Do you have any resources or tips on avoiding pericisnormative language?
My 15 main tips would be:
1- Don't call any presentation inherently feminine or masculine. It all depends on culture and personal interpretation, especially since a lot of presentations (neutrality, nullity, xeninity, certain forms of outherinity, aporinity, etc) don't have any "traditional" appearances/gender roles due to severe erasure.
2- Don't call any sex traits inherently feminine or masculine.
3- Use androgenizing instead of "masculinizing", estrogenizing instead of "feminizing", and androestrogenizing instead of "androgynous."
4- Don't use "female" and "male" when referencing sex traits.
5- Use actual words for anatomy instead of "female anatomy" and "male anatomy", because not all perisex people have the same anatomy, and intersex people can have the same anatomy as a perisex person. Say mullerian duct (or the individual parts, such as cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries, etc), wolffian duct (or the individual parts, such as testicles, vas deferens, seminal vesicles, prostate,) ambiguous reproductive duct (or individual parts also seen in mullerian ducts and wolffian ducts), ovotestes, vulva (or individual parts, such as labia minora, labia majora, clitoris, vagina, urethra,) penis (or individual parts, such as scrotum, phallus, urethra), urogenital sinus, cloaca, ambiguous genitalia (or individual parts, such as clitorophallus, labioscrotum, or previously listed traits also seen in vulvas and penises), breasts, increased muscle mass, thickened vocal cords, etc.
5- Integrate person/people who menstruates, person/people capable of pregnancy, person/people capable of ovulation, person/people capable of sperm production, SPETA, SPETE, SETA, SETE, SETAE, and SWPE [link] into your vocabulary.
6- Don't equate SPETE to AFAB and SPETA to AMAB, as intersex people can be AFAB/AMAB (and cultural genders that do not follow AGAB exist even for perisex people.) Remember that AGAB is just a single letter/word on a birth certificate, and doesn't reflect how many intersex people are actually raised and/or reassigned a gender later in life.
7- Say "natal sex traits" (for sex traits people developed during fetal development or puberty) and "altered sex traits" (for sex traits people developed from HRT or surgery). Do not say "natural sex traits" or "artificial sex traits."
8- Don't forget about cistrans and detransitioning/retransitioning people, pericisgender =/= "kept their natal sex traits."
9- Don't use the intersexist h-slur or fu-slur. Also learn the difference [link] between perisex, cosexual, dualsex, and intersex.
10- Be cautious in how you use terms like "passing", because a lot of it relies on the idea that you can "tell" who is trans or cis, and who is perisex and intersex. Read more on that here [link.]
11- Don't call non-binary people "they/thems", as it's depersonalizing and not all non-binary people use they/them (and not all binary men use he/him, and not all binary women use she/her.) Use the terms enban/enby (singular), enben/enbies (plural), or even just "non-binary people."
12- Remember that man =/= binary man, woman =\= binary woman, and that non-binary people can be aligned with manhood and womanhood.
13- Remember transfem and transmasc =/= trans man and trans women, and that feminine genders unaligned with womanhood and masculine genders unaligned with manhood exist. Also don't forget people who are androgynous, neutral, null, genderless, xenine, outherine, aporine, multigender, multitransitional, or unlabeled/unaligned.
14- Remember transfem =/= AMAB and transmasc =/= AFAB. People could be transitioning from binary womanhood to nonbinary femininity, binary manhood to nonbinary masculinity, be intersex and/or perisex with a cultural gender/sex and have an experience that isn't "aligned" with their AGAB, be plural with innerworld experiences that aren't "aligned" with their AGAB, etc.
15- Don't label every single non-binary relationship as sapphic or achillean (and don't use the terms yuri/yaoi unless they are woman-aligned or man-aligned, as the terms are used synonymously with "girl love" and "boy love.") Use enby-specific terms sometimes (you can find some here [link]). Some enbies identify as sapphic/achillean, but the problem is that a lot of enbies don't want to use those terms, so labelling every single relationship with an enban as sapphic/achillean contributes to the erasure of enban-specific terminology.
"It's not possible to headcanon every character as genderqueer and/or sexqueer-" Wrong! It is possible and is actually very easy. Just ✨get good✨ (/joke)
If you're creative enough, any character can be gender/pronoun non-conforming, binary trans, nonbinary, cistrans, intersex, dysex, ersex, altersex, or any other form of TGD (trans & gender diverse) or varsex identity. In fact you can give them multiple of these traits!!!
(Check out gendered attraction terms here [link], relationship orientations here [link], and attraction types, aspec identities, & other orientations here [link.])
Sex Terms
[PT: Sex Terms]
Varsex/Sexqueer: A person with a sex identity or sex traits that are not typical of perisex cissex standards. This includes intersex, dysex, ersex, and transsex.
Perisex (sometimes also called Endosex or Dyadic): A person/creature with the most commonly viewed natal sex traits within their species. For humans, this includes SPETE and SPETA.
SPETE (Someone Perisex Expected To Estrogenize): A perisex person with XX chromosomes, who natally developed a vulva, two average-sized (or large) ovaries, a single average-sized (or large) uterus, two fallopian tubes, and (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to estrogenize (at a typical range) during puberty.
Their vulva will have two labia minora with a clitoral hood, two labia majora, a single pea-sized clitoris, a single moderate (or deep) vaginal entry, and a urethra between the vaginal entry and the clitoris. It may or may not have a hymen that surrounds the vagina, covering it minimally.
SPETA (Someone Perisex Expected To Androgenize): A perisex person with XY chromosomes, who natally developed a moderate (or large) penis, two moderately-sized (or large) testicles within the scrotum, an average-sized prostate, two vas deferens, two average-sized seminal vesicles, and (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to androgenize (at a typical range) during puberty.
Their penis will have a phallus, a scrotum beneath the phallus, foreskin protecting the head of the phallus, and a urethra on the tip of the penis. It is straight or slightly curved when erect.
Cosexual: A species whose perisex standard is being capable of both fertilization and egg production at the same time. (Ie; Snails, slugs, certain fish, etc.)
Dualsex: A species whose perisex standard is having mixed sex traits, typically both a penis and a vagina, though other combinations may apply as well. This usually refers to fictional species.
Intersex: A person/creature with natal sex traits (as in, sex traits that are not from physical damage, surgery, or HRT) that do not fall within their perisex norm. Usually this refers to natal primary sex traits (sex chromosomes, sex hormones, genitalia, and/or reproductive organs), but some people consider natal secondary sex traits (breasts, nipples, etc) to be intersex as well.
(Note: "Inter" does not just mean in-between. Inter can also mean "among" or "to destroy". Therefore, intersex =/= a sex in-between SPETE/SPETA. In humans, intersex can describe a mix of sex traits, but it can also describe small/absent/undeveloped genitals/reproductive organs, genitals/reproductive organs that are split/duplicated, a penis with an atypical appearance, a vulva with an atypical appearance, high sex hormones, low sex hormones, unresponsiveness to sex hormones, "mismatched" sex chromosomes, SRY-negative XY chromosomes, SRY-positive XX chromosomes, more than two sex chromosomes, and/or less than two sex chromosomes.)
SETE (Someone Expected To Estrogenize): A person (perisex or intersex) who (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to estrogenize during puberty. This could be expectation of micro-estrogenization, average estrogenization, or hyperestrogenization. Sometimes, this expectation may be inaccurate, if the person has unpredicted hyperandrogenism or hypoestrogenism.
SETA (Someone Expected To Androgenize): A person (perisex or intersex) who (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to androgenize during puberty. This could be micro-androgization, average androgenization, or hyperandrogenization. Sometimes, this expectation may be inaccurate, if the person has unpredicted hyperestrogenism or hypoandrogenism.
SETAE (Someone Expected To Androestrogenize): A person who (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to have a mix of androgenization and estrogenization during puberty. Sometimes, this expectation may be inaccurate, if the person has unpredicated hypogonadism.
SWPE (Someone Without Puberty Expectations): A person who (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors), is not expected to experience any puberty. This is usually due to having bilateral gonadal agenesis, or gonads that are fully streaked and/or too small to produce sex hormones, or similar variations.
Dysex: A person with atypical primary sex traits caused by non-natal events (ie; labial hypertrophy from pregnancy, gynecomastia from red meat consumption, a person with hyperestrogenism from tumors, etc), minor atypicalities in primary sex traits (ie; a minorly bicornuate uterus), or atypical secondary sex traits (ie; extra nipples, no breasts, etc) who does not feel as though the label of "intersex" fits them. This is considered the grey area between intersex and perisex.
Ersex: A person who is unsure of whether they are intersex or perisex, due to physical events that could have changed their sex traits. (Ie; A person who had an accident that could have potentially injured their ovaries, and they have no way to tell if their low levels of estrogen are a result of their accident, or if they have an intersex variation that causes hypoestrogenism.)
(Note: Perisex, intersex, dysex, and ersex are not labels a person can "transition" into, as they describe natal sex, not internal sex identities. So a perisex person cannot "transition to intersex", an intersex person can't have their intersexuality "removed" from them through procedures, etc.)
Cissex: A person who identifies with their natal sex traits.
Transsex: A person who desires sex traits that differs from the ones they natally developed. A person can be transsex while not being transgender.
Transgenital: A transsex identity for people who desire genitals that differ from the ones they natally developed.
Transreproductive (Transrepro): A transsex identity for people who desire reproductive organs that differ from the ones they natally developed. Transgonadal refers specifically to someone who desires different gonads than what they natally developed.
Transhormonal: A transsex identity for people who desire a hormone profile that differs from the one they natally developed.
Altersex: A transsex identity for people who desire sex traits that are mixed, null, or not natally seen within humans. (This identity is sometimes also used by sysmates within systems whose innerworld bodies have those sex traits.) Duomorphic, multisex, nullsex, and xenosex fall under this.
Duomorphic: A person who desires a mixture of sex traits that they did not natally have (ie; a person born with a vulva who desires a penis & vagina together.) You may also hear people using terms like "salmacian" or "aphrodisian" in reference to this identity, however the intersex community finds these terms problematic due to their connection with the origin of the intersexist h-slur. (Read more on that here [link.])
Multisex: A person who identifies as multiple sexes at the same time.
Sexnull: A person who feels that their sex is best described as lacking or absent, or who desires for their sex traits to be null.
Xenosex: A person who feels that their sex is best described through concepts, objects, or nonhumans.
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Gender Terms
[PT: Gender Terms]
Genderqueer: A person whose gender or gender presentation is queer in some sense.
Transgender: A person who identifies differently from the gender socially imposed upon them and/or whose sense of gender differs from the cultural norms around them.
Cisgender: A person who identifies with the gender socially imposed upon them and/or whose sense of gender is aligned with the cultural norms around them.
Ultergender: An intersex person who identifies against the gender assigned to them at birth, while not necessarily feeling as though "transgender" applies to them (possibly due to being reassigned a gender later in life, or due to experiencing coercive intersex medical interventions, such as genital mutilation, reproductive mutilation, hormone abuse, etc.)
Ipsogender: An intersex person who identifies with the gender assigned to them at birth, while not necessarily feeling as though "cisgender" applies to them (possibly due to being reassigned a gender later in life, or due to experiencing coercive medical interventions.)
Intergender: A person who feels like their intersexuality impacts the way they view their gender.
Non-binary: A person who isn't a monogender binary man or monogender binary woman. This can be an umbrella term for all genders (or lack thereof) that stray from a monogendered binary, or it could be used as a lone identity. A non-binary person is an enban/enby (used like man/woman) and a group of non-binary people are enben/enbies.
Lunarian: A non-binary person who identifies with femininity in either presentation, experience, or internal identity.
Fenby/Finby/Femenby/Finenby/Femby: A non-binary person who is feminine, but not aligned with womanhood.
Nonbinary Woman/Engirl/Enwoman/Girlby/Womanby/Womenby: A non-binary person who also considers themself to be a woman in some shape or form (ie; being multigender, having a mixture of womanhood in their gender, etc.)
Solarian: A non-binary person who identifies with masculinity in either presentation, experience, or internal identity.
Menby/Minby/Minenby/Mascby: A non-binary person who is masculine, but not aligned with manhood.
Nonbinary Man/Enboy: A non-binary person who also considers themself to be a man in some shape or form (ie; being multigender, having a mixture of manhood in their gender, etc.)
Boygirl/Girlboy/Manwoman: A person who is simultaneously a man and a woman, either blended together or as two distinct aspects. Some boygirls consider themselves to be femmasc or androgyne.
Eclipsian: A non-binary person who identifies with both masculinity and femininity in either presentation, experience, or internal identity.
Femmasc/Mascfem: A person with a gender that is both feminine and masculine.
Calypsian: A non-binary person who identifies with androgyny in either presentation, experience, or internal identity.
Androgyne: A person with an androgynous gender. (Note: Androgyny describes a blend of femininity and masculinity. Some people prefer femmasc because they view their femininity and masculinity as separated distinct parts, rather than a blend.)
Femandrogyne: An androgyne person who leans towards femininity. Gynx is a person who is in-between androgyne and female.
Mascandrogyne: An androgyne person who leans towards masculinity. Androx is a person who is in-between androgyne and male.
Neutrois: A person with a gender experience that is neutral. (Note: Neutrality describes an unaligned, ambiguous, undefined, or "grey" experience.) Some null or genderless people consider their nullity/genderlessness to be neutral as well.
Neugender: A person with a gender experience that is part neutral, part something else. For example, a neudrogyne person would have a gender that is part neutral, part androgynous.
Stellarian: A non-binary person who identifies with neutrality in either presentation, experience, or internal identity.
Genderless: A person who is genderless. (Allogender is an umbrella term to describe anyone who isn't fully genderless; anyone who has a full gender is allogender.)
Erasgender: A person who feels as though their original gender was erased, leaving them with only traces of it. For example, a person who used to fully identify as othergender, but now only feels vaguely othergender and otherwise genderless.
Demigender: A person who is only partially a specific gender. For example, a person who considers themself 30% a woman would be a demiwoman/demigirl. A person may have multiple demigenders at once (ie; being 10% demiboy, 40% demixenine, and 50% deminull), or the rest of their gender "percentage" could be genderless. (Ie; 30% demioutherine, 70% genderless.)
Agender: A term that usually describes a person who is genderless, however it can also describe a person who considers themself to be detached/unaligned from the idea of gender.
Gendervoid: A person whose gender is absence. They consider their gender to be a void or empty space.
Gendernull: A person whose gender is null. Gendervoid people may consider themselves to be gendernull. (Note: Nullity describes a void/empty space, but still distinctly present experience. Nullity would be like an empty cup, while genderlessness would be like no cup at all.)
Boötian: A non-binary person who identifies with genderlessness or nullity in either presentation, experience, or internal identity.
Spacialian: A non-binary person who identifies with xeninity in either presentation, experience, or internal identity.
Xenogender: A person whose gender is best described through concepts, objects, or non-humans.
Othergender: A person whose gender is outherine. (Note: Outherinity describes an experience that is detached from femininity, masculinity, androgyny, neutrality, nullity, genderlessness, or xeninity. It is not empty/void and is a distinctly gendered feeling. It may be based on a cultural gender, ones self autonomy, or an entirely new concept. For example, a person who considers their gender to just be "myself", rather than any other gender qualities.)
Maverique: A person whose gender is outherine, in a non-cultural way.
Aporagender/Abinary: A gender that is not feminine, masculine, or androgynous, while still being present (not genderless.) Neutral genders, null genders, xenine genders, and outherine genders fall under this.
Multigender: A person who has multiple genders. This has specific subsets, such as Bigender (2 genders), Trigender (3 genders), Quadgender (4 genders), Quintgender (5 genders), Hexagender (6 genders), Septagender (7 genders), Octagender (8 genders), Enneagender (9 genders), Decagender (10 genders), and Pangender/Omnigender (all genders possible for their culture and/or mental/physical experiences.)
(Monogender is an umbrella term to describe anyone who isn't multigender; anyone who has only a singular gender is monogender.)
Genderfluid: A multigender person whose gender changes. How often it changes depends on the person (ie; multiple times every day, one every few days, once every few weeks, etc). They may have a few specific genders they rotate between (ie; rotating between man, woman, and neutrois) or they may have randomized gender experiences.
Genderflux: A multigender person whose gender fluctuates in intensity. For example, a girlflux person might fluctuate between being a woman, being a demigirl, and being genderless. Another example is a xenoflux person who fluctuates between demixenine and xenogender, but never becomes fully genderless.
Genderfluidflux: A multigender person whose gender fluctuates in intensity and also changes. For example, a person who is boyflux one day, and androgyneflux the next day.
Multiversian: A non-binary person who identifies with multiple gender alignments in either presentation, experience, or internal identity. Aurorian describes a non-binary person who is fluid between alignments.
Unlabeled Gender: A person who does not desire to label their gender.
Singularian: A non-binary person who rejects any concept of gender alignment in either presentation, experience, or internal identity.
Gender Apathetic/Apagender: A person who is apathetic about their gender.
Mingender: An umbrella term for masculine genders. This can also be used as a lone identity if a person doesn't want to specify in what way their gender is masculine.
Fingender: An umbrella term for feminine genders. This can also be used as a lone identity if a person doesn't want to specify in what way their gender is feminine.
Lingender: An umbrella term for androgynous genders. This can also be used as a lone identity if a person doesn't want to specify in what way their gender is androgynous.
Ningender: An umbrella term for neutral genders. This can also be used as a lone identity if a person doesn't want to specify in what way their gender is neutral.
Agingender: An umbrella term for agender-related genders (often including voidness and nullity.) This can also be used as a lone identity if a person doesn't want to specify in what way their gender is agender-related.
Xingender An umbrella term for xenine genders. This can also be used as a lone identity if a person doesn't want to specify in what way their gender is xenine.
Ouingender: An umbrella term for outherine genders. This can also be used as a lone identity if a person doesn't want to specify in what way their gender is outherine.
Aingender: An umbrella term for aporine genders. This can also be used as a lone identity if a person doesn't want to specify in what way their gender is aporine.
Uingender: An umbrella term for genders that are unknown, unidentifiable, undecided, unsure, or undetermined.
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Sex & Gender Labels
[PT: Sex & Gender Labels]
Trans: A person who is transsex, transgender, or both.
Cis: A person who is cissex, cisgender, or both.
Cistrans/Trancis/Trisgender (Tris): A person who is both trans and cis at the same time (ie; a transsex cisgender person, an intersex person whose gender has been reassigned multiple times and therefore they align with both transgender and cisgender experiences, a multigender person who identifies with their socially imposed gender and a different gender at the same time, etc.)
Transfeminine (Transfem): A person who is trans in a feminine way.
Trans Woman: A trans person who is a woman. They may be transitioning from man to woman, from enban to binary woman, from one type of womanhood to another type of womanhood (ie; binary woman to non-binary woman or vice versa), etc.
Transmasculine (Transmasc): A person who is trans in a masculine way.
Trans Man: A trans person who is a man. They may be transitioning from woman to man, from enban to binary man, from one type of manhood to another type of manhood (ie; binary man to non-binary man or vice versa), etc.
Transfemmasc: A person who is trans in both a fem and masc way.
Transandrogynous: A person who is trans in an androgynous way. Some people may prefer transfemmasc because they view their femininity and masculinity as two distinct facets, rather than a blended concept.
Transneutral: A person who is trans in a neutral way.
Transnull: A person who is trans in a null way.
Transgenderless: A person who is trans in a genderless way.
Transsexless: A person who is trans in a sexless way.
Transxenine: A person who is trans in a xenine way.
Transoutherine: A person who is trans in an outherine way.
Transaporine: A person who is trans in an aporine way.
Multitransitional: A person who is trans in multiple ways.
Woland- (Wolandsex, Wolandgender, etc): A person whose physical disability affects the way they perceive their identity. For example, a genderflux person who feels as though their gender fluctuates based on how much pain they are feeling at the moment.
Neuro- (Neurosex, Neurogender, etc): A person whose neurological or psychological disability affects the way they perceive their identity. For example, a xenosex person who feels as though their delusions are the reason why they wish for inhuman sex traits.
Caed-/Caedo- (Caedgender, Caedsex, etc): A person who feels as though trauma "cut away" their original identity. This could leave them genderless/sexless, or it could lead their previously gendered/sexed feelings to be replaced with a new gender/sex experience. For example, a person who used to identify as a man, but feels as though their trauma has cut away their manhood, and they now identify as neutrois as a result.
Alterhumangender/AHgender/Gendernonhuman (GenderNH): A person whose alterhuman (otherkin, therian, otherflicker, otherhearted, nonhuman sysmate, fictive, factive, etc) identity affects the way they perceive their gender. For example, a fictionkin demigirl whose source is a woman, and feels as though their connection to womanhood is because of their kin.
Cultural Gender/Cultural Sex: A gender or sex identity that is exclusive to a particular culture. There are many cultural genders/cultural sexes around the world.
Some examples of cultural genders/sexes include:
Siberia: Ergi/Argr
Balkans: Burrnesha/Sworn Virgin
Naples Italy: Femminiello
USA (including Alaska), Canada: some Two-Spirited identities
Latin America: Travesti
Mexico: Muxe/Biza’ah
Peru: Qwariwarmi
Ndongo Africa: Chibados
Ethiopa Africa: Ashtime
Central African Republic, DR Congo, South Sudan: Boy Wives/Male Wives
GNC (Gender Non-Conforming): A person who presents in a way not traditionally associated with their gender.
PNC (Pronoun Non-Conforming): A person who uses pronouns not traditionally associated with their gender (ie; a woman who uses she/her), or not traditionally used societally (ie; a person who uses neopronouns.) PNC people may sometimes consider themselves GNC.
Azalean/Cerul: An enban who presents femininely.
Carnatian/Vermil: An enban who presents masculinely.
Rosarian: An enban who presents in both a feminine and masculine way, either simultaneously (androgynous) or fluidly.
Lavenderian: An enban who presents in a neutral, genderless, null, or outherine way.
Amaranthian: An enban who presents in a xenine way.
Tomboy/Mascgirl: A fingender person who presents masculinely.
Azurgirl: A fingender person who presents masculinely, or a fingender person who has a deep connection to masculinity, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Femboy/Calicogirl/Tomgirl/Janegirl: A man who presents femininely.
Rosboy: A mingender person who presents femininely, or a mingender person who has a deep connection to femininity, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Softboy: A mingender person who is soft/gentle in personality and/or appearance.
Flamboyant: A person who acts/presents in a fancy or over the top (often sassy) manner. This is often applied to men, but can be applied to women & enben as well.
Twink: A skinny queer person (often a man) who bends traditional gender roles in some way, usually by being a femme, a softboy, or flamboyant. Twunk describes a twink that is slightly more muscular.
Femme: A queer person who presents femininely. Oftentimes they will bend traditional femininity.
Futch: A queer person who is both a femme and a butch, or in-between.
Butch: A person whose gender presentation is masculine in a queer way. This is often used by masculine women and transmasc people, but can also be used by anyone else who twists masculinity in a queer manner.
Butchwink: A person who considers themself both a butch and a twink.
Fish: A black person who is feminine in a queer way. Some fishes will use the label femme as well.
Stemme/Stem: A black person who is both a fish and a stud, or in-between. Some stemmes will use the label futch as well.
Stud: A black person whose gender presentation is masculine in a queer way. This is often used by black masculine women and black transmasc people, but can also be used by any other black person who twists masculinity in a queer manner. Some studs will use the label butch as well.
Bear: A big (muscular or fat) queer person (usually a man) who is hairy. Cub describes a young bear. Ursula describes a bear who is fingender. Urse/Ursule describes a bear who is non-binary.
Sugar Bear: A bear who is gender non-conforming (usually presenting femininely, but other gender presentations may apply.)
Cow: A fat fingender person who wishes to reclaim the insult "cow", using it as a synonym for ursula.
Chub/Gummybear: A fat queer person (usually a man) who is not hairy.
Otter: A thin or lightly muscular queer person (usually a man) who is hairy. This is often considered the in-between of twink/twunk and bear.
Futch Otter: A person who considers themself both a futch and an otter.
Charoigirl/Charoitegirl/Charoifem/Charoitefem/Drogygirl/Drogyfem: A fingender person who presents androgynously.
Wisterigirl/Wisterifem: A fingender person who presents androgynously, or a fingender person who has a deep connection to androgyny, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Charoiboy/Charoiteboy/Charoimasc/Charoitemasc/Drogyboy/Drogymasc: A mingender person who presents androgynously.
Wisteriboy/Wisterimasc: A mingender person who presents androgynously, or a mingender person who has a deep connection to androgyny, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Jadeigirl/Jadeitegirl/Jadeifem/Jadeigirl/Neutringirl/Neutrinfem: A fingender person who presents neutrally.
Callagirl/Callamasc: A fingender person who presents neutrally, or a fingender person who has a deep connection to neutrality, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Jadeiboy/Jadeiteboy/Jadeimasc/Jadeitemasc/Neutrinboy/Neutrinmasc: A mingender person who presents neutrally.
Callaboy/Callamasc: A mingender person who presents neutrally, or a mingender person who has a deep connection to neutrality, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Citrigirl/Citrinegirl/Citrifem/Citrinefem/Xegirl/Xefem: A fingender person who presents xeninely.
Zinnigirl/Zinnifem/Zinniagirl/Zinniafem: A fingender person who presents xeninely, or a fingender person who has a deep connection to xeninity, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Citriboy/Citrineboy/Citrimasc/Citrinemasc/Xeboy/Xemasc: A mingender person who presents xeninely.
Zinniboy/Zinnimasc/Zinniaboy/Zinniamasc: A mingender person who presents xeninely, or a mingender person who has a deep connection to xeninity, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Rhinegirl/Rhinefem/Rinegirl/Rinefem: A fingender person who presents outherinely.
Oenogirl/Oenothgirl/Oenothfem/Oenofem/Oberongirl/Oberonfem: A fingender person who presents outherinely, or a fingender person who has a deep connection to outherinity, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Rhineboy/Rhinemasc/Rineboy/Rinemasc: A mingender person who presents outherinely.
Oenoboy/Oenomasc /Oenothboy/Oenothmasc/Oberonboy/Oberonmasc: A mingender person who presents outherinely, or a mingender person who has a deep connection to outherinity, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Unakigirl/Unakifem/Porigirl/Porifem: A fingender person who presents aporinely.
Kniphogirl/Kniphofem/Kniphofiagirl/Kniphofiafem: A fingender person who presents aporinely, or a fingender person who has a deep connection to aporinity, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Unakiboy/Unakimasc/Poriboy/Porimasc: A mingender person who presents aporinely.
Kniphoboy/Kniphomasc/Kniphofiaboy/Kniphofiamasc: A fingender person who presents aporinely, or a fingender person who has a deep connection to aporinity, which typically goes beyond just presentation.
Drag Artist/Drag Performer: A person who dresses in an exaggerated manner, twisting gender presentation in a queer way. Oftentimes they will do this on stage for performances such as fashion shows, music/dance performances, skits, etc. A Drag Queen is someone who dresses in an exaggeratedly feminine way. A Drag King is someone who dresses in an exaggeratedly masculine way. A Drag Monarch/Drag Queer is someone who dresses in an exaggeratedly androgynous or aporine way. A Drag Monster is someone who dresses in an exaggeratedly inhuman way, often also with exaggerated femininity or masculinity integrated (ie; a hyperfeminine Godzilla outfit.)
Cusper: A person who considers themself to be in-between transgender and gender non-conforming (ie; in-between a trans woman and a femboy), or in-between transgender and cis transsex (ie; in-between androgyne and cisgender duomorphic.)
Transmasc and transfem are not the only two trans identities that exist.
If you want to be a trans ally, you need to include transandrogynous, transneutral, transnull, transgenderless, transsexless, transxenine, transoutherine, transaporine, multitransitional, multigender, and unlabeled trans people.
Additionally, you need to:
-Acknowledge that cistrans/transcis (cisgender transsex, cis & trans due to being multigender, cis & trans due to being intersex, cis & trans due to being plural, etc) people exist.
-Understand that trans =/= perisex, and that intersex people can be trans.
-Understand that transfem =/= AMAB, transmasc =/= AFAB, and include assignment variant trans people in your support.
-Support people who are gender non-conforming and/or pronoun non-conforming.
-Support people who use neopronouns.
-Stop depersonalizing non-binary people by calling them "they/thems" (not all enben use they/them anyways), and integrate enben/enbies and enban/enby into your vocabulary.
So is transsex the transition of physical sex traits and transgender the transition of one's gender away from what they were assigned at birth?
Transsex is when a person desires different sex traits than the ones they currently/previously had, yes.
Transgender is when someone identifies as a gender that differs from (one of) their socially imposed genders.
AGAB =/= socially imposed gender. AGAB is just a letter/word on your birth certificate. Its an aspect of socially imposed gender, but it's not SIG overall.
Socially imposed gender is how you were actually raised. Many intersex people and/or culturally gendered people are raised in a way that does not align with their AGAB.
I have a question...so I just read your post about how to be less perinormative (I think I spelled that right?), and..I have a question about the not using 'male anatomy' and 'female anatomy' and instead using the actual anatomical terms, which I get why, of course, but... I'm asexual, and sometimes using even anatomical words for those parts makes me feel really sick, like, physically, I'm sex repulsed, and sometimes even the idea.... yeah, so... d'you think there's any way I can get around having to use the anatomical words without being perinormative? This is a genuine ask btw, I really hope I haven't been rude or anything...
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You haven't been rude at all, no worries.
I understand that it's difficult, and I of course will not blame you for being sex repulsed, but sometimes there's not really a way to avoid it. The only way to avoid using anatomical turns is to not have discussions about anatomy at all.
Nobody is going to know what you're talking about if you don't say exactly what you mean.
"Female anatomy" and "male anatomy" is meaningless, due to the existence of trans & varsex people. "Perisex anatomy" and "intersex anatomy" is meaningless since people can change their anatomy, and some intersex people can have all the same natal sex traits of unaltered perisex people aside from their chromosomes. You really can't explain anatomy without being direct.
Imagine avoiding speaking directly about any other body part - nobody would know what you mean if you said "internal organ anatomy" (when referencing one specific internal organ, ie, the heart), "bone anatomy" (when referencing one specific type of bone), etc. Same goes for sexual and reproductive anatomy, nobody is going to know what you mean when you say "people with [vague term]" or "[label] anatomy."
Again, I don't blame you at all for being sex repulsed. Being sex repulsed is completely valid. It's just unfortunately not possible to be vague when speaking about anatomy.
I want to avoid pericisnormative language, but I'm afraid people will not understand what I mean and I don't think I'd be able to explain what it means. What do you do in situations like that? /genq
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I think this really depends. To put it gently, the only way we as a society can develop is if we spread this language, and therefore, that means unfortunately you'll have to educate other people. Otherwise nothing will ever change.
If you are posting something online, then you could always link to what you're referring to.
If you are speaking offline, brief descriptions of things work. (This also works online if linking is ineffective.) I know you said you don't think you can explain what it means, but maybe these examples could help. You don't have to go in extreme depth for someone to understand something.
Examples of brief descriptions you could give people:
"Intersex people - aka people with natal atypical sex traits for humans - are often medically abused, and..."
"The current laws in place also effect enben - aka nonbinary people."
"SPETE usually has menstrual cycles once a month. SPETE that stands for 'someone perisex expected to estrogenize', it's the non-gendered term for 'perisex female'."
"Hey, you really shouldn't call non-binary people 'they/thems', that's depersonalizing and also incorrect because not all of them use those pronouns. Enben or enbies would be the better term!"
