When today's teenage girls encounter mainstream feminism, male-dominated social justice activism and adult-approved inclusivity training, they may come up against rules and moral principles which do not feel right to them. Rape victims are compared to fascists, maternal feelings are dismissed as regressive, lesbians sexual boundaries are bigoted, wanting a sporting category of your own makes you selfish and exclusionary.
If girls are confused, they may be advised that this is a symptom of their privilege, they lack the deep insight of the most marginalised. The secret to managing all this is 'just to be kind'. Don't ask questions, don't worry your pretty little head about things you do not understand, ignore gut feelings and learn to stay silent. Your experience of yourself and the world is partial and irrelevant.
Victoria Smith (2025): Unkind. How 'be kind' entrenches sexism. Fleet, p. 236
