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imagine if people actually took romantic consent seriously. wouldn't it be fucking awesome. i know they never will, but just. take a moment and imagine it with me

i-suggest-aro

no more "just give them a chance, maybe you'll end up liking them!", no more "if you're going to reject someone, at least apologize to them!", no more shaming people for breaking up/divorcing, no more demonizing people for rejecting other peoples' romantic advances, no more shoving romance in romance repulsed peoples' face on purpose to provoke us, no more "i know we agreed to just be friends with benefits, but i thought you were going to fall in love with me eventually!", no more "i can fix them" when the only thing "wrong" with them is that they want to fuck without dating.

wouldn't it be nice?

sorcererclow

A friend I used to hang out with every week once confessed his feelings for me, which I didn't reciprocate. I wanted to stay friends, didn't see why we couldn't, we had been friends the whole time without any romance, why did that have to change? but he decided to stop hanging out with me.

I was heartbroken and felt tossed aside. I didn't understand why our friendship wasn't worth anything to him if he couldn't have me romantically or sexually. I felt betrayed and dehumanised, like I didn't matter to him as a person but only as a romantic prospect.

When I told other friends about it, to my surprise they all sided with him. "He is heartbroken, it's hard to get rejected" even my THERAPIST said this. It's not like I didn't empathize with him, but wasn't I rejected too? No one else could see that but me, they placed me as some sort of villain that had power over him in that situation, when all I did was set a boundary between friendship and romance. All I did was not consent to the terms he wanted for our relationship, I rejected them, my terms were different and he rejected those.

I've had my heart broken by friends over and over and it hurt the same, if not more, than any romantic heartbreak. Why is friendship undervalued next to romantic feelings?

To be honest, to this day I'm still pissed that no one sided with me on this. There's so much unraveling that needs to get done around how we view different relationships in our lives, and I feel like most people can't even scratch the surface when it comes to this questioning.

i-suggest-aro

i desperately need people to stop avoiding what this post is actually about. stop derailing and trying to make it be about something else instead.

THIS POST IS ABOUT ROMANTIC CONSENT.

even if the person in question didn't want to fuck them, even if he just wanted a wholesome, purely romantic, nothing sexual at all relationship, it would STILL be fucked up to BLAME someone for rejecting that.

similarly, if someone really wanted to just fuck, but they were honest and clear about that, and handled rejection gracefully, there would be literally no issue with that.

when will you people understand what i thought i made incredibly fucking clear in the original post. the problem is not, and never was, the presence of potential sexual attraction. the problem is, and always has been, ignoring ROMANTIC CONSENT.

homunculus-argument

Shitty parents will guilt their kids about how much they have to suffer to put a roof over their head, like having kids was the only reason they had to grudgingly give up on a lifelong dream of being homeless.

infectiouspiss

kids deserve so much more respect and it turns out that saying that is a great way to locate the horrible people in any community <3

infectiouspiss

you'll say something as simple as "no child deserves to be hit" and people will crawl out of the woodwork to explain why they should be allowed to beat a 6 year old for spilling some water

infectiouspiss

you'll say "i think it's weird that adults literally have control over when children are allowed to use the bathroom" and up pops a teacher to say that when they're not shouting at the kids they teach, they're trying to stop them from hiding in the bathrooms

you'll say "i think children shouldn't be forced to eat food they hate" and here comes someone who feeds their kids plain rice and boiled chicken (while eating a nicely seasoned stirfry) claiming that it's okay actually and kids shouldn't be allowed to taste things

you'll say "i think kids should have bodily autonomy" and in comes someone who pierced their babies ears before it was even 24 hours old, frothing at the mouth because their kid wanted a haircut and thats somehow an insult

infectiouspiss

children are an oppressed class and everyone should be looking back at their own childhoods and making sure they don't ever make a child feel the same way they felt.

monchursouls

🌾🌾🌾

Harvesting my wheat

rat-in-the-grain

Hehehehehe

monchursouls

Can I fucking help you?

broken-thots

Someone said, "IF BONRAD END UP TOGETHER, I DON'T SEE THEM MAKING IT A YEAR BEFORE SHE HAS THE AFFAIR WITH JEREMIAH" i'm SCREAMJNG

enki2

androdragynous

[ID: A tweet by TylerAlterman:

"In the middle of a "forcing party" where friends and I are forcing one another to do the things that we've been avoiding.

So far: [bullet list] A passport has been filed for; An inbox has been zero'd; A personal website has been created; & more.

I recommend this format!"]

anathemaegg

call that attending an Executive Function

syn4k

ok note to self i gotta leave the house regularly so that i dont feel like im slowly transforming into an evil fucking shadow clone of myself

syn4k

So as it turns out your sense of self doesnt exist in a vacuum. You gotta actually use it and bounce it off of other people like echolocation to see where you are as a person and shit. So if you dont regularly interact with other people the echoes just get weaker and weaker and before you know it your personality is a blurry fucked up fog clone of its former self. which it sucks because this makes it really hard to interact with people again but yknow

gotskamstuff

This is probably an unpopular opinion but I LOOOOVE this 1 episode per week format (well technically 2 to begin with) and it’s simultaneously such a refreshing and yet throwbackish way of doing tv shows.

I have ALWAYS believed this and I’ll say it forever, I’ve always thought to be such a shame that while social media were growing bigger and bigger at the same time the way of consuming media with streaming platforms got progressively faster and faster.

Social media have allowed for fandoms and communities to grow to such a large scale, to engage so much with one another and to create so much art and content around series, so many conversations around opinions and theories and yes even fan wars…but then when it comes to streaming platforms there’s always been this thing when you wait for a whole year (or more) for a season to come out and then boom, in one day in a sitting of 10 hours it’s gone and the fandom gets active at his full capacity for such a short period of time and then the hype dies down incredibly fast once again and back at waiting for months and months with nothing new to discuss about.

Also I’ve always believed that sometimes this way of consuming shows it’s almost like a race, it comes out and YOU HAVE TO GET TO IT ENTIRELY AS FAST AS POSSIBLE ALL AT ONCE OR YOU’LL BE SPOILED and I think like that so many details, so many shades of the stories, so many layers, so many secondary characters get lost in that hurry and are not really assimilated, there’s no room for discussing details and smaller things or underlined symbolism, it’s just a quick gulp down of the main storyline and let’s talk about that.

This season with TSITP reminds me of that very short period of time when social media were on full blast already and shows were still being aired on tv with 1 episode or 2 a week (like for example the first that comes to mind is Teen Wolf) and it creates soooo much conversation, so much room for theories and analysis!!

There’s something so satisfying and enjoyable to me the fact that each episode can get the attention it deserves and that each part of the story can get fully processed without getting lost in the bigger picture and the fact that instead of being done in 10 hours THERE’S WEEKS AND WEEKS FOR MONTHS for us to enjoy the show, each week the fandom being so active and discussing each episode one by one!!

Like let’s put it in prospective, if it got released all at once by now we would’ve already watched it ALL and it would’ve already been over forever and instead there so much more awating.

I’ll say it again and I’ll say it forever, I think it’s sad how tv shows have also become disposable like a piece of fast fashion. THIS IS THE WAY OF WATCHING A SHOW, IT’S IN EPISODES BECAUSE THE STORY IS SUPPOSED TO EVOLVE SLOWLY!

Probably soooo unpopular BUT BRING BACK 1 EPISODE PER WEEK ON ALL SHOWS ON ALL PLATFORMS, we’ve gotten too used to consuming media without processing it and for the work of months or years to be over in a handful of hours.

BRING BACK FANDOMS MAKING THEORIES ONE EPISODE AT A TIME AND FULLY IMMERSING INTO THE STORY!!

themikerob

Yes, being able to participate in the fandom is so fun and enhances the experience of the show so much!

I would like 2 episodes a week, but 1 a week is better than 8 episodes for 1 day every 1-3 years like most streaming shows.

thatonekimgirl

THE SUMMER I TURNED PRETTY 3.02 "Last Christmas" || Agnes Being A Good Friend

#Being an Agnes stan until they ruin that character too

lavenderspence

you know who the best character in tsitp season 3 is? its agnes. she's bold, she's daring, she's funny, she's not scared to call conrad out on his bullshit so he can continue bettering himself. she's a good friend, she is the friend conrad needed, and she stayed a friend, even though she wanted something more. agnes is an icon

themikerob

How are they going to ruin her, like they ruin every character.

hilarioushitshq

Not Karl..

meyhew

teen wolf is suchhhh a dumb show. i love it 😋

sototallynormaliswear

wellwaterhysteria

everyone in teen wolf season 3b: who is the nogitsune. this is too hard to figure out. we need to know who it’s possessing or we are Fucked forever. we need to find them. we need to solve this impossible riddle of who is being possessed Right Now. do you have any idea who it could be, stiles?

stiles: