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If you're someone who struggles with accepting compliments, and especially with wanting to appear humble instead of arrogant when accepting a compliment, something along the lines "That's so kind of you" or for larger compliments something like "That means a lot to hear" are generally safer and more appropriate ways to accept a compliment than self deprecation / self flagellation.

It's understandable to want to appear humble while accepting a compliment, but resorting to self deprecation / self flagellation isn't exactly polite either, as it can make the compliment-er feel uncomfortable, and it can be taken as an insult to their tastes.

So for example, someone compliments your hair, and you reply with "ugh thanks but I hate my hair and think it looks so ugly and stupid", not only are you likely to make the other party uncomfortable with your sudden and unwarranted display of self flagellation, but there's also the subtle insinuation that the other party was wrong to compliment you, perhaps insinuating they have bad taste.

Now of course, in some cultures it's not uncommon for someone to playfully deflect a compliment, for example you compliment someone's jacket and they reply with "oh shucks, not this old thing :)". However there are some key differences between this type of playful deflection vs resorting to self deprecation / self flagellation. One key difference is the sense of playfulness in the tone, and it's often said with a smile or other body language to insinuate they are still happy to receive the compliment. These playful deflections also don't go too deep or get too insulting, "oh not this old thing :)" is a lot lighter and doesn't go as deep as "yeah thanks but I hate this jacket so much, it's so ugly and stupid."

And finally, if it is important to you to appear humble and gracious when receiving a compliment, try returning a compliment back to them. For example if they compliment something you're wearing then find something they're wearing or something about their appearance to compliment them back. This is going to be a much more polite way of showing humility when receiving a compliment, rather than self deprecation / self flagellation.

However, try not to overthink it. Most of the time a simple "thank you :)" said in a polite tone is going to be sufficient and won't make you appear arrogant.

dailymanners

If you take the bus, wave to the driver and thank them as you're getting off the bus.

Being a bus driver is an underappreciated and difficult job but still very vital to society. They still have to do customer service and deal with rude and even aggressive passengers, and on top of that have to deal with traffic and other drivers all day (and let's face it, there's a lot of bad drivers out there who aren't considerate about sharing the road). All while providing an invaluable service of getting us where we need to go. Showing them some appreciation can go a long ways for someone doing such an important job that usually gets little to no recognition or thanks.

batmanisagatewaydrug

every time I post about how much I hate my period some dumbass terf gets mad about my "internalized misogyny" for "hating my natural woman body" so periodic reminder that I'm a cis woman and I hate my period, my uterus can eat shit, and I'd flush my ovaries down the toilet given half an opportunity fuck this shit 🖕🖕🖕

gaynfl-moved

hey sorry not to be an asshole but I saw someone say that a sports team posting about pride month was "pandering" and I need you to log off and touch grass because now more than EVER it's important that large institutions (and especially those that could easily be right wing like sports teams) show the fuck up for queer and trans people. especially trans people. so no it is not "pandering" to take a stand for a marginalized group of people that are currently under attack for trying to play sports. be so fucking for real

peppermintquartz

here's a tip about war: Don't fight the people who are on your side

astridhobbit

A thing I have recently learned that is relevant to this conversation:

Every single Major League Baseball team has a Pride Night in June, except one: the Texas Rangers. Why they choose not to have a pride night is their business but there is one team who saw that and decided to take it personally.

And for the last few years, the Baltimore Orioles have scheduled their pride night during a home game in June when the Texas Rangers are visiting.

There may come a day when the Orioles are not playing a home game vs the Rangers in June. If that happens, I sincerely hope another team will step up and schedule their Pride night with equal pettiness.

librarianmouse

Hey guess what...

[screen shot from the Baltimore Orioles schedule showing that Wednesday June 25 is a game against the Texas Rangers and it is, in fact, Orioles Pride Night & Pride Jersey give away]

batboyblog

Tonight House Republicans voted 217 to 215 for a budget that'll take $1 TRILLION dollars from Medicaid, attack food benefits for kids, hurt seniors and vets.

but I don't want to talk about that, I want to talk about these two Democratic members of Congress you've never ever heard of.

Democrats, Congressman Kevin Mullin of California and Congresswoman Brittany Pettersen of Colorado.

Congressman Mullin had knee surgery that didn't go well, two surgeries, a life threatening blood clot and a week long stay in the hospital, and the moment he was discharged from the hospital he got on a five hour flight to DC to vote against the Republicans evil budget, using a walker to get to the floor of the House

Congresswoman Pettersen gave birth to her son Sam, in the picture, exactly one month ago on January 25th. They flew from Colorado to DC after Republicans refused to allow her to vote by proxy after having a baby. Congresswoman Pettersen took Sam onto the floor of the House to vote to protect the Health care of 400,000 Colorado kids.

why talk about this? because so much of the conversion is about telling people there's no one good, no one worthy, no one fighting. I promise you there are people undergoing personal hardship to do the right thing.

fluorescentbrains

seeing straight men be disgusted by booktok smut recommenders has actually radicalized me to the side of booktok smut recommenders. girls your taste may be atrocious but i will never disparage you for exposing mainstream discourse to the concept of soaking through your underwear. spent my whole life listening to men talk about penises it’s about time they get jumpscared by women talking about pussy in crude detail on social media. go forth and goon my warriors

insomniac-arrest

I work at a bookstore and hearing one of my male coworkers call smutty romantasy "the downfall of society" because it's "literally just porn" radicalized me

Men have an entire industry. Entire industries dedicated to their sexualities. Let women have fantasy sex. there's not even a camera crew involved.

furiousfurious

Left this in the notes

insomniac-arrest

😂

goodattellinglies

splendentgoddess

FOR PARENTS OF YOUNG KIDS IN THE US!

Someone over on bluesky posted this and I figured I'd better repost it here. It's the pre-RFK 2025 vaccination schedule for babies and young children, ya know, just in case it mysteriously disappears. Save this and give it to your child's pediatrician; tell them this is the schedule you want your child on.

helloamhere

oh god oh my god

helloamhere

Take care of yourselves friends. I know I haven't been super active on here in a long while but genuinely, thinking of every single person I connected with in 1D fandom with such love and compassion right now and just a heart full of wishes that you stay well and navigate this sad, distressing news with as much support as you need. Be gentle and kind to yourselves.

only-cat-memes

coolishfoolishness

He's lying on the red paint because it has more positive associations than negative ones. C'mon, this is basic color theory

thisuserhaspassed

sherlocking-out-loud

I haven't seen this circulating here on Tumblr, so I decided to make my own post.

last saturday, in Porto, there was a pride parade going down the street and this old man was standing there, by his front door, waving the portuguese flag. most people on the parade probably thought the same: old person waving the national flag? he's probably protesting against the parade, he's a nationalist of some sort.

then the old man called for that person to come near him. the whole parade stopped. everyone just.. stopped moving. they didn't know what to expect, and most expected the worst. and that person decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and approached the old man. and then... they traded flags, he hugged the person and then he waved the pride flag happily. everyone cheered him.

such a wholesome moment. 🥹❤️🌈

(edited to add the link to the video, in case the twitter post gets deleted or smth)

i-am-a-fish

I hope you feel joy within the next ten minutes

what-even-is-thiss

You shouldn’t date or become serious friends/partners with someone if you can’t stomach the thought of being stuck in a car or train with them for 16 hours.

what-even-is-thiss

Here’s my logic:

You should be able to work together to solve unexpected problems like fixing a flat tire or getting lost in an unfamiliar station

You should feel comfortable and safe enough around this person that you can sit in comfortable silence

You should be able to keep each other interested and deal with each others boredom in a healthy way

If you’re gonna form a long term partnership with someone you should probably be able to tolerate each other while locked in a small box for a few hours

what-even-is-thiss

These tags are hilarious even though I don’t think you intended them to be.

rosesforwildwitches

*pulls European closer* The most populous countries in the world are China, India, the United States, Indonesia, Pakistan, Nigeria, and Brazil in that order, with these seven nations alone making up 48.16% of the world population. You may note with the aid of a map that many of these nations are quite large, and would take several days of travel to go across either in cars or on boats. Almost half of the world's population lives in places where you can travel in a cramped vehicle for days and still be within the country. Your worldview is limited and Europe is a tiny outlier in travel time and standards for international relations.

creative-anchorage

chanaleah

remember that palestinians are humans: they are mohammed and amal and khaled and fatima and ahmed and sana.

remember that jews are humans: they are david and tamar and eitan and yael and ariel and noa.

we are not sides. we are not pawns. we are people. we have passions and hobbies and dreams. so stop treating this conflict like a game.

moran-with-a-g

I was gonna put it in the tags but it was getting too long.

Stop treating this war like a game and especially stop treating it like a fandom. People seriously treat this conflict and especially the current war like a goddamn reality show. It's disgusting.

They hide behind the mask of activism and righteousness to hide their bigotry. Both "sides" are guilty of this, both "pro-pals" and "pro-israel" people. So many of them are either antisemites, islamphobes, or both.

I'm getting sick of it. I want to live in peace and I want my neighbours to live in peace. I want children to be able to go to school without having to fear getting bombed.

We're human. Get this through your skull. Israelis are human. Palestinians are human. Jews are human. Muslims are human. We're all human.

The real sides aren't pro-israel and pro-palestine. The sides are pro-peace and pro-war. Pro settling this conflict already so we could fucking love our life in peace and pro dragging it out forever because we refuse to believe everyone can all exist in the same land in peace.

People who consider themselves pro-palestinian and go and attack synagogues are not pro peace.

People who consider themselves Zionists but also believe we need to flatten and take control over Gaza are not pro peace.

They're the people treating this war like a game and I'm sick and tired of watching them take over the internet with their stupid opinions. You're adding oil to the fire. You're actively lighting the match. You're trying to turn us against each other but that's not going to work for you.

Peace will win, at the end. Humanity will win. We will find a solution without the help of people who're only looking to fuel their hatred.

And fuck everyone who think otherwise.