that your softness is sacred... but it needs protection. being kind shouldn’t cost you your peace.
✧ the new softness
instead of being nice, be mysterious. instead of being sweet, be selective. instead of saying yes, say “i’ll think about it.”
you don’t need to explain yourself.
🕯️ glowettee’s new girl code: → soft girls are allowed to be strategic → kind girls are allowed to be assertive → helpful girls are allowed to stop helping → good girls are allowed to get angry
✧ your new routine
create a lifestyle that supports your unlearning, these are things i actually do as a certified-ex-people-pleaser:
🗝️ morning rituals: → tarot pulls + emotional check-ins (if you don't believe in tarot, try affirmation cards <3) → voice memo journaling: “what am i holding back today?” → setting your three sacred no’s for the day
🗝️ aesthetic habits: → muted lipstick, claw clips, satin robes → walks in nature without music → pinning eerie feminine fashion on pinterest
🗝️ glow-up goals: → therapy to unpack your good girl origin story → learn to say “let me get back to you” → start a private blog to tell your real thoughts
✧ soft girls can bite back
emily fields was never weak. she swam every morning. she held her ground in interrogation rooms. she loved hard. she took hits and kept going. she had the kind of strength that’s underestimated. and that’s what makes it lethal.
you don’t need to be loud to be powerful. you don’t need to be rude to be respected. you don’t need to be a “girlboss” to set boundaries. you’re allowed to be soft and sharp. delicate and dangerous. pretty and protective of your energy.
you don’t owe softness to anyone who hasn’t earned it.
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mindy’s final tip: if you’ve ever felt like being nice was your only power. reclaim your fire. you’re not mean for choosing yourself. you’re not selfish for having limits. you’re not “too much” for being done with pretending.
a brand new notion template, made by me, specifically for people pleasers!!:
🕯 a printable “soft girl sabotage” worksheet to decode your trauma-coded softness 🃏 a Notion tarot spread called “the soft girl spellbreaker,” where each card reveals a layer of your hidden power 📓 guided journaling altar to help you make a ritual out of self-reclamation 🎧 playlist to set the vibe 🖤 dark coquette, eeriecore, soft psychology aesthetic throughout
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🕯 repost if you’re done being nice.
The Glow-Up Spread
Pick a pile, and lets get into your glow up and how you can overcome your challenges. It's collective reading, so please take what resonates and leave the rest.
Pile 1:
Your Current Energy: 9 of Wands You’ve been through a lot, and it shows. But you’re still standing. This card reminds you to protect your energy and keep your boundaries strong—you’re closer to the breakthrough than you think.
What’s Leaving: Ace of Cups A new emotional chapter or a heartfelt connection has served its purpose. It's time to release any lingering attachment and make space for something even more aligned.
What’s Coming: Two of Wands You’re stepping into a phase of big decisions and fresh opportunities. It’s about planning for the future, seeing what’s possible, and getting ready to expand beyond your comfort zone.
Advice from Spirit: 4 of Pentacles + 7 of Pentacles Let go of the need to control the outcome. You’ve already done the work—now it’s about trust and patience. Growth takes time. Focus on what really matters and don’t rush the process.
Pile 2
Current Energy: The Emperor You’re stepping into your power. Structure, discipline, and boundaries are front and center. Whether it’s work, healing, or emotional growth—you’re claiming control and leveling up with confidence. What’s Leaving: Two of Wands + Ace of Swords The indecision and overthinking are clearing out. You’ve gained clarity and now it’s time to stop planning and start acting. No more mental back-and-forth—it’s go time.
What’s Coming: Temperance (Reversed) + Queen of Cups An emotional wave is rising. You might feel off-balance or overwhelmed, but the Queen of Cups brings in emotional intelligence. The key? Don't suppress it—just stay soft but anchored.
Advice from Spirit: Knight of Cups, The Empress, Two of Swords, Reversed 8 of Swords + 5 of Cups You’re being called to follow your heart and lead with softness. Nurture yourself. But also—stop avoiding what you know needs to be addressed. You’re not stuck anymore. It’s okay to grieve what didn’t work, but don’t get lost in regret. Your freedom is on the other side of honesty and compassion.
Pile 3
Current Energy: The World (Jumper) + The High Priestess You’ve finished something big. A chapter in your life is closed, and you’ve grown so much. Deep down, you know it. Now’s the time to trust your inner voice—it’s guiding you somewhere better.
What’s Leaving: Two of Pentacles + Five of Swords No more running around trying to do everything or dealing with drama. You’re done overthinking, done with messy situations. You’re choosing peace and balance now.
What’s Coming: Two of Wands New paths are opening. You’re thinking bigger, dreaming further, and it’s time to choose what you want. This is your moment to take that next bold step.
Advice from Spirit: The Chariot Go for it. You’ve got what it takes. Trust yourself, stay focused, and keep moving. You’re in control now, and you’re going places
My Love Tarot said my future partner is the "King of Pentacles"
Okay, so I decided to try this love tarot reading just for fun, but I think I’m actually claiming this?
Look at the Future Partner card—King of Pentacles! "Wealth, business, leadership, security." Excuse me?? Yes please. 🙌 I am absolutely ready for that stable, grounded energy.
Apparently, I need to work on my vulnerability (Page of Cups calling me out, oops), but if the Ace of Wands is any indication, new opportunities are coming.
If anyone else needs a sign or just wants to see what their future partner vibes are, I used this tool. Let me know what you get! 👇
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THE HIGH PRIESTESS
The High Priestess represents sacred inner knowing and the quiet power of intuition. She sits at the threshold between the visible world and the unseen mysteries, guarding wisdom that cannot be forced but must be received. Where the Magician acts through will and skill, the High Priestess listens, observes, and understands that truth often reveals itself in silence. She reminds us that deep wisdom emerges when the mind becomes still and receptive.
Imagery and Symbols
The Veil Behind Her: A curtain decorated with pomegranates that separates the conscious world from hidden spiritual knowledge. It represents mysteries that can only be revealed through intuition and inner awareness.
Pillars (B and J): The black and white pillars symbolize duality, balance, and the gateway to sacred knowledge. They represent opposing forces such as light and shadow, logic and intuition.
Moon Crown: The crescent moons resting on her crown represent psychic awareness, lunar cycles, and the power of feminine wisdom connected to the rhythms of nature.
Scroll or Sacred Text: Often marked with the word "Tora," symbolizing hidden teachings and esoteric knowledge that is not fully visible to everyone.
Blue Robes: Spiritual depth, calm awareness, and connection to the subconscious mind.
Water at Her Feet: The flowing water represents the subconscious mind, intuition, and the emotional depths that influence perception and insight.
Pomegranates: Symbol of fertility, sacred knowledge, and hidden wisdom connected to ancient spiritual traditions.
Number Two (II): Duality, balance, partnership, and the meeting point between conscious thought and inner knowing.
Upright Meaning
Intuition: Trusting inner guidance and subtle messages from the subconscious mind.
Inner Wisdom: Deep understanding that arises from reflection, patience, and observation.
Mystery: Not all answers are meant to be revealed immediately. Some truths require time and stillness.
Spiritual Awareness: Heightened sensitivity to dreams, symbols, and hidden patterns.
Receptivity: Allowing insight to arrive naturally rather than forcing decisions through logic alone.
Reversed Meaning
Blocked Intuition: Ignoring inner signals or doubting intuitive insight.
Hidden Truths: Information is being concealed or not fully revealed.
Disconnection: Loss of trust in inner guidance or becoming too dependent on external opinions.
Secrets: Something important may be withheld or misunderstood.
Inner Confusion: Difficulty accessing clarity due to emotional noise or distraction.
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Some cards from a tarot deck I made in 2017 named Toon Tarot
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