#xumromantic

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Xumrose, Xumromantic, and Xumsexual alt. flags

Made with my Xum flag templates, alternative flags using my Sunset Aroacespec / Aroace Spectrum flag, this Arospec / Aromantic Spectrum flag, and this Acespec / Asexual Spectrum flag.

Here are the separate symbols ( in order ) :

and here they are plain / without any outline ( still in order ) :

Free for anyone to use anywhere as always !! This was posted from Bug's drafts. If there are any mistakes please let me know so we can correct them.

[mikumikumogai]

rambly experience post time? rambly experience post time! this will specifically go into my romantic orientation experiences.

so. i'm neurorose, scrupirose, offalloromantic, xumromantic, asexual, alloace, and what i can only describe as "arospec by proxy." i also have generalized anxiety disorder.

this sounds weird, but i've always wanted to be arospec. i've been ace for a very long time, and i have no doubt in my sexual orientation. but after i figured out i was ace, i started to be particularly drawn to aro and arospec labels and experiences, feeling a sense of fascination and comfort when researching them. it felt like how one would describe an otherhearted experience, but for a romantic orientation, a sense of "this isn't me, but i wish it was."

but this fascination also led to a sort of.... anxious fixation. on "is this experience i have during a crush or romantic relationship arospec? is this a "normal" experience or is it non-normative?"

and this would repeat over and over and over as the labels changed. hence, xumromantic, neuroromantic, and scrupiromantic.

but at the same time, i knew i was allo. i knew i had crushes the way most people did, although possibly not as frequently. i also knew fixating on things like this was *not* what most people did, and most people didn't dream of being aro/arospec.

so, fast forward to today, and... i'm still questioning. i don't know where i stand fully on the aro-alloro spectrum, but i know the last time i had a crush (after 2 years of not having one), i HATED it. i hated how i acted to my crush, i hated the feeling of falling in love, and it all made me anywhere from slightly to very uncomfortable. until i fell fully in love, and then i was just an obsessive little shit. which is EXACTLY what i was dreading happening before it happened. so maybe i'm more arospec than i thought. or maybe i just don't like how i act during a crush. but. yeah. things to consider.

also, apologies to anyone who witnessed me having that crush. i know i was fucking insufferable.

anyway uhhh. ramble end. tagging @radiomogai for experiences post tag i guess? idk.

oh also if anyone can tell me if my experience sounds arospec or if i'm just Weird i'd appreciate it

[weeniewifes]

Inderomantic (Inde -Indecisive)

This is a flag + term redesign purely for myself, I genuinely could NOT stand the name or flag and it didn't flow with the rest of my identity, so this is for me. You all may use it too

The original term is Xumromantic, this flag is the same exact definition, check it out.

This term is exclusive to neurodivergent people. It was specifically coined with people with anxiety disorders, OCD, and OCPD in mind. The term implaromantic exists for neurotypical people who relate to this experience and don't want to appropriate.

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dni ;; homophobes/transphobes/terfs/if you are against xenogenders and neopronouns/racists/xenophobes/proshippers

[ijustwannamakeemojis]

[ID: Six pixel hearts of various flags in order being Xumsexual, Xumgender, Xumromantic, Alt Xumsexual, Alt, Xumgender, and Alt Xumromantic. End ID]

???: xumgender

@pride-color-schemes the rest

[gaydastampz]

[nebularo]

Aro Neurorientations List

There’s definitely more than what I could find. The links are to flags/coining posts. I only recently learned about a few of these so if I’m misrepresenting something please let me know and I will edit the definition.

Neuroromantic: Umbrella term for romantic orientations characterized by the influence of the individual’s neurodivergency.

Arovague: when the individual’s aromantic orientation is influenced by their neurodivergency.

Nebularomantic: difficulty distinguishing platonic and romantic attraction due to neurodivergency. (Flag can be found here.)

Requiesromantic: limited or lack of romantic attraction/desire due to emotional exhaustion. Particularly caused by neurodivergence, disability, and/or chronic illness.

Xumromantic: Never being satisfied with your romantic orientation due to constant self-doubt or identity issues, causing the individual continuously seek out the closest to perfect orientation. Due to neurodivergence, particularly anxiety symptoms.

Echoromantic: feeling romantic attraction only to people that you see as extensions of yourself or that you are an extension. Due to neurodivegence, particularly low empathy or difficulties expressing empathy.

[ask-pride-color-schemes]

hi! is there an orientation similar to what pendogender means or can i just say i'm pendoromantic?

Yep, xumromantic is neurodivergent only, and impla/inexromantic is for everyone!

Mod Kai

[mothmanliveshere]

Hayley Kiyoko awakens my Gay™ and leads it to battle against my a-spec for dominance