#trans ask

[trans-faith-misinterpreter]

Hey, remember when you called me an 🥚, I think I might be an 🥚 but Im scared of it, I mean I live in a Christian *coughs in its totally not a cult/j* household.

My personal suggestion. get sneaky about gender affirming stuff. try to find allies, but don't go looking so hard that you find ones that don't actually exist. And, when it is safe to do so, GET OUT OF THERE. This stuff is gonna be scary, that's fine. persist, persever and carry on.

[ditzgrayson]

any other trans people have this like weird thing when you look at old pictures of yourselves where you look really good and/or happy and it's definitely not euphoria, but it's not dysphoria either and you're like "what if I *am* making it all up?" but obviously you're not? It's like almost guilt. Like I'm looking at my old prom pictures and I'm like why am I *not* that person? Because she is soooo beautiful and Im just not that but also it's literally a picture of me? Like what is this? Is there a word for it? please help.

[domestically-loving-monsters]

hi small note from a trans man, when you're stating a reader, especially a trans reader insert, has specific genitalia putting "female bodily" is actually a bit transphobic. it's a small detail and I know you mean the reader is meant to have a vagina/vulva but that's sort of implying vaginas = female instead of the reader being well male (even trans being called "female" in any context isn't right)

I know what you mean but wording is really important when it comes to inclusivity and avoiding possible harmful content.

Hi there! Thank you for telling me! I definitely want to keep that in mind as I continue my writing to be more inclusive for everyone.

This particular piece was commissioned by a wonderful FtM person, who identified themselves to be "Trans male but with a *female* body."

I wanted to keep the wording similar, as not to upset the commissioner. They didn't inform me of any incorrect wording for the topic or bodily descriptions. And if they had been offended/hurt in anyway, I do hope they get back to me with some feedback regarding it.

Obviously, I have no ways of knowing the dos and donts of these sensitive topics without people telling me. It would help me greatly if you could suggest some ways to better how I word/describe/write Trans People. Anyone else that has some suggestions is welcome too.

I'd be more than happy to listen, as I want others to feel comfortable reading my works.

[marshmallowprotection]

Could you write Saeran dating an insecure trans guy? (Biologically female but identifies as male)

Saeran W/ a Trans Boy HCs

Okay, I’ll write out a few HC about this because I never see a lot of Trans HC on a good chunk of imagine blogs. If you want me to write something a little more specific than I can do that but as a generalization, I’ll do this first. 

Saeran is a little out of the loop when it comes to a lot of things in the world.

It isn’t a fault of his own, it’s just that his circumstance has kept him from learning a lot in a sense of the word. He might be able to learn other languages or be able to hack because he pressed himself to do it in a short amount of time but that doesn’t mean he’s quick to learn as much about things that aren’t y’know, code. 

He’s a little clueless but that doesn’t mean he’s inherently out of the loop. Like, he knows a few things since he’s dipped into their past and learned as much about them as he could 

So, when his MC is upfront with him that they’re Trans, he doesn’t get it but he’s just like, “Okay.” 

However, once you explain it, he’ll nod his head in silence. 

There’s a lot that he doesn’t know about his MC but he wants to be able to do right by them by any means necessary. So, you will likely see him trying to learn what he can by asking a lot of questions and doing his own research. 

He might make some mistakes, but he’ll apologize for them. Like, if he says the wrong pronoun before he knew how they identified, or if says something mildly uncomfortable then he’ll do his best to correct his behavior.  

Like, you’re his boyfriend! He really wants you to know that and wants to reinforce that fact not only for his MC but for himself as well. 

He never thought that he would have someone in his life that he loves like you, and he never wants to forget that fact. 

It never really occurs to him that it might be something that would have made his MC worry about him. He loves them, specifically, and it doesn’t really matter how they look, or how they identify, or who they are. They’re the only person that he’s ever really felt anything for and he will reassure his MC if they feel as though them being Trans would make Saeran love them any less because it doesn’t. 

He’s always great about making sure that his MC knows that. He doesn’t often verbalize it but he would work on that in regards to an insecure MC. It would be in the little things, the way that he grabs their hand when they’re out together, or when he smiles at them and sees only them in a room full of people. 

It’s always the little things with him. 

It’s tiny compliments and longing gazes. 

It’s in the way that he holds your hand and kisses you when you’re crying about things just not going the right way. 

You’re the sun, the stars, the moon in his sky and he wants you to know that fact. 

There’s not really a moment where it would be possible to think differently because he tries his best to make sure that you always know how grateful he is for you. 

This house is for boyfriends sharing clothes too! Saeran hasn’t always been that big and he wears a size that’s relatively comfortable for you, and it’s easy for him to offer up whatever you want from his closet. I suppose that means there’s a lot of blacks shirts and jackets in this MC’s future. 

Not gonna lie, he thinks that his MC pulls off his clothes better than he could ever do. Frankly, too beautiful for him and he isn’t worthy kind of thinking, his cheeks are stained red and he’s going to have to look away and pretend he’s not as enthralled as he is.

 It might be the highlight of your day when you walk into the room wearing a jacket of his and his eyes light up, “MC, you look… really handsome, today.” 

“Saeran, stop, you don’t have to fluff up my confidence,” you may say back to him. 

“It’s only the truth,” he would shrug his shoulders. 

For those long nights and days where you struggle with your monthly bout of dysphoria, he’s right by your side as long as you want him there with you. He’s always quick to bring you your favorite ice cream and offer you a blanket. 

If you don’t want to talk about things then he gets it and you just sit together in comfortable silence while a movie is on. For the times when his MC wants to talk about what’s bothering them, he is there to listen and comfort them when they cry. 

It is very often that MC has to do the same thing for him when he has his own struggles, so this response to give back everything and more is something that he’s learned to do by watching how empathetic and sweet you are to him. 

Most of all, at the end of the day, Saeran is your boyfriend and you’re his boyfriend. You’re both there for each other when you really need it from someone else. 

<3 Mod Kait <3

[cowboyjen68]

hi, "do you support trans women" anon here. sorry for hitting on a sensitive subject. it truly was a good-faith question; i scrolled through your blog for quite a bit and found no answer. rest assured i did not just come guns blazing to your inbox to label you. i asked about trans women and not trans men because your blog is focused on women, not men, that is all. and, while i am not the most devoted activist, i've always tried my best to make trans people feel welcome in my communities. thanks

I appreciate that you explain yourself. That is rare. Normally this question is dropped in to start a series of anons asking the same question in various ways to snag me up. I can’t be snagged up because I’m being truthful in my convictions.

I can’t ever get hash tag searches to work but I do hash tag “trans” or “ trans women”. It’s frustrating to me because my blog does not mention trans women often and therefore it’s sometimes assumed I am some how “anti”. Lack of trans content is seen as “not included “. The fact is I don’t use my blog to talk about trans women unless I’m with friends at an event or evening out and it’s important to the post, because I’m not trans and it’s not my place

I see activism as something we do for ourselves with the support of allies. I recruited trans people to run the support group. It’s not my space unless invited. I make sure trans people have a voice on the board I serve on. I have constant dialogue about what they need to me help with. Several trans women are dear friends but they are not my “tokens” so I don’t usually bring them up unless warranted.

You are justified in saying that you couldn’t find a post. I post a shit Ton. I do this because this blog is a mirror on my life. I use it as a photo and written diary of me because it’s what other lesbians and bi women need to see. Young butches need to know they are ok.

If I had to put a Focus on my blog. It is focused first on Lesbian and bi women, then females and then women. . After that, butch stuff, parenting stuff, and toads and frogs.

I am glad you are doing what you can in the real world. If you ever need tips of simple things you can do. Let me know.

Trans men are very important to me. One of my close friends is a trans man. I connect more with trans men. Regardless of gender we share a more similar lived experience due to being born female. Yet I see them vastly ignored by the lgbt community, both on line and in person. 

I ALWAYS welcome good faith questions. It is helpful to me to know why the question of “do you support…..(fill in the blank)” is being asked because I tend to ignore asks questioning my integrity. My passion is to help lesbians, bi women and young butches to know they are wonderful the way they are. I get a lot of asks and some are time sensitive, I prioritize them. 

Now.. enjoy this toad that greeted me at work last night. 

[languidangel]

Hey I hope this question isn't too personal (if it is just ignore it). How do you feel emotionally after the surgery? Did it alleviate some of your dysphoria?

Sorry for taking so long to answer this, I was debating holding off until longer because I'm still dealing with aspects of post op depression (which I'll get to in a sec) but I thought that would be good to talk about in this ask.

Short answer is yes, I hardly feel any dysphoria over anything now. I do feel very occasional bottom dysphoria or social dysphoria but it's usually only when people mention something and now just me sitting around, randomly getting dysphoria (like top dysphoria was).

I enjoy being able to wear shirts that I was never able to wear. I enjoy not feeling random dysphoria in class and wanting to hunch over and hide. I haven't had much time with my chest and I still don't have my restrictions off but I can already see a brighter future ahead of me. I also picked a really good surgeon and I love the look of my chest and the placement and scars are basically perfect plus my body hasn't reacted weird (yet) so I'm having a pretty good time.

That being said I have been struggling with post op depression every now and again. It's not because I don't like my chest although I do miss having built in stress balls because that was a stim of mine but it's not like I can't find something else. It's more like because breast tissue makes estrogen plus I have restrictions and have to bind, I just want to be healed already and I'm having a hormone crash. Also I just hate winter a lot so all of these things are kind of making it hard to recover in peace. Other than that yeah I'm doing great.

[mythical-adoptions]

Is it possible for an Asritaur or such to be trans? like Male to Female? I saw you said they cant be born female but surgery can do alot.

I saw a post similar to this answered by vex in regards to their Lamias being female, so my response might be similar to theirs, judge if you like.

Monsters have different views and biology than humans, thus resulting in them viewing LGBT+ relationships MUCH differently than we humans do *aka all accepting instead of unfortunately mixed views*

There are Toriels, Asgores, Floweys and Asriels for Bitty types, as we all know from the plethora of adoption centres out there.

Unfortunately even with surgeries Asritaurs can NOT be Trans, and do not identify as such.

They are, as ALL Mythbittys are, FULLY SUPPORTIVE of anyone identifying as anything in the PRIDE community however as other than Trans, they can identify as anything from that themselves!

We’ve had a few Asian Reds tell me they’re Ace, some Tinx that prefer being with females as opposed to males, and Endogerus seem to not care whom they are with as long as love, not LOVE is involved in the relationship!

Yes, I am fully aware that surgery can and does allow these changes to happen- my niece *IRL* has a few Trans friends herself, one Bi friend and I myself have a friend who says she is a Lesbian but I suspect she MIGHT be Bi.

Keeping in mind that I myself am Ace as most people know by now, and less known due to some DEEPLY rooted abandonment issues from my biological mother I believe I might be Poly as well, still figuring that one out.

But keep in mind that even though some Bittys can not be certain things, they’ll be supportive of those regardless

Any Skeletal MythBittys, due to their unique anatomy, are more easily able to form the ‘appropriate body parts’ if they feel they wish to try or be another gender, or even if they are Ace go without reproductive organs!

As you can guess, with the exception of surgery it is harder for other non-skeletal MythBittys to do this *especially CMK’s as they have a metallic body but that’d be why they identify as They/them and nonbinary!*

I do apologize for the over-explaining, but being Autistic tends to make one babble and over-explain things! If I missed something or something was unclear feel free to ask me about it!!