The Introvert Ace

20-something ace girl just trying to figure this stuff out. Mostly from the comfort of a blanket fort because people are difficult. -- I tag any non ace related posts!

[arohumor]

Fact: aromantics are done being other people’s third wheels. We are our own first wheels. We are glorious unicycles and we will not be stopped.

[theintrovertace-blog]

Re-reblogging because I'm a glorious unicycle.

[theintrovertace-blog]

Asexuality in Academics

Just a little bit of positivity from a university student at one of the world’s top schools:

In my psychology classes, including classes not specifically dealing with human sexuality, my professors have always acknowledged asexuality as a real thing and not as a disorder. They don’t doubt it for a minute; if you ask about it, they just look at you like, “Yeah, of course it’s real. We’ve known about it since Kinsey.”

So whenever you’re feeling invalidated or minimized, just remember that the leaders in psychology and sexology don’t doubt your existence and validity. Most of them would be very happy to hear about you and learn about your experiences.

[robertwire]

400% of mental illness is thinking this is probably just how hard life is for everyone and you just can’t handle it because you’re a whiny baby who isn’t trying hard enough.

[valeria2067]

A student discussing Romeo & Juliet: Like, can you even IMAGINE being forbidden to love someone? The one person you want to marry is the person you can’t have? And all because of other people’s hatred?

My not-straight self: Yeah, that would…. um… be really bad… really not good…

[acestation-blog]

sex aversion is not a sign of immaturity  romance aversion is not a sign of immaturity  shaming people for either one of these things is a sign of immaturity

[throughtheeyesofms]

[dateanonbinarysuggestiondeleting]

a lot of ppl comment “dating myself then” on my posts if they relate and they’re single. so guess what?

#dateyourself

buy yourself flowers. take yourself out for coffee. send yourself a cute text before bed and read it in the morning! #loveyourself

[thingsiwanttheworldtoknow]

Some (non-romantic!) love for my aro and arospec friends and followers.

[moonbeamroses-deactivated201812]

[image description:

each image contains two green squares with rounded off corners, containing white text, side by side.

first image: 

left square reads “There are more kinds of love than romantic love.” 

right square reads “Romantic love is not necessary for a fulfilled life.”

second image: 

left square reads “Romance is not what makes us human.”

right square reads “It’s okay to not know what romantic love feels like.”

third image:

left square reads “Sex without love is not inherently exploitative.”

right square reads “Interest in romance doesn’t have to be consistent.”

fourth image:

left square reads “Not falling in love doesn’t make you cold or heartless.”

right square reads “You can be happy.” ]

[acephobia-is-real]

When you ship something, but someone says the ship isn't possible because a character is ace. Also when you headcannon a character with a child and they come up with adoption bullshit because of the ace stuff.

[arohumor]

Fact: aromantics are done being other people’s third wheels. We are our own first wheels. We are glorious unicycles and we will not be stopped.

[writings-of-a-hufflepuff]

Reminder that there is nothing wrong with you being 18, 20, 30 and not having had sex or not having kissed someone etc. There is not a time limit on when you need to have your first kiss etc. It’s also a reminder that you don’t have to do anything because everyone else is, just because your friends are drinking doesn’t mean you have to if you don’t want to, just because your friends are having sex doesn’t mean you need to either. Only do things when you want to and when you’re ready to.

[irlus]

Why this doesn’t have 1k notes?

[amynchan]

It will because this is something people need to know.

[rieraclaelin]

i read where you were asexual and married. how can you're husband stand to be married to a woman who doesn’t like sex? You need sex to have a happy relationship so i don’t understand how you're husband can be happy living like this. maybe you should try counseling so you can save this marriage.

I wasn’t going to answer this at first, because one, it just felt rude.  And two, you know, people need to know.  They need to understand.

Asexuality is not a disease.  It’s not something that can be “cured” or “fixed”.  It’s just a part of who someone is.  

How can my husband stand to be married to a woman who doesn’t like sex? First of all, that whole saying about the key to a happy relationship is having a healthy sex life is complete bullshit.  My husband and I have a very satisfying and happy marriage.  We’ve been married for 7 years. I don’t have a marriage that needs “saved”.

My husband didn’t marry me for sex.  My sexuality isn’t what defines me. It’s a part of me, yes, but it’s not who I am.  I am a wife, a mother to our animals, a friend.  I am a gamer, a fan of superhero movies, a hopeless addict to Supernatural.  I am kind, and friendly.  I am quiet, and shy, yet to those who I love I can be fiercely protective and loyal.  I love to cook, and read, and laugh.  I love cuddles on the couch, holding hands while walking through the store, and stealing kisses under the stars. Last but not least, I am a woman who doesn’t need sex to feel intimate and close to her husband.

My husband loves me for all of me.  He loves just being with me, whether we are watching a movie, playing a game together, or talking.  We don’t need sex to be happy. We don’t need sex to be healthy.  We just need each other’s love, and that’s what we have.

[flyingpurplepizzaeater]

You don’t have to be grateful that it isn’t worse.

[voidbat]

read that. read it again, and again, and again. somebody, somewhere, always has it worse than you. there is one person on this planet that has it the worst of all, and that person is NOT the only person allowed to be unhappy with their lot. if things are bad for you, they are bad for you. period.

[biwomensupport]

This goes for trauma as well. A lot of times survivors get trapped in a cycle of  minimizing/diminishing their trauma because “other people have it worse” - but there is no hierarchy of trauma. There is no ranking system for which traumas are “better” or “worse.” Your trauma is valid. Period.

[gothiccharmschool]

IMPORTANT TRUTHS.

[lilbittydragon-deactivated20241]

As a therapist, lemme just say: almost every trauma survivor I’ve ever had has at some point said “But I didn’t have it as bad as some people” and then talked about how other types of trauma are worse. Even my most-traumatized, most-abused, most psychologically-injured clients say this. 

The ones who were cheated on, abandoned, and neglected say this. The ones who were in dangerous accidents/disasters say this. The ones who were horrifyingly sexually abused say this. The ones who were brutally beaten say this. The ones who were psychologically tortured for decades say this. What does that tell you? That one of the typical side-effects of trauma is to make you believe that you are unworthy of care. 

Don’t buy into it, because it’s nonsense. It doesn’t matter if someone else had it “worse.” Every person who experiences a trauma deserves to get the attention and care they need to heal from it. 

[theintrovertace-blog]

This is important. This kept me out of treatment for years--the guilt, the shame, the feeling that I was just being too sensitive and that my problems weren't as bad as other people's. You always deserve help.

[theintrovertace-blog]

Ace Problem of the Day

Seriously not understanding why the concept of a loving relationship without sex (or at least sexual attraction) is apparently so difficult for other people to grasp.

[sharingwritingprompts]

A person falls madly in love with someone, not knowing the object of their affections is aromantic and asexual.  They keep trying to woo the ace person, who is completely oblivious and just thinks they’re really nice.

[lesbianpeachs]

I know what if feels like to feel like you don’t have something everyone else has. I know what its like to be looked at funny, like you’re different from everyone else in a bad way. I know what its like to try to talk about it and be shut down.

So I’m here for you. The rest of us are here for you. You are complete. You are valued just as you are. I am here to listen.

[geneticdrifting]

“significant” other? oh yeah? let’s see those p-values

[zimmermanns]

#‘look you are significant#at 10% but not at 5% so i think we need to break up’#performing a linear restriction test to test overall signfiicance of your ot3 (via @recycledstars)