My 20s are slightly bent

I live for days before they happen .For the love of fedoras , poetry , mouth watering food and red wine | I talk music, film, books, politics, Africa and Black!

[rainformation]

formative years? aren’t they all?

[fairycosmos]

one day i will snap out of it im sure

[fairycosmos]

[mmaisonnnn]

[leatherandmossprints]

‘Laziness’ by Félix Vallotton, c. 1896.

[achillesinhighheels]

[saintfelina]

women in GLAM (Galleries, Libraries, Archives and Museums)

[loveridden1999]

doing things at the right age is literally a made up concept. you can start/pursue anything at any age. btw.

[loveridden1999]

remember remember

[papayajuan2019]

pre-traumatic stress

[jeanritchie]

you have to let yourself be a weird woman or you will not survive

[theambitiouswoman]

If you ever find yourself fixated in the potential in someone else, remember that what you’re seeing is simply a reflection of the untapped potential in you✨

[birdcagesandbutterflies]

now that i am a real adult i am starting to realise. media lied to me about the availability of rooftops to go hang out on. every day i wish i could be hanging out on a rooftop somewhere looking cool as fuck

[allycat75]

[theambitiouswoman]

Guys, the other day I was reading articles about this, and psychology makes a clear distinction between being kind and being too nice. Being the bigger person doesn’t mean swallowing disrespect or avoiding conflict. The niceness comes from fear of upsetting people or being rejected, it’s conflict avoidance. Many people were conditioned early to believe keeping the peace matters more than honesty, and that shows up as over giving, under charging, avoiding hard conversations, and tolerating disrespect

Psychology also links chronic over accommodation to fragile self worth. People with healthy self esteem don’t need to be liked to feel secure. They can tolerate tension, set boundaries without over explaining, and let others experience consequences. This matters emotionally and practically. In work, money, and relationships, avoiding discomfort often means giving away value and opportunities. Real maturity is kindness with boundaries, compassion without self betrayal, and knowing that sometimes protecting your peace means stepping back and letting people sit in what they caused

[allycat75]

[theambitiouswoman]

Guys, the other day I was reading articles about this, and psychology makes a clear distinction between being kind and being too nice. Being the bigger person doesn’t mean swallowing disrespect or avoiding conflict. The niceness comes from fear of upsetting people or being rejected, it’s conflict avoidance. Many people were conditioned early to believe keeping the peace matters more than honesty, and that shows up as over giving, under charging, avoiding hard conversations, and tolerating disrespect

Psychology also links chronic over accommodation to fragile self worth. People with healthy self esteem don’t need to be liked to feel secure. They can tolerate tension, set boundaries without over explaining, and let others experience consequences. This matters emotionally and practically. In work, money, and relationships, avoiding discomfort often means giving away value and opportunities. Real maturity is kindness with boundaries, compassion without self betrayal, and knowing that sometimes protecting your peace means stepping back and letting people sit in what they caused

[luldamdaddy]

[gardenxkisses]

Wishing financial freedom, good sex, laughter and perfectly seasoned food for everyone reading this

[aidashakur]

a lesson i learned this year is that a person's capacity for growth is directly linked to how much truth they can face about themselves without running away

[catchymemes]