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"But, alas, the heart forgets; the heart is distracted; and May-time passes; summer ends; the storms break over the rot-ripe orchards and the heart grows old; while the hours, the days, the months, and the years pile up and pile up, till the mind becomes too crowded, too confused: dust gathers in it; cobwebs multiply; the walls darken and fall into ruin and decay; the memory perishes..."

May Day Eve

by Nick Joaquin

#May Day Eve #May Day #Nick Joaquin #Philippine literature

Clocks go forward next week, and by then it has been two seasons since I stepped foot in this wonderland. Oh, how time flies by so quickly when you're not paralyzed by it. 🍂❄️🌸 📷 @ptrcdns_ (at British Museum) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cp-6VRQI_ReZTKZaKtnyJxDS0vhxh3pKdU-1XM0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

You really got so hurt that even meals are now a trauma.

We all have something that we stopped growing on—our areas of closemindedness. We have beliefs which were already firm before we got the chance to scrutinize them. We lost grip on the most important ingredient of wisdom—the self-reflection. We cannot even reconcile.

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We all have something that we stopped growing on—our areas of closemindedness. We have beliefs which were already firm before we got the ch

#childhoodtrauma #stateofmind #growth #close mind #open mind #closemindedness #openmindedness #stagnation #what of

Own

If everyone has their own life, no one else can have your life but you. Don't let others control you. Make them handle their own.

Many of us have experienced being told what to do even if we have our own judgment—our degrees, careers, relationships, and other decisions in life.

Life is one-to-one. Each one of us has only one life to live. Life is precious resource which lets us explore the world through our freewill and judgment. If someone else controls your life, that person will have two lives, and you wil have none. Hence, you lose the part of your life—time, opportunity, discovery—which you can never get back.

After a major success or major failure, you will start to view the world differently. You will realize that there are a lot of bigger deals than the triumph you won or the defeat you suffered. Whether you wil or lose, there is only one person who knows you most—yourself. People may celebrate or cry with you, but that won't last longer or be stronger than your own happiness or grief.

Of course, accountability is of utmost importance. People who control something that's not theirs tend to claim the credit but deny the failure. You won't do that to yourself.

You are your own captain. So, steer your own ship. Others already have theirs. At the end of the day, your self-worth is what matters most. You have your own pace—do not let others acquire an extra life by taking yours.

#self-care #self-love #freedom #no trespassing #myself

Can't get out of the holiday mood? It's the first Monday of the new year, but it feels so soon to go back to work or school.

Some of us didn't even stop working. No matter what the holiday is, some of us cannot afford to lose a day of income, to make ends meet, to feed our families. Some of us don't even have a sense of "holiday" anymore—every day is just the same. Some of us kept the shops working so that everyone else who's on break can enjoy.

Breaks should be rights and not privileges. But in the real world, and for most of us, holiday breaks are not free. So personally, I regard the holidays as a privilege which just happened to be customary—that's why we were disappointed when it was formally announced that December 24th and 31st are special working days.

So, if you were able to have your holiday break, I hope you got whatever you need—healing, break, money, reconnection, silence, joy, books, time to process your pent-up thoughts. I hope that the holidays gave you enough time to organize your life for this new year ahead.

Satisfied or not, we have to acknowledge that our vacation is now ending. We have to return to our hectic realities because we have responsibilities. We have families to feed, jobs to finish, credits to pay, dreams to fulfill. "Finished or not finished, pass your papers."

And if you kept working during the holidays, thank you very much. Thanks for keeping the world working so that the world doesn't shut down. Thanks for accommodating our groceries, for providing us transportation, for tending to our wounds anytime we needed help, for maintaining peace and order, for being our eyes and ears—just whatever you did, thank you.

Let's get back to work.

May you have a peaceful first week!

#new year #2022 #back to work #back to school #memories #holiday break #holiday #holidays are over #save for a rainly day

Sweet Treats

I hope you have saved enough sweet memories to fuel you up in the stormy days ahead.

#holidays #2022 #healing #break #holiday break #back to work #back to school

Happy year of the mushroom! 🍄

Introvert

Being an introvert is okay. Don't spend too much energy unnecessarily just to conform to society. Cherish your peace.

#introvert #introvert day #peace

I wish I didn’t deplete myself more than my actual social capacity.

It used to feel good having lots of people who followed my influence. But, prioritizing others over myself taxed me hardcore. For the long-term, that mistake brought permanent damage to my social perception. Everything feels so trivial. Things that feel important today would eventually lose its heat over time. The people I have today might not be there in the future, or they might not be as important even if they stay. If everything fleets, what kind of things are even worth to be cherished?

If I had known that it’s okay to be introverts earlier, I wouldn’t have exerted undue effort in socializing. I wouldn’t have exhausted myself to the point of scratching and carving the last of my strength in order to please people. I knew my limits, but didn’t acknowledge them as valid. I wouldn’t have hastened my depletion. I could have protected myself better—from wearout, from apathy, from social dysfunction.

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http://thesbjctproject.com/2022/01/02/introverts-are-normal

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Woebegoner #8 :: Introverts

#introvert #introvert day #MBTI #personality #shell #social battery #social media #woebegoner

January 2 - World Introvert Day

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Among the many things I regret in my life, I regret not knowing that introverts are perfectly normal the most.

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http://thesbjctproject.com/2022/01/02/introverts-are-normal/

Among the many things I regret in my life, I regret not knowing that introverts are perfectly normal the most.

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https://www.webtoons.com/en/challenge/woebegoner/8-introverts/viewer?title_no=510186&episode_no=8

Just a sad girl on her escape route from existential crisis. Passing by. No one wants to listen to my stories, so I'm writing them, hoping

#introvert #introvert day #January 2 #MBTI #personality #social battery #social media

Tomorrow, we're going back to our hectic and messy realities. Your galleries, downloads, screenshots, folder of memes—if you still haven't cleaned up your digital files, do it now.

#2022 #new year #declutter #digital files #downloads #galleries #memes #reminder

It's a new year, which means... planner season!

Many of us like planners and have probably bought one before the past year ended. In my experience, I have made a lot of "new year resolutions" in the past which didn't really get accomplished. Most of my resolutions are serial or continuous. Even with digitalization, monitoring apps and all, I still struggle with sticking to routines.

But, I know I'm not the only one.

I want to tell myself that this is okay. However, I've been saying this to myself for years, and it now sounds like an excuse.

I guess what I want to say is that, we should not just be collectors of planners. They are supposed to assist us with changing something for ourselves. Sometimes, we have to tweak the interpretation of their purpose in our lives—that they are not just list of tasks for the week, but a reflection of our time alive. We put our memories to paper to increase their permanence, if not immortalize them. These memories help us study our patterns and behaviors. Most of all, planners develop our consistency. If we want to look back on something, we have to work on having something to look back on, and we have to make them vivid and real.

So, let's find the balance between planning and execution. We don't have to make our planners colorful or frameworthy. We just have to use them to help produce some change in our lives.

#planner #newyear #newyearsday #2022newyear #resolutions2022