[sartbismus]

so are you a terf or am I thinking of someone else?

what’s a terf lol

[freckledscum-deactivated2023071]

It stands for titties everywhere, really fantastic

[sartbismus]

sign me up!!

[sleepboulevard2-deactivated2026]

In almost all other animal species the males preen themselves and try hard to impress the females who are (rightfully) pickier. Meanwhile we have women doing 10 step makeup routines and getting plastic surgery to look good for men who don't wash their asses. This is fucked. This is wrong. The order of the universe has been violated and you're laughing

[catchymemes]

[sweetest-girl-in-the-universe]

The male is a biological accident: the Y (male) gene is an incomplete X (female) gene, that is, it has an incomplete set of chromosomes. In other words, the male is an incomplete female, a walking abortion, aborted at the gene stage. To be male is to be deficient, emotionally limited; maleness is a deficiency disease and males are emotional cripples.

Valerie Solanas, SCUM Manifesto

[womenarehuman]

My FAV book excerpt, always reblog ❤️

[6-beez]

Also mad respect for the South Korean feminists who created and popularized the 4b/6b4t movement in a country with extreme misogyny. We need to respect the roots of this movement and the women who spread it.

[typhlonectes]

[traumatizedbymen]

Men would rather traumatize the people around them than get help

[redfemmay]

That is bc men function and get their fuel by causing pain and destruction to others

[hadesoftheladies]

sometimes i think about how women are forced to live with their natural predator, groomed and conditioned to starve their bodies and make themselves weak, wear clothes or heels that are inconvenient when it comes to fighting or running away . . . and how they can kill their rapist or their domestic abuser and still go to jail for it

i also think about how demonized women are for desperately wanting to opt out of the violence of pregnancy, a good number of which men inflict on them as a form of violence, how children, girls, can be sexually brutalized and then arrested for dealing with that consequence

sometimes i connect these two thoughts

[hadesoftheladies]

a woman with purpose, a woman with autonomy and liberty, a woman animal, with hair and teeth and nails, a woman mobile, a woman with personhood, a woman with ambition, a woman with sexuality and desire, a woman that gazes back, a woman that suffers, a woman that thinks, that disagrees and has opinions,

a woman alive

is an offense to men that they believe deserves death. and they have and continue to kill women for it.

[pikafem]

girl math this. girl math that. put some RESPECT on their names

(pictured: Emmy Noether; Sof'ja Vasil'evna Kovalevskaja; Katherine Johnson; Maryam Mirzakhani)

[thatbitchery]

FORMAL COMMUNICATION 101: Phrases we are NO longer using, why, and what to use instead

1. I'm sorry/ I apologize

-> apology is admission of guilt. The law girlies have more on this. Admission of guilt is a submissive state that puts you under the dominance of someone else.

Instead, make it a praise moment for the other person

I'm so sorry I'm late that won't happen again

Thank you for your patience. Shall we begin?

2. In my opinion

Unless youre the spokesperson of a group its obvious what you say is your opinion. Pointing out out has an energy of 'don't attack me' which takes from your confidence and makes you seem weak since you're so used to being attacked to your opinion to a point you've resulted to pre-defense

Instead, use I think/ I'm of the opinion that

In my opinion equality is subjective

I'm of the opinion equality is subjective.

3. It's okay

It never is. Even if it is, a person apologizing is admitting guilt, let them sit in it that puts you in the position of power. Never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever use those two words okay? Okay. It's the most awwwww naw pick me you get.

Instead use any firmer phrase, depending on your reaction (just because they apologized doesn't mean it's okay)

Nah it's okay it's all good

I didn't appreciate that, it's for the best that it doesn't happen again

I hear your apology / you. See you next time

(Uh we NEVER forgive someone just because they apologized. A place in your life must be earned, an apology isn't words its action)

4. Yes, but.

They contradict each other, usually one uses them to validate a point while contradicting it and it's always a flop. "But" indicates contradiction/ resistance, no one likes that.

Yes, but it's also true that I'm right

I see where you're coming from, it makes sense from that angle. It however also makes sense from this angle, I think it's time we consider dualism / dichotomy.

5. If that makes sense

Submission 101. Little miss I have no faith in my intellectual abilities and want to exempt myself from the embarrassment of being wrong/ little miss I can not withstand conflict so I play it down. Do. Not. It makes sense or it doesn't, say what you're saying and go.

The alternative is using 'I'm of the opinion that' / 'from where I'm standing'.

Well, women work twice as hard and face twice more challenges, if that makes sense

From where I'm standing / I'm of the opinion of / in my experience, women work twice as hard and face twice more challenges

Pro tip: your opinion / experience can not be challenged since one would have to be in your place to do so. It's the ultimate power point.

6. Just

Nothing is more annoying than women that use this especially when making a case in a formal situation. No one will take you seriously when you sound like a teenager with self esteem issues. This downplaying of an opinion/ situation/ point to literally look smaller and less threatening isn't just submissive its pathetic. Unless youre talking to your friends stop that.

It's just that he said its okay so

No it's just I don't think we should

It just doesn't make any sense to me that-

There's no substitute for completely eliminating this word from your conversation. None. And speak with your voice steady and back upright, that little soft sound that accompanies this phrase is worse.

7. Of course /

Especially after being asked to to a favor / task this eagerness to please doesn't sound very high value to me. Of course is possibly the highest level of willing submission

"Of course I will (enter task)"

I'll see if I can, I'll do my best.

'Yeah sure' is the closest evil cousin.

[lagoonhag]

anyway it’s funny how you can say masculinity is a prison and people generally agree, but when you say femininity is a prison suddenly people think you’re personally attacking every single person who has ever enjoyed wearing lipstick

[pussyistheforbiddenfruit-deacti]

Do you ever experience feeling estranged and isolated from most women but at the same time relieved because the lifestyle of the average women sounds like a living nightmare? lol it’s an odd feeling.

All the time anon! But yes it's relieving, freeing actually! If being isolated from the world like this makes me free to be myself, then I will gladly take this over trying to be "normal" any day.

Hell, this society's definition of normal is damaging to the average person, especially women it restricts the personality, limits the mind, and harms the spirit no person should ever thrive to be this society's version of normal.

[greenwire]

hi just curious why you call lundy bancroft a freaky cult guy in your tags, from that gifset you reblog? i know their have been some accusations against him and just curious about why you call him freaky cult guy or if it's just tongue and cheek thing to say in tags! thanks

Lundy Bancroft is an author and he wrote the book Why Does He Do That, which I consider to be well written and I recommend people read it. The reason why I put it in the tags is because there are some facts about him that I find, not necessarily damning, but in my opinion makes him somewhat suspect.

First: Here's the website for his "Peak Living Network" which is a mixed sex organization that holds retreats: https://lundybancroft.com/retreats/

Based on the seminar titles, he is actively recruiting vulnerable women who have been abused before to these retreats and that by itself is iffy. Bancroft is an expert in working with abusive men. Why is he trying to have retreats for women who have been abused to "heal," why is he including men on these retreats, and what is his expertise in counseling women who are abuse victims?

Second: At these events, he is apparently grooming attendees in order to form relationships with them. The evidence for this is pretty spotty, however. A woman came forward with a video titled "My Lundy Bancroft Nightmare" about going to a PLN retreat and being sexually harassed by Bancroft. She alleges that several women have the same experience, but she also quietly removed her video and scrubbed all evidence of it from the web. I haven't been able to locate any archived version of it.

Here's the link that proves the video existed at one time: https://radfemspiraling.wordpress.com/2018/09/23/watch-metoo-my-lundy-bancroft-nightmare-1-of-3-on-youtube/

I think it's iffy and something about hosting a retreat and specifically targeting vulnerable women who have gone through the extremely damaging experience of intimate partner violence strikes me as predatory. Bancroft has no psychological credentials. Abusers are not mentally ill. Their issue is that they are entitled, not that they are sick.

But when you've gone through the trauma of being abused, you need a professional to help you out. Spending thousands of dollars to go on some retreat to meet an author instead of putting that money toward psychological counseling with an accredited expert (better yet: feminist psychological counseling) is not a wise choice. It's your choice to make, of course, but I think the fact that this is something offered at all is unethical.

I don't expect total purity from other people. I think, even if it comes out that Bancroft is himself abusive, that his book will still remain an accurate guide to how abusive men think. I hope the allegations, such as they are, are untrue. But, we have seen time and again, men who are self-aware, men who self-ID as feminists, men who are passionate and outspoken about eradicating prejudice where ever it is found, can still be predatory.

[tetraterezi]

I dont trust rich folk.

[femsolid]

I don't trust men.

Take what you need from him but never forget what he is.

[greenwire]

That was my point too. It was just a tag I put on a photoset that morphed into this thing and now that I’m being accused of lying (even though I posted the links and explained why I, personally, find Lundy suspect). This is just a game to men and their handmaidens and there’s no correct answer. Publicly accuse a man? You’re just trying to ruin his career because you’re a vindictive bitch and you’re lying besides. Oh and also you’re the REAL abuser. Privately tell women in your personal circle about what happened? You’re just feeding a rumor mill without any evidence and gossiping without applying critical thinking. Tell no one what happened? Perfect. That’s exactly what we want. It means nothing happened and therefore the status quo is fine.

[femsolid]

That's exactly right.

I'm not surprised you were accused of lying though. Don't you know women are always lying about men being abusive?

And I'm a bit tired of women being forever disappointed and surprised everytime a man turns out to be an abusive misogynist. This wouldn't happen if we applied class analysis to every man, no exception, which is the point of class analysis in the first place.

We know that all men are misogynists to some degree, that they all enjoy our oppression to some degree and that they've all hurt women to some degree. You enjoy a man's music? Books? Movies? Activism? Okay. Fine. That doesn't mean you have to trust him, idolize him or forget that he's a misogynist. Because yes. all. men.

[ms-hells-bells]

@greenwire​ i can absolutely back you up because i witnessed the entire explosion of accusations. i’m one of the lesser amount of radfems still remaining from pre 2016, and i remember what happened very clearly. it wasn’t just that one video. there were at least two other accusations i believe, that came out within 24 hours after that video due to the victims feeling emboldened by the youtube video where the brave young woman revealed her face, and therefore essentially her identity. one was a wordpress post, and i can’t remember what the other was, but it wasn’t from twitter or youtube, some kind of blogging website that allows long format writing, similar to tumblr and wordpress (may have been another wordpress, but the third one is the fuzziest for me due to being up the shortest amount of time). and as all of us were sharing and freaking out about the accusations, they were gone as quick as they came. but not without alarming signs. one radfem posted a screenshot of what the youtube video used to be because either she had preemptively saved it, or was in the process of viewing it (suddenly a lot of us who were watching and rewatching couldn’t access it since it was taken down). and in place of the video and thumbnail, it had the typical grey screen when a video is taken down from copyright, and i’m not sure if they still do it on youtube now, but it also stated on the screenshot who had taken it down, and it said verbatim “claimant :Mr Lundy Bancroft”. all of us were aghast and enraged. and my memory is less clear for the text posts, but i do believe i remember one of them writing another post after they deleted the accusation, but before they deleted their entire presence and stopped speaking, that they were contacted and threatened with a slander lawsuit by bancroft’s legal team, and she removed everything in fear. i don’t know about the other accusation, but because it disappeared around the same time, i think it’s safe to assume something similar happened. 

and all three of the accusations struck the exact same theme; they were abused women that went to this ‘healing retreat’ because they loved bancroft’s book, it really helped them, and they held an immense amount of trust in him. but on the retreat, bancroft’s actions made them extremely uncomfortable and revictimised. i vividly remember one talking about how he’d come up behind her and give her shoulder and back massages without her consent and asked if she liked it. another accusation (i don’t remember who’s was who’s, if multiple were in the statement of the same person, if the same action was in multiple accusations, etc.) was that he’d ask inappropriate questions, about their relationship status, ask if he could take them out after the retreat, about their interest in sex, if they had been sexually abused. he’d apparently use that “therapist language”, and talk about “healing”, and “recovery”, but in the context of....doing things with him. and so these women would avoid him at all costs during the rest of the retreat, but stay because they didn’t want to waste their money (no refunds and extremely expensive. like greenwire said, even without the sexual harassment it feels nasty and exploitative) and also, being abuse victims, they had no sense of form boundaries and refusal, which bancroft would have known very well. 

there are multiple other radfems that witnessed the entire occurrence on radblr, but most aren’t on here anymore. but some are, and definitely remember it, even if they weren’t paying as much attention to it as me. even some women who migrated from radblr to reddit remember, bancroft being predatory was brought up by some women on fds just a few months ago. so, while there is no physical evidence left, bacroft made sure of that, there’s a bunch of us women who were direct witnesses to the accusations. when a ton of us are saying this, are saying that we saw the exact same things, what’s there not to believe? especially when the intial and main accusation came from a woman not hiding her identity at all. she wasn’t a famous person, she had no sway or power, she was just a woman showing her identity on camera and stating what happened. even if the other two were fake trolls (which i don’t believe, at least for the second accusation. like i said, the third is fuzzy), just that video alone is enough. 

and like greenwire said, his book is incredible, has helped many women, and will continue to be a valuable tool. in the same way as the science, inventions, and words of many historical terrible men.

[ttaibhse]

i wish we lived in a version of the world where women en masse suddenly developed unprecedented levels of class consciousness and started removing men from our vicinity by force

[nora-fem]

Why is it that a body with breasts cannot be "genderless"?

Do you think that the male body is the default and therefore the genderless one?

Why is the flat chest more desirable to you?

What associations do you have with women with large breasts?

What emotions come up when you see the phrase "large breasts"?

When was the last time you saw a woman with large breasts hold great power and/or be respected?

If you're a person with large breasts who feels they are dehumanised, disrespected and sexualised, do you hate your breasts?

Do you wish you didn't have them?

Is it hard to know that you should blame other people?

Does it feel wrong to blame other people?

It is not your body that is wrong, the disconnect you feel is between the way your body is perceived and the way you know you should be treated.

This is one way that misogyny causes gender dysphoria.

[importantanimalfacts]

[the-indoor-kites]

[unashamedly-enthusiastic]

Too small, too powerful

[postpostirony]

100% for real, this lil fash shithead has no idea, but this is such an absolutely perfect encapsulation of how the squalid institution of hetero marriage under capitalism is. Marx could not have phrased it better himself.

This is what they have in mind as the ideal, as the institution that the state is supposed to revolve around. All the means testing, tax shit, etc etc etc All the medieval fuckery that treats people who aren't married as different from people who aren't. This is what it comes down to.

[audrey-hepbae]

You get to be a sex slave (because leaving is about to become financially impossible) and you get free food (you shop for, cook, wash dishes, and clean the kitchen), clothes (you do the laundry for the whole family and iron his shirts), lodging (you clean the house), income (an allowance that he decides on), healthcare (he’s not going to let you decide on when to have kids or how many), a car (it’s his so if you escape in it he gets to report it stolen so the police will help find you), and lots of cute clothes (sexy clothes to show you off as a trophy but when other men look too hard at you he’ll call you a boundary less, disrespectful slut). What a deal!

[amoebaforce]

THIS is why we see more divorces and women opting out of marriage entirely nowadays — not any bullshit reason a guy with a podcast peddles.

at the end of the day, it boils down to a simple question. in the modern day, why would a woman willingly become some “alpha” man’s live-in cook/maid/secretary/personal assistant/fuckable mother figure/captive, when she can remain single and be a person?

[ihatemenandtherearereasons]

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