Little girls are watching this and thinking that its ok.
(Tw eating disorder/anorexia discussion under the cut. Some triggering stuff might be mentioned, please do not read if that will cause you distress.)
Do you know how many women posted about "not eating their popcorn in the theater when they saw Ariana's waist" THATS NOT OK. No one is blaming Ariana (or any of the malnourished female stars) for these women's weak senses of self esteem and confidence, that's their issue, but I don't really even give a shit about that. If a grown woman wants to starve herself, go ahead. It's her body. She can do that.
I'm worried about the little girls. Because once upon a time I was a teenage girl with an eating disorder. Thank god the ozempic epidemic wasn't happening when I was sick, I probably wouldn't have had half the desire to recover.
Like y'all I am so sure that in many ed facilities, the kids weren't allowed to watch wicked. Which sucks. It's a great film. But I know damn well that if I had a child with an eating disorder, there is no way I would let them watch wicked.
And the people who cry "body shaming" when people point out these concerns are full of shit, because they almost always respond with some form of "I bet you're a fat cow". I literally just saw someone say "I bet you're a fat whore." Which it should also be said that most of these women's defenders are in fact young girls, so that's not their fault. They're being influenced, and quite frankly brainwashed, by diet culture.
No, we shouldn't be commenting on women's bodies, but sometimes we do need to. This isn't a one person issue. It's a large issue, and not just in Hollywood. My friends ballet instructor from high school is a very petite woman. Barely ate as well. She went on ozempic and is now lighter than her 13 year old daughter. She brags about it too. That's not normal, that's sick. My sister told me a story of a young woman who had an ed, and convinced a med spa to put her on ozempic. She's 23 and now about 80 pounds. Not fucking normal.
(I'd also like to say that commenting on someone's body from a place of concern is sometimes needed, even if it hurts feelings. My sister would put me in my place when I used to brag about my thinness, and I needed it. One time she literally told me "You don't look good, you look like a little girl". Now, was that kind? No. Do I recommend saying something like that? No, I think a kinder and more gentle approach is needed. However, my sister not feeding into my delusion was so helpful, even if it hurt. I needed someone to get my head out of the clouds, and my friends sure as hell weren't doing that, and my mom was too scared.)
I'm a grown woman. I am comfortable in my adult body. I have no desire to look like a little girl, why would I want that? That would mean I wouldn't be able to defend myself well if needed. It would mean I have less energy to work and make money for myself and my future. I would have less mental clarity. I wouldn't be able to carry my nephews for extended periods of time.
But for some reason, society has convinced women (and girls) that it's ok to be fatigued, as long as you're skinny. Because all that matters is skinny, right?
Of course, I know that some women have medical issues that cause weight loss. They are not part of this conversation. Although....
It's hard to recognize when someone is sick now. Because everyone looks sick. That shouldn't be the norm.
And no one can tell me I'm crazy for saying this, because I've fucking been there. You think a recovered anorexic can't recognize the signs?
Bones are a big thing for us sick girls. We fucking love bones. I used to lay down on my floor naked and fucking marvel at the way my hip bones jutted out from beneath my skin. I used to cry because my sternum and collar bones weren't visible enough. I felt giddy when someone looked at me with concern. I loved that I fit into little girls clothing. I loved that everyone thought I was four years younger than I actually was. So yeah, I know what the fuck I'm talking about.
It's a sickness. A mental sickness. And when you defend it you just normalize it. Anorexia should not be normalized. Women looking frail and like children should not be normalized.
Anorexia kills people. There are girls I went to treatment with that are now in the ground. Fuck everyone who defends this shit.
I'm not saying this to bash Ariana or any of the other female stars who are playing into the skinny trend. I genuinely love Ariana, she's one of my most played artists. I think she' seems sweet too. But the reality is that young girls are watching this. And young girls are also watching their moms, sisters, coaches, aunts, etc. I want those young girls to have good examples, I want them to be healthy. We all need to be better for the girls that are growing up in this generation.
(I'd also like to say that I know damn well that all genders can suffer from eating disorders, including men and boys. However, it is very prevalent among girls and women.)
And look, if I get heat for this so be it. I'm not sorry that I don't want people starving. I'm not sorry that I don't want girls to waste their teenage years in treatment centers. I'm not sorry that I don't want people to fucking die from an illness that is preventable.
(ALSO DW GUYS I AM FULLY RECOVERED NOW. I honestly don't even think about food its great. If anyone who's struggling has read this, just know that it can get better. I'm not gonna say it does get better, because for a lot of people it won't. But it can. You just have to want it for yourself. No one can make you recover, it's up to you. I hope you want that for yourself.)
a few days ago i was told that my mom outright said she loved my siblings more than me when i was a kid. and when i confronted her about child abuse she got two cats and named them the names i wanted to name my future kids (at the time) because she thought she'd never see her grandkids or something, while also saying what happened to me was "false memories"
i want everyone with weird cruelty coming from their parents and everyone who feels like they're making up for lost formative years to know they aren't alone and there's a lot of us out there figuring it out too alongside you. you've always deserved love, i pinky promise
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