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Sex is biological | Gender is ideological

[healingsuggestions]

this spring I will grow and grow and grow

[thatwitchdemon-blog]

especially my leg and arm pit hairs 

[genuinehumanboy]

you can only reblog this today

[salty-french-fry]

Golden rule of thumb for art kids: reblogging Bob Ross will bless you latest work

[mens-rights-activia]

[livorwort]

psychic *reads my mind*

Me;

[mens-rights-activia]

Someone approached me irl yesterday and mentioned this video and I got so flustered because I can’t believe people remember me most by my 3 am fever dream wow

[chronicgroggyconfusion-deactiva]

I think this video is cursed because every so often I’ll think about it out of the blue and the next time I’m on tumblr I see it.

[mens-rights-activia]

This video is definitely cursed. Cause I’m OP and I died making it

[i-will-eat-dynamite]

beautiful women + underarm hair 

[superseventies]

[rainbowstickersandunicorn]

I’d go straight to heaven if i were Therese in that scene tho

[jessicapin]

I am trying to spread awareness about the omission of clitoral neural anatomy from OB/GYN literature. The goal is to leverage social pressure in order to get it added to textbooks and board exams. The effect of this change would be improving female sexual medicine and protecting patients from preventable harm caused by ignorance of this anatomy.

Please reblog 🙏🏻

The most efficient solution would be to get the American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology to add this anatomy to board exams. This would force OB/GYN textbooks to add it and OB/GYN residency programs to teach it. ABOG refuses. Enough social pressure would force them to acknowledge and remedy this problem.

If anyone wants to sign up for Medium and clap for my article that would be awesome. If anyone wants to share this on Facebook, twitter, or Instagram, that’s awesome too. I posted it on Twitter here:

https://twitter.com/jessicaannpin/status/1019764547098423298?s=21

[bodyglitter]

i hate when people who clearly have friends and people to hang out with always say they have no friends like…stop appropriating lonely bitch culture

[redkatherinee-deactivated201808]

thank you @pronounrespecter :3

[redkatherinee-deactivated201808]

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[pronounrespecter]

💖💖💖

[larpsandtherealgirl]

🙏😔✨ 

[pronounrespecter]

🙏🙏🙏

[slayeroftims-deactivated2019041]

Keep Males Out Of Women’s Sports

[trannosphere]

[wethrowaway111111world-deactiva]

[sacred-portal]

[lousirthe3rd-deactivated2022080]

Me trying to find a way into the circle

[goldensweetcheeks-deactivated20]

I am cracking TF UP

[femmefrequency]

Imagine if male genitals were treated like female genitals? Like testicles weren’t even referred to as testicles and some men didn’t even know what they were actually called and the general area was just called “penis”.

[hairymanhatingdyke-deactivated2]

Imagine if boys were told that their prostate doesn’t exist. Imagine if hairy genitals on men were called “bearded snakes.” And they don’t know how many different holes they have until adulthood. Imagine.

[radscumblr]

imagine if men were flocking en mass to get “testicle tightening” surgeries.  imagine if men weren’t taught that they could have orgasms.  Imagine if it were considered rude to say “penis” even in debates regarding legislature involving medical care about men’s penises.  Imagine penis was a word that was considered too “dirty” to be said on television. Imagine if penis’s were depicted only as meat-sticks that fit in vaginas with no other value.  Imagine if teenage boys heard joke after joke about how all dicks smell terrible no matter what

[articulatebitches]

Imagine if people thought the more a penis was used, the smaller and more useless it became.

Imagine if people didn’t understand how penises ‘work’ and therefore their orgasms didn’t matter.

Imagine if having a penis meant you were paid less money.

[lost-and-found-marbles-deactiva]

Imagine if the ideal male genitalia were small and hairless like a prepubescent boy’s, and larger/hairier male genitalia was considered gross and sloppy.

Imagine if unreciprocated cunnilingus were the norm.

Imagine if boys were taught that sex was expected to hurt for them and were told to lie back and think of England, to grin and bear it.

Imagine if male reproductive conditions were under-researched and under-treated. No known cause, no known cure was the default. Reproductive pains considered normal for men, and their reproductive complaints mocked and dismissed.

Imagine that teenage boys were put on hormonal birth control, perhaps because they’re thought to help these mysterious ailments but with the side effect of making them sexually available to women all the time without risk of pregnancy.

Imagine if male hormonal cycles (high T in the morning, low T at night) were mocked and considered to make men unreliable. If men’s competence and judgment was questioned because of it (“He’s just mad because it’s that time of the day! They’re so testerical in the morning” or “Can a man really hold office if he’s just going to start crying every time the evening rolls around and his T drops?”, including worse mockery for older men who have lower T in general and might have erectile dysfunction, prostate cancer, or other older male reproductive issues).

Imagine if there was legislation on men’s right to ejaculate without the intent to reproduce because “every sperm is sacred”.

[genderresister]

Imagine if mens worth and respectability was estimated by the number of his sexual encounters with women, Imagine if men who had sex before marriage were considered filthy and licentious, I.e) “sloppy seconds”

Imagine if penises and scrotums were deemed “vulgar” and “obscene” in all contexts outside of smut magazines for older women.

Imagine if men were barred from masturbation because sperm is reserved for reproduction. Imagine if mens bodies were considered women’s property for them to control and serve their interests.

Imagine if sex that didn’t involve injury to mens bodies were considered “vanilla” and “boring” imagine if women casually said things like, “beat that ballsack uuuup” or “destroy his dick” amongst their aggressive, drunk, larger, hefty female friends while men sit and chat with the boys on how to get their girlfriends to spend time with them and contribute to housework, what they hate about their bodies and joke how horrible sex is because it’s about women using men’s bodies however they please.

Imagine if hair on mens bodies were considered, “unhygienic”, “unsightly” and “un-gentlemanlike” even though it grows there naturally. Imagine if men who refused to wear makeup were considered “uppity” and “unkempt”.

Imagine if muscularity in men was considered “womanish” and “unappealing” and interests outside cosmetics, servitude and self-minimalism were viewed as “effeminating” to women and “Ovary busting”. in fact, everything you do to improve men’s quality of life and attain success in female-dominated fields is valued by how it effects women.

Imagine if boys were encouraged to show their arms, backs, chests and stomachs before they hit puberty, imagine if all the male musicians were young, unhealthily-thin, airbrushed pop singers who sing about needing girls to give their lives meaning and becoming every girls dream boy.

Imagine if male sexual abuse and exploitation were repackaged as “male empowerment” by sex advise columnists and sex positive organizations. I.e.) lick pussies and earn stacks, boii get it 👅💅🏼💵💵

[gallicinvasion]

When you’ve been taught all your life that it’s impolite to refuse, that you’re rude if you say no, then you haven’t been given the tools to vocalize your own boundaries. This means men can (and do) take advantage of your fear of being seen as a bad person. This puts you in harm’s way.

Female socialization is not just inconvenient. It’s dangerous.

[nbvagabond]

op is transphobic as hell so yknow maybe lets not reblog this

[gallicinvasion]

acknowledging female socialization is not transphobic friendo

[genderresister]

Politics not related to transwomen is not twansphobic, ffs. These insights help raise awareness so girls can protect themselves from abuse and all you GA’s from hell care about is transwomen’s feelings.

[gallicinvasion]

Another woman utterly failed by our society’s devaluation of women’s reproductive health. We can’t wait around for male doctors to decide what we need to know. This is why we need to take control and educate ourselves about our own bodies.

[gallicinvasion]

and here’s some comments i saw under the post. why is this a pattern?? why is this a recurring theme?? why is this information not common knowledge? what the fuck are doctors doing??

[sora2522]

This is news to me so let’s share it so people will know!

[halfhardtorock]

Gross tmi: but i passed a pretty big clot after having my daughter. It was about the size of a baseball. It actually hurt worse because while 15 hours of labor opened my cervix, i passed the clot in 30 minutes. I knew it was a possibility because of my midwife and reading, but everyone Ive told after this (mostly other pregnant women) were shocked that this could happen.

In our culture, it’s much more common to do deep research about what family cars we want to buy than we do about childbirth when we ’re pregnant.

[skeleton-warrior-deactivated201]

Tmi: I passed a huge clot after birth in the bathroom of my hospital room and called the nurse sobbing because I didn’t know it was normal. She treated me like an idiot, but NO ONE told me it was a possibility. And the pain associated with healing for the first couple of weeks after birth was worse than the labor imo. Again, I had no idea. They didn’t tell me a thing besides “sitz bath regularly and change your pads.” Before discharging me from the hospital.

[evashandor]

I was most definitely told about this in school. Fucking hell, 4-6 weeks of bleeding? My periods were/are bad enough, why the hell don’t we get told this?

[love-pro-choice]

I didn’t know it could last so long, wtf? Is the bleeding inevitable after birth? 

[rosietwiggs]

Bleeding is inevitable after birth - your uterine wall is shedding a fuck ton of lining. It can last from three to six weeks (possible longer) and it tapers off.

More TMI - I passed a MASSIVE clot after my fourth birth. At this point I already knew this could happen - it’s normal. What I DIDN’T know, was that I had caused it.

My post birth contractions were so bad after the birth that it felt like full transition labor. And they don’t give you anything for the pain. So I used a hot water bottle, without the nurses knowing, and it caused me to bleed even more. I lost so much blood that by the first time they sat me up to go to the bathroom, I fainted. It took three more tries until I could sit up.

Anyway, that’s not the point. The point is, the next morning I passed a clot the SIZE OF ANOTHER PLACENTA I KID YOU NOT, and I know what is and is not normal. So I called for the nurse and through the door told her I had passed a huge clot, and her response was - “It’s not big. I know what big is.” She hadn’t even looked. So I rolled my eyes and said, “Yeah, no. It’s big, I’m telling you.”

So, sounding extremely put upon, she asked me to open the door. I did, and after a long pause she goes, “Okay, yeah, that’s a little big.”

YOU DON’T SAY.

The point I’m trying to get across is that this shit is so common - women not knowing this stuff is so expected, and it keeps getting reinforced. People don’t expect you to know anything, don’t teach you anything, and then make you feel like you’re totally ignorant and a burden for your lack of knowledge when THEY WON’T SHARE.

Fucking learn EVERYTHING you can when it comes to childbirth, girls. It is the single most empowering thing you can do for yourself. And if you missed something, that’s okay. But the more knowledge you arm yourself with, the more in control of your situation you’ll be.

A few post partum tips:

DON’T use a hot water bottle - lol.

ONLY pads - NO tampons. Tampons can cause severe infection, not to mention, you probably don’t want to be shoving anything up there any time soon.

If you’ve had stitches, sitz baths DO help relieve the pain. Another great pain reliever? Dampen some pads and freeze them. Let one thaw slightly and use it on top of another pad. This will help with the pain as well as reduce swelling. Change the pad out as soon as it’s thawed completely. This REALLY helps on the first couple days after giving birth.

If you pass a clot, don’t sweat it. Even the one I passed, which was fucking massive, just required that we keep an eye out to make sure it didn’t happen again. If it does, talk to your doctor.

Take a pain killer half an hour before nursing. Because YES - your uterus is contracting after you give birth, to get back to its original size, and nursing causes much stronger contractions. Taking nursing-safe painkillers won’t prevent the pain, but it will reduce it. 

Buy disposable underwear for the first few days after birth. They will get VERY dirty. Or use your ratty old pairs that you’re ready to get rid of. Double up on pads - line them all the way up your ass-crack. I am so serious. And wear dark pants.

Pee in the shower. You do NOT want to wipe down there right after birth because ow. Peeing in the shower lets you just rinse afterwards. Especially if you’ve had stitches, peeing in the shower, with the shower-head rinsing AS you go, keeps stinging to a minimum. And fuck everyone else - keep on peeing in the shower until you feel ready to move back to toilet paper. Middle of the night and need to pee? Get your pants off - get in the shower and just go.

This is just a few things, but PLEASE feel free to send me an ask if you have any questions about ANYTHING childbirth/pregnancy/nursing related. I have four incredible kids. I’ve done it all - c-section, vacuume birth, episiotimy, stitches, with an epidural, without an epidural. I’m here.

[thehangryslush]

….I know I keep reblogging this but people keep adding super important information.

[typingsdrawings]

I feel like no one tells women this stuff because if a woman was even a little on the fence about having a baby before this would kinda make them run for the damn hills.

[kaxen]

…..you are correct, typing.

300% EXTRA SURE I’M NOT HAVING BABIES. 

[petitedeath]

peri bottles, witch hazel or anti-pain anticeptic spray are your friends. Also passing large clots after birth is a WARNING SIGN. Bigger than a half dollar is a sign that you have not passed your entire placenta (this is most common in hospital vaginal births where the mother is not allowed to naturally birth the placenta and instead has it ripped out by the doctor) if there is any placenta left in your uterus you can get extremely ill. This happened to both myself and my mother in law

[un-ptit-spleen]

WOW I didn’t know any of this and I’m terrified of what more I’m unaware of about my own body :( Honestly when will we fucking abolish this taboo about the female body…

[artsortment]

I had pretty great sex ed in school (lots of contraceptive information, and totally acknowledged that teenagers might have sex) and all of this is news to me.

And, as a 28-year-old person with a uterus, I’m extremely appalled I’m just learning this.

[deanplease]

Long, but very important information, even for those who don’t plan to have children, because you will almost certainly know someone who will, and you might be able to to help them. Or at least increase your level of empathy for them.

[brandx]

…HOLY HELL. REBLOG TO SAVE A LIFE, SERIOUSLY.

[ashashi-corner]

A lot of tmi but I had literally no fucking idea this happens

At all

And my mom was a nurse with two kids

What the FUCK?!

[charmingsides-archive-deactivat]

I’m not planning to have children because there are so many without homes- but if you want to have your own baby, PLEASE read this information. 

[scarletgoldenthorn]

Also if you are choosing to have a baby; do a SHIT TON of research. Don’t expect people to just tell you everything and don’t assume you know everything. Research research research! And openly ask other women with kids about their experiences!

[cuddlybuboes]

I want one child and I know that even that one pregnancy is going to require a lot of research.

Point in case: I know a lot about the female reproductive cycle and how to conceive, care for oneself during pregnancy, but absolutely nothing about birth or postpartum.

No one has ever told me about post partum bleeding etc. thank you ladies!

[nrh61]

Also, after difficult vaginal births, peeing can be hard, because it hurts to try and relax those muscles. That peeing in the shower thing can really help if aim warm water down there to get everything to relax and make it easier to pee.

The more you know….