#neuroromantic

[theemossevergreen]

Hirnsexual and Hirnromantic

Hirnsexual (first flag): Hirnsexual is a term under both the asexual umbrella and neurosexual umbrella. It describes someone who experiences sexual interest in someone quickly due to their neurodivergence or because of a hyperfixation on that person, but only if the other person shows sexual interest in them first. People who are hirnsexual may initially develop sexual feelings very quickly, but over time those feelings can deepen and become stronger as long as the sexual interest continues to be reciprocated. Hirnsexual is considered to be a mix of neurosexual and reciprosexual. The prefix “Hirn-” stands for Hyperfixated, Interest, Reciprocated, and Neurodivergence. Because the term is rooted in neurodivergent experiences, people who are not neurodivergent should not use it. Hirnsexual can also be used alongside other identity labels, such as being hirnsexual and demiromantic or hirnsexual and pansexual, etc. This term was coined by me, Moss! Flag color meaning: 1st stripe pink: Hyperfixated 2nd stripe salmon: Interested 3rd stripe light pink: Reciprocated 4th stripe purple: Asexuality / Ace Spectrum 5th stripe green: Neurodivergence

Hirnromanitc (second flag): Hirnromantic is a term under both the aromantic umbrella and the neuroromantic umbrella. It describes someone who falls for another person quickly due to their neurodivergence or because of a hyperfixation on that person, but only if the other person shows romantic interest in them first. People who are hirnromantic may initially develop feelings very quickly, but over time those feelings can deepen and become stronger as long as the romantic interest continues to be reciprocated. Hirnromantic is considered a mix of neuroromantic and recipromantic. The prefix “Hirn-” stands for Hyperfixated, Interest, Reciprocated, and Neurodivergence. Because the term is rooted in neurodivergent experiences, people who are not neurodivergent should not use it. Hirnromantic can also be used alongside other identity labels, such as being hirnromantic and demisexual or hirnromantic and omniromantic, etc. This term was coined by me, Moss! Flag color meaning: 1st stripe pink: Hyperfixated 2nd stripe salmon: Interested 3rd stripe light pink: Reciprocated 4th stripe light green: Aromantic / Aro Spectrum 5th stripe green: Neurodivergence

[mikumikumogai]

rambly experience post time? rambly experience post time! this will specifically go into my romantic orientation experiences.

so. i'm neurorose, scrupirose, offalloromantic, xumromantic, asexual, alloace, and what i can only describe as "arospec by proxy." i also have generalized anxiety disorder.

this sounds weird, but i've always wanted to be arospec. i've been ace for a very long time, and i have no doubt in my sexual orientation. but after i figured out i was ace, i started to be particularly drawn to aro and arospec labels and experiences, feeling a sense of fascination and comfort when researching them. it felt like how one would describe an otherhearted experience, but for a romantic orientation, a sense of "this isn't me, but i wish it was."

but this fascination also led to a sort of.... anxious fixation. on "is this experience i have during a crush or romantic relationship arospec? is this a "normal" experience or is it non-normative?"

and this would repeat over and over and over as the labels changed. hence, xumromantic, neuroromantic, and scrupiromantic.

but at the same time, i knew i was allo. i knew i had crushes the way most people did, although possibly not as frequently. i also knew fixating on things like this was *not* what most people did, and most people didn't dream of being aro/arospec.

so, fast forward to today, and... i'm still questioning. i don't know where i stand fully on the aro-alloro spectrum, but i know the last time i had a crush (after 2 years of not having one), i HATED it. i hated how i acted to my crush, i hated the feeling of falling in love, and it all made me anywhere from slightly to very uncomfortable. until i fell fully in love, and then i was just an obsessive little shit. which is EXACTLY what i was dreading happening before it happened. so maybe i'm more arospec than i thought. or maybe i just don't like how i act during a crush. but. yeah. things to consider.

also, apologies to anyone who witnessed me having that crush. i know i was fucking insufferable.

anyway uhhh. ramble end. tagging @radiomogai for experiences post tag i guess? idk.

oh also if anyone can tell me if my experience sounds arospec or if i'm just Weird i'd appreciate it

[hawkeyeflags]

hirnsexual and hirnromantic !

[thatnerdyqueer]

People get so confused when I try to explain the type/s of attraction I feel. But let me put it like this: I "fall in love" with someone's character. I don't want their body - I want their presence. I don't lust after them - I admire them. I don't want a romantic relationship - I find them fascinating. Interesting. Fun. They challenge and compliment me. They're loyal. They're funny. They're not two-dimensional, they're a well rounded character. I fall in love with someone as a character, as an arc, as a person. As a friend. People seem to read this one of two ways - it's romantic, or it's just platonic and I haven't found the right person yet. *sigh* the definition of platonic is 'deeply affectionate but not romantic in nature'. So yeah, it's platonic. It's deep. It's affectionate. It's not romantic. It's just as good though, so can we stop saying 'just'?

Like, you know when people have gay panics? I want that, and frequently experience it, but in a platonic way. As in, wow what you did was really impressive/intersting I want to get to know you and spend time with you kind of way. Not in a wow I want to kiss you way. Someday I want to meet someone in a bookshop and 'flirt' with them or whatever allos seem to think it is, and get their phone number. And then, instead of asking them to see a movie as a date, I'll ask them to come and eat pop corn with my friends and watch a movie because I think they'll find it interesting.

Make no mistake - I'm aroace, but I still want my meet cute. I want a platonic meet cute where I find someone, who's character is so full and interesting and bursting with life that I get their number and send them memes and geek out with them, and get to know them and admire them until we feel comfortable around each other. I just want to live with someone. To read together, watch tv shows together, listen to music together, go to the theatre together, without them being considered 'dates'. Because I don't want them because I want their body. I want them in my life because I like their character.

And if you think about it, I'm very lucky in this way. Because, while not everyone has a super-model body, the vast majority of individuals are so bursting with life that I am very, very, likely to find people, many people, whose character I love. To be honest, I've already found plenty. But, ever the "optimist", I hope I find more :)

[givemecoins]

Neuroromantic lesbian

[pt: Neuroromantic lesbian/end pt]

Colors are a match of the colors of the neuroromantic and sunset lesbian flags.

[jamiieeez]

Neurorose

Neurorose is when someone is both neurosexual and neuroromantic.

I made a neuroattractional flag some time ago, the flag is here[link]

Caedrose

Caedrose is when someone is both caedosexual and caedoromantic.

Caedattractional

Caedattractional is where someone feels that one was previously able to experience attraction, but that ability was lost due to trauma or negative events.

Here[link] is the link to the caed(o) flags.

[polygamousfistingchaos]

Schizottractional / Autittractional / Antisocittractional / Conducttranctional

Schizottractional: When your experience on the anattractional spectrum is tied to/caused by having schizophrenia spectrum disorder.

Autittractional: When your experience on the anattractional spectrum is tied to/caused by having autism spectrum disorder.

Antisocittractional: When your experience on the anattractional spectrum is tied to/caused by having anti social personality disorder.

Conducttractional: When your experience on the anattractional spectrum is tied to/caused by having conduct disorder.

[foulwitchknight]