[darkandstormyranger]

finally some relatable content on ig

[drysqu1d]

i tend to avoid discourse because most of it is trite and pointless but just this once i feel like i need to state my opinion: i think everyone should bend to my dark and evil will

[andilion5356]

[heated-blanket]

they’re foreclosing on my mind palace

[risk-repeater]

this job market is a fucking nightmare

[iamhavingsomuchfun]

[darlingofdots]

[hockey bro voice] does he. you know. play for ottawa?

[the-grassy-hill]

im NOT feeling shrimptastic im going to KRILL myself

[some-pers0n]

TWO FACTOR AUTHORIZATION

light thats not how the book works

MICROSOFT TEAMS

[theravingcelt]

“It is extraordinary that nobody nowadays under the stress of great troubles is turned into stone or a bird or a tree or some inanimate object; they used to undergo such metamorphoses in ancient times (or so they say), though whether that is myth or a true story I know not. Maybe it would be better to change one’s nature into something that lacks all feeling, rather than be so sensitive to evil. Had that been possible, these calamities would in all probability have turned me to stone.”

— The Alexiad, written by Anna Komnene, the daughter of the Byzantine Emperor Alexios I Komnenos, c. 1148.

[spirulin4]

there is a pain inside me so stupid that i'm not going to communicate it to anyone

[ceruleanheaven]

sometimes i have a dream that reveals such a humiliating desire i have that i genuinely lose a bit of respect for myself

[borderepisteme-deactivated20260]

"Anyone who has ever tried to recount a dream to someone else is in a position to measure the immense gap, the qualitative incommensurability, between the vivid memory of the dream and the dull, impoverished words which are all we can find to convey it: yet this incommensurability, between the particular and the universal, between the vecu and language itself, is one in which we dwell all our lives, and it is from it that all works of literature and culture necessarily emerge."

Fredric Jameson, Imaginary and Symbolic in Lacan

[gatheringbones]

[“Limits mean what you are willing or not willing to do in any given interaction. They change, and this is a good thing. There are some things you will not do with anyone due to ethical, health, or safety reasons and many other things you do with people depending on who they are, what your relationship is, what sparks your fancy at the moment, or how tired you are. Having a limit says, I am not available for this. Having a limit is the difference between your Willing-to list and your Not-Willing-to list. Sometimes the limit is a “No.” Sometimes it’s “Not that but something different” or “Yes, up to here” or “Yes, for about ten minutes” or “Yes, next Friday.” So it’s limits first, then comes the generosity.

Taking responsibility for your limits means that you finally and blessedly admit that no one but you can know what they are. Sometimes even you don’t know what they are. It means you don’t expect others to guess correctly, and you stop blaming them for not being able to do that. There are situations in which it may be easy to speak a limit and other situations in which it’s harder. This is natural. The practice gradually enlarges the situations in which you can easily notice and communicate your limits. It teaches you how to do that, and you can then take that skill into the rest of your life.

A thought experiment. Imagine you are going to walk into a room of people, and you are not allowed to say no to anyone there. They can ask you to do things and can do things to you, but you can’t say no. Would you enter the room? Of course not. You can’t afford the risk of having anyone ask you for anything. Suppose you did enter—what are the options now? Constant tension and worry. You could try to suss out who is “safe.” You could hide in the corner and hope no one sees you. You could walk in with a bluster and roar, hoping everyone will be sufficiently intimated to not ask for anything. You could acquiesce to every request, hoping everyone will like you for it. You could look pitiful and hope that someone will rescue you or take you under their wing. You could do what is asked but with such a bad attitude that they regret it and don’t ask for more. You could get buffeted around and feel hopeless. You could even criticize yourself for not being okay with all of it. Any of those sound familiar?

(On the other side, imagine you are in the room and in come the people who aren’t allowed to say no. Now you have to figure out what they are okay with before you ask them. You could ask for nothing at all for fear of making a mistake. You could be hypervigilant for signs of discomfort. You could make a mistake and feel awful about it. Or you could take advantage of the situation and do whatever you want.)

This is why the ability to say no is required for intimacy. Without the ability to say no, you can’t afford to be in the same room with anyone. When you can say no, your yes can be trusted.”]

Betty Martin, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent

[standwithdaanes]

having a process for people who have done morally horrific things to make amends, rejoin community, and do right going forward is actually fundamentally crucial for the left. having a clear and accessible pathway for people to be socially (if not interpersonally) forgiven is how you get people radicalized against capitalism and imperialism and white supremacy and patriarchy. its how you turn "these people think i am a bad person" into "these people think something and someone coerced or forced me into doing bad things, and these people want to help me do something about that."

if you want more revolutionaries, you must have a system to turn guilty, traumatized, angry bystanders and collaborators into revolutionaries. and I say a system and process because its not "oh the drone operator said they were sorry and felt bad so its all good now :)" there is no shortcut here. but it is absolutely necessary. no revolution is comprised of morally pure people. in many cases, the most devoted revolutionaries are the ones who know exactly what it is like on the other side.

[maxxie-or-smth]

no one else twists the knife as good as u come over

[themarchingbeetle]