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A little thought exercise

So, imagine yourself like this.

You are usually viewed negatively by society for who you are. You are seen as "immature", no matter of your position in society.

You may also be viewed as a "Creep". You can be absolutely satisfied with life, but you will always be viewed as insecure or lacking.

If you are deemed "incompetent", you will not have anyone testify on your behalf in court.

Do you want to take time off from work to care for a sick person? You cannot do this. If you are severely injured or sick, nobody else can take time off from work to take care of you.

Your friends make plans for a group activity... but exclude you because you are different.

Tax relief are available for people who differ from you in one way... but they are not available to you.

You pay more per person for things like insurance.

You are frequently excluded from studies - because your opinion does not matter to the people forming the study.

You cannot set up your social security benefits to be received by anyone if you die.

If you suddenly die, there is no "Default" option for who will inherit your property - you must always keep your will ready in case something happens.

You can be the nicest, most amicable, most independent person - but people will express surprise when they find out what you are.

You are always last in line for vacation days - You are always expected to cover for the people who get first crack at vacation days. On days like Thanksgiving, Christmas, Labor Day, and New Years, you're often expected to show up at work - it's assumed you have no other plans.

You may not even -get- as many vacation days period - it's assumed you have no other plans.

You are always asked to cover for your coworkers who may have to leave early or take an emergency day off - not because you are reliable, but because they assume you have virtually no plans in your life.

Everyone else already has those days to be happy - There is no official recognition of a day for you to be proud of who you are. The only thing close to this mention is usually used as a derogatory term.

Even though there are as many adults like you as there are who are like you, but with the difference of privilege, politicians do not make any effort to appeal to you and say they are fighting for your rights.

If you have a child, not only will you have people questioning whether or not you are able to emotionally or financially care for them, but your child will usually be seen as a delinquent.

People always try to "Fix" you by placing you in situations regardless of you feeling uncomfortable. When you decide not to be "Fixed" because you are happy the way you are, they make no effort to understand that this is how you roll and assume you must be so emotionally unstable.

Whenever you try to point out the privilege to people with privilege, they laugh at you and tell you that you are just whining and that they do not have privilege since they have their own trials and tribulations, and to say you don't have privilege yourself

Sounds terrible, doesn't it?

Now tell me... what group of people came to mind when you read this?

If you guessed LGBTQ people... Incorrect.

The group of people I described are SINGLE PEOPLE

If this is not okay for anyone, why is it okay that we treat single people like this?

Trigger warning: Singleism, Romance

Couple's privilege is feeling like you're missing out on part of a game because you choose to play your character as asexual and aromantic.

I'm not playing Dragon Age: Inquisition because Bioware is deeply DEEPLY Singlist. If you try to pursue any character's quest in any of their games they hit on you. Most of the people define their "Shepard" as who they had them get in bed with. A big part of the ending changes if you happen to get in a romantic relationship with any characters. If I am playing a human male noble, it actually gives me the option to marry Anora. No, no, NO! Why is that option even there? It makes those of us singles feel extremely uncomfortable that you're even offering it! I know it's supposed to be a choice, but being aromantic and asexual is NOT a fucking choice, Bioware!

And this is assuming you're not playing a video game where your characters' relationships are all picked out for you. Do it like Tales of Vesperia - show people that you can put men and women in the same group as one another and they won't start falling in love with one another. Show us that people who work with others and don't pursue romance or sex is perfectly and entirely normal. Not like Tales of the Abyss where our characters start all falling in love with one another and there's all sorts of "ship teases" about Luke and Tear.

Tales of Vesperia doesn't deny you access to certain endings or certain parts of the game just because you don't want your characters falling in love with one another! Western RPGs are supposed to be more advanced and in-tune with things - yet why is it that Japan knows not to deny you certain scenes or endings just because there may be Singles playing the game who find it hard to relate to characters in love with one another? Maybe that's because Japan knows! Make your characters freaking relatable to singles!

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Couple's Privilege is being portrayed as perfectly normal in the media.

You people love to talk about how there aren't enough "PoC" in the media... or how there aren't enough women in the media. Viewing Tumblr, I see people bitch all the time about "There aren't enough fat people in the media, I feel like I don't belong because I don't see overweight people in the media" or "Where are all the trans people? They always get demonized! There are no characters that represent me!" But do you know who you never see in the media?

Single people.

Where are the role models for the future single people in the world? What about the Asexual people? What about the Aromantic people? Oh right... we DO have one!

...Sheldon Cooper.

Boy, did we get the shaft, huh? Sheldon Cooper teaches people that people not interested in sex or romance are absolute freaks and should be avoided. They're absolutely unsympathetic comedy protagonists who you're supposed to laugh at.

Remember As Told by Ginger? The TV show where, at the end, one of Ginger's friends didn't marry? Yep... it was Macie. The one who was portrayed as quirky, hypochondriac, with all sorts of weird habits, the one who would be considered "Gross" in real life...

...short of her infatuation with the older guy and Dodie's little brother.

Oh sure, we also get Sherlock Holmes... who is a drug user. Yeah, great message to send to the kiddies, good thing that little detail is often thrown out. "Sherlock Holmes is a great detective, just like Single People are! But he's also a drug user."

Because of our erasure through slapping sexualities and romantic preferences on people, of course a role model intended to be positive for us Singles like Sherlock Holmes will cause the wrong ideas. Do you know what happens? You display somebody who is supposed to represent this group - and that causes people to assume that they are all like that. Do you think people would grow up thinking black people are all criminals if you only showed them black criminals? Yes. They would.

Whenever you see someone on TV who is asexual, aromantic, or single? They're always portrayed as someone to be laughed at or someone you should be glad you're not. They're always seen as "Selfish". No. No. NO. NO

Single people are NOT selfish. Single people are just like anyone - just we don't want to be in a romantic relationship or boink anyone.

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