@tinkertailorsoldierguy

She/her Slow Horses-specific stuff on above blog, this one everything else

[rockabillywife]

You guys would like my posts a lot more if you had my exact life experiences and internal monologue

[rebicha]

So today, in Argentina, hundreds of thousands are in the streets against femicides and patriarchal violences. Days ago, a 14-year-old girl was found killed... the story behind it proves the connection between local government, local police and the judicial system in covering up a s*x traffic network and, in this case, aiding the killer, who was also part of said network.

There is so so much to say about who this guy is, what the local representatives, the police and the district attorney didn't do, on purpose. The fact that they mocked the victim on PUBLIC TV, thanking the dog who had found her.

I'm angry, I'm exhausted, I'm so fed up with this rotten system, the negligence, how little our lives seem to value to these people.

Nothing I'm saying is new, I know.

Today, I'm just so fucking ANGRY

[headspace-hotel]

Me: *seeing a doctor* Did the test come back positive?

Doctor: *has a doctorate in English Lit* I’m sorry, it’s a little more challenging than we thought. We analyzed your imagery, and it appears that you symbolize the fleeting nature of the American dream

Me: oh god

[sunshinevettel]

I told one person, they told everyone, and… and then I had to double down.But I swear to God,he came to my house that night, and I swear he's back.

[arowitharrows]

I feel like people struggle to understand that my life as an aorace person is not centered around an absence of relationships. There is no romance shaped void that I am trying to live with, or live around, or which my life's purpose is to fill somehow.

I go to university and I go to work and I volunteer in my community and in the in-between moments I drink tea with my friends and I plant tomatoes on my balcony and there is no need for anything else. There is no room for anything else anyway.

When I am asked how I deal with 'the hole in my life' or what I do with 'all my free time', I know these questions are not about me at all. They are a reflection of the person asking.

[thatsthebirds]

Its kind of asking how you cope with the lack of parking spaces when someone doesnt own a car

[ace-of-bass]

Ooh I love this analogy because not owning a car does come with problems (at least in the US typically), namely that US infrastructure is so reliant on cars that not owning one means that you deal with other problems, like lack of bike lanes, infrequent public transit, people always assuming you can drive places, etc. Aro/ace people do face problems due to amatonormativity in society, such as inaffordability of places to live alone (because it's assumed you'll live with a roommate until you're a "real adult" and live with a partner and also because of capitalism), lack of ways to meet new people that aren't specifically focused on dating, and people always asking when you'll settle down, aren't you lonely, don't you miss having a partner? as OP talked about.

Like, there are problems that one encounters as a carless person, and there are problems I've encountered as an aroace person. But the problem as a carless person isn't lack of parking spaces and the problem as an aroace person isn't lack of a relationship.

[waxedpaperdoor]

I have flu, so I've started reading The Lymond Chronicles, indirectly recommended by both @oldshrewsburyian and @hellotailor, and do you ever just put your book down for a bit and stare at the wall trying to figure out how all these different words you know have been put into a sentence you would never even dream of ordering this way, never mind writing it down? Look at this:

"In the long grass by the water's edge a man lay half buried, with small life moving past his head and a tarnishing damp spread into his clothing. Behind him, four miles of bog rolled and steamed in the morning sun. Ahead, the turgid waters of the moat sucked and plopped in a leisurely way against the grazing meadows and scrub which lay behind Boghall Castle.

The sun moved."

Who writes like this??? HOW???? What a joy of a book to read.

[bophia]

Daily affirmations for tesla owners: your car is ugly as hell and everyone hates you

[elementilda]

I have finished The Ringed Castle and I have few thoughts.

This book is 100% my cosmic punishment for the times I complained about stories where characters don't face any consequences.

Because me, gleeful, reading the end of Pawn in Frankincense lapping up the terrible trauma that will break the MC forever, did not realise that meant I would then have to read 3/4 of a book about broken-forever!Francis.

In Russia.

With an eagle for a friend, like a depressed Disney Princess.

And almost zero sarcastic quipping, beautiful young men falling in love with him or dub con. Which was what I signed up for, actually.

Also, I fear, the endgame ship is going to make me love him less. Sorry.

But I did love:

John Dee.

Margaret Lennox (Queen) I just want her to destroy him. Do I ship Margaret/Frances? Of course I do. It's the worst.

Danny Hislop. I hope his story isn't done.

Also Jerrott and Marthe are coming back in book 6. And I cannot wait for that.

Do I care about the Lymond family tree. A bit. And, look, I know its 'of the time' and all that, but Francis is meant to be ahead of his time so I find it hard to be sympathetic over his treatment of Sybilla. I think it's pretty interesting that right after he snubs her, he goes and has casual sex himself.

I am looking these books and I am really looking forward to my first reread, but God the gender of it all is getting me down.

[cassiopeiasara]

Do you think you deserve some medal for prioritizing women?

[godlessondheimite]

In 2026, the chicest thing a gay actor can do is never explicitly come out as gay but also make it abundantly clear that he is. Coming out is too modern. Staying closeted is too old fashioned. But this method merges contemporary freedom with Old Hollywood glamour and allure, and it weeds out the dumbest people who truly don’t get it. I call it the Pascal Method.

[nobodys-odyssey]

Taylor Swift does this

[godlessondheimite]

no she doesn’t

[nobodys-odyssey]

You clearly don't go here or to queer history and signaling, or both, enough to have this conversation and I'm not going to explain it to you. You could have asked questions, you could have done even a modicum of research. You didn't and you made yourself look ignorant. Goodbye.

[sunbloomdew]

do you ever see a person and you are overcome with incredible fondness? and you just think "oh." but not in a romantic or sexual way you are just filled with warmth and it makes you happy, it just does. and you think "i'm so happy you exist. i'm happy you are somewhere out there in the world, doing your thing". it's love but also not entirely

like people are lovely and i feel it in my entire chest like a burning candle that smells like roses and a sunny day

[theconceptsofastan]

Patricia saying “okay thank you so much” when the medical examiner confirms there is no other way to escape from inside the incinerator 😂

[cakebatteronabrickwall]

[cakebatteronabrickwall]

patricia tasering that bitch top 5 most beautiful moments on tv this year

[lamignonette]

[misty-quigleys-glasses]

"The Inaugural Swim" | Widow's Bay 1x03

[fatalism-and-villainy]

I'm very grateful for this insight about intense and rigid defensiveness as itself being a paranoid critical mode, because I see that reflected so often in fandom and media discussions on here. (Funnily enough a lot of said defensiveness gets expressed through the rejoinders of others for engaging in paranoid reading, because this eagerness to root out paranoid readings and expose them via Farquaad_pointing.jpg "paranoid reading!" exposure is, guess what, also a paranoid practice!)

Because the fact of the matter is that this very absolutist designation of eg. media as "good objects," and the preemptive dismissiveness towards any dissenting opinions, is just as paranoid as the inverse. There is a really pervasive habit of declaring some piece of media intrinsically and uniformly anti-racist, or feminist, or queer positive, or what have you, and then preemptively staving off criticism via this reflexive, preemptive assumption of sinister motives on the part of said critics. This too is reflexive, anticipatory paranoia!

This is also why I drifted away from "shipping discourse" debates, because while I've made my general disdain for what we might call "fandom anti" culture pretty clear over the years, I grew increasingly jaded with a lot of "anti-anti" or "pro-shipping" spaces, because I found them incredibly stifingly reactive. People in these spaces were not only more committed to digging up the most egregious or risible or offensive "anti" sentiments and displaying them in order to make a mockery of their ideological enemies than they were to engaging in actual in-depth, thoughtful analysis, they were actually imitating the terrain of the debate as established by their ideological opponents. (That's mimesis!) They designated very rigid and limiting parameters of acceptable behaviour, and reflexively dismissed anything outside of those parameters as ideologically tainted, rather than opening their minds to other possibilities and alternate priorities. These discursive spaces were - to borrow from the premises of Sedgwick's argument - heavily guarded against surprise of any kind, and they became calcified and anti-intellectual because of it.