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*through gritted teeth* the world is GOOD. people are kind. Humans are NOT inheritly selfish. you will make it through this year. recovery is possible. people you don't know yet will love you. You are going to do things you can't even imagine right now. You are going to read a rlly good book. You are going to eat some rlly good food. You are going to experience joy again. Things can get better. Situations can change. You can choose to be kinder. The world can change for the better.

ohnoitstbskyen

rattanwhip

Beach day

#the amazing digital circus #pomni tadc #jax tadc #and everybody else whatever. you know who they are #funnybunny #art #lesbian

juney-blues

stairs are so funny. falling 100 meters will kill you. solution? fall 10 centimeters a thousand times.

markadoo

they invented all those neat si prefixes and people still talk like this

395nm

falling a hectometer will kill you. solution? fall a decimeter a kilotime.

toskarin

pocket-deer-belly

sometimes it's less like there's masculine and feminine things and gender neutral things, it's more like. there's gendered things and there's ungendered things. masculine things are ungendered feminine things are gendered. masculinity is the default and femininity is the abberation, the Gendered Experience. pants are for everyone skirts are for girls. suits are for everyone dresses are for women. you know

pocket-deer-belly

and can we maybe think of why a lot of historical feminist pushes to make masculine things gender neutral worked and now in the current modern day nobody bats an eye if women wear pants, but men wearing feminine things is still a hot topic of debate at best and grounds for violent assault at worst? is there maybe a word for this phenomenon?

pocket-deer-belly

it's almost like there's. a male default. activities deemed masculine have a value considered self-evident. and also considered default experiences. a desire to participate in those is considered natural. and everything outside of that is considered "gendered" and therefore Marked, as like, lesser, unworthy,

angelooze

i think the simplest example of this is things are nearly always a he at default, if it’s a fantasy creature *he’s* doing something, if it’s an inanimate object it’s often a *he* - everything must be attributed masculinity because that is a societal default and unless something explicitly preforms and acts out femininity in its entirety (and even if it does, that isn’t often enough as is the case with transmysogynists) it is a he in some way and even if *he* isn’t used it’s dude or bro or any other thing that can be dismissed as something other than male defaultism. That defaultism is a reward that can be seen when something is explained not to be a *he* when a fantasy creature is explained to be aligned with femininity or androgyny it’s no longer annoying or a fucker or anything it’s a bitch it’s a cunt it’s a whore it’s any misogynistic comment possible because the lack of maleness makes something lesser and require some kind of societal punishment

pocket-deer-belly

frostops

sometimes a genderswap manga will directly touch on the nature of transmisogyny

frostops

anyway the context here is that uesugi, the girl, here, got turned into a girl and was voted by her class to play the lead female role in a play, and she talks about how people would always do this to her from a young age, long before the genderswap, but it was always done in a mocking way. the class also voted for the girl uesugi likes to be the male lead, with her initially being tied with the guy here and winning in the second vote between just the two of them. (that love triangle is kind of the central conflict but its not super relevant to this post). uesugi isnt even griping about the difference in treatment, its just something she's noticing clearly now that she is being made to play a female role without it being a thing to mock her. it implies her initial reservations at playing the role was due to that past treatment.

frostops

the over saturation of isekai leading to "subversions" of the expected tropes that themselves because oversaturated has lead to some highly specific subgenres. i know of like 4 "vrmmo where the protag picks a build that everyone thinks sucks but actually has untapped potential and also has a girl avatar against their will for some reason"

frostops

the four im thinking of are "Only Sense Online", "VRMMO de Summoner Hajimemashita", "Blade Skill Online: Crushing the Competition with My Abysmal Stats, Useless Class, and Garbage Weapon!", and "I've turned into a bishoujo, but I chose to be an online games addict!"

i also recall a fifth where the build the protag uses is based around fishing but i cant remember the name or find it. 4 is crazy as it is though.

frostops

as i have been reminded in the replies, "Dimension Wave" is the fishing one. so thats 5 at least of this very specific set up.

frostops

fwiw i only really keep up with only sense online out of these. the protagonist, Yun, has slowly accepted things like her younger sister calling her oneechan and other ways of being treated like a girl. less forcefem and more begrudgingly accepted fem.

frostops

been thinking about this and i think the surprising frequency of this set up speaks to three desires. obviously one is to be a girl, thats a given for gender manga. the second is for the idealized vrmmo that's a fully simulated world that never came to be (and likely never will) to be realized, which is also standard for fiction about such games. the third is that people in mmos will be nice to you if you pick a fun but suboptimal playstyle, which is clearly the most unrealistic desire here.

girlcreaturething

Despite common belief otherwise, a trans woman is a type of person,

#transfeminism #transmisogyny

oh-hell-its-nell

I think the actual genuine problem with the ideology around "male socialization" is that I think a lot of you are misunderstanding that while a lot of AFAB kids are growing up, if they cannot achieve "correct" presentation of girlhood, they are told to try harder. To stop being masculine, to grow out their hair, to just "be a girl." A lot of people will even be lenient with a level of masculinity in AFABs as long as it is not too "deviant". (this does not apply to every case, but every AFAB queer person I know had similar to this to some extent) By and large AMAB kids who do not align with masculinity raised post like 1995 do not have that experience. If we cannot just "be a boy" in the "right way" we shouldn't be AT ALL. The amount of times before I even knew I was trans that I was told that I just wasn't actually a boy because of something I viewed as arbitrary, the amount of times I was physically assaulted or attacked under the age of 18 for my "wrong" behaviors. And that is not to say the first situation is not also very bad and traumatic. But the reason so many trans men feel that being told "you'll never be a real woman" is backwards affirmation, even when it is misplaced transmisogyny, is because they are FINALLY getting womanhood actively removed from the view of them, even as an attack. This weird idea that TERFs are saying that "no one but you could tell you thought you were a girl" is like so patently not true. I was hit so hard in the chest with a basketball by a middle schooler when I was 4 years old that I had a bruised lung. The first time I was attacked in such a way that I could not fight back and literally almost died, an older boy held me down on the playground and choked me until I was blacking out, and he only stopped because a teacher caught him. Both of these children claimed it was because (paraphrased) "I just don't like that he's not acting like a boy, he just needs to go away". Other people knew something was not aligned with what they were taught in me, they just couldn't articulate. And this wasn't just other kids, my grandmother literally complained to my mother every Christmas and birthday that even buying neutral things I actually liked (coloring books or art supplies or neutral creator legos even) was too difficult to do it anymore, so she stopped. My own grandmother got every other one of her grandkids gifts every birthday and christmas, but me, because I "wasn't right". My mother had to bring gifts and mark them as from her own mother. People can tell these things, you all act as though children don't... talk? Or have personalities? Or IDENTITIES?? As someone who has a behavior sciences degree, I feel like this is an extreme and overwhelming mistreatment of even the idea of children. You can tell a lot about a kid just from the toys they pick up, or look at a little too long in the target when their parent isn't looking. I was paired up with the girls my entire childhood, even before I transitioned. I was in the girl group in every separated P.E. class. People asked me if I was a boy or girl literally every day. Going places with friends I would almost always get a "welcome in ladies". PEOPLE CAN TELL. And a lot of the time if you couldn't before the transition, it means that shit was bullied, beat, and berated out of that person. I am not saying that there is no such thing as socialization, but... most of behavior theory around socialization came from... dog breeding? Some people are nurtured into being male, everyone is nurtured into being a misogynist. But kids know what they are, like, a lot of the time, even if it's not permanent.

creatureofthecornfield

people love to spout "male socialization" like bitch i wasnt socialized period, i was isolated and desperately trying to fit into the social standards of manhood and everyone else knew i was failing at it.

i wasnt privelaged for being beat senseless to the point i developed microfractures that still hurt to this day just because i wasnt "man enough"

i wasnt privelaged for begging not to have my hair cut or messed with and being forced to have it shaved down till its almost a buzz cut. (now i cant have people touch my hair if i dont trust them or else ill break down in tears)

im not male socialized, im not socialized at all.

nighthawkes

I must sleep. Sleep is the mind-healer. Sleep is the big-life that brings total ability to fucking do anything. I will face my bed. I will permit the blankie to pass over me and snores to pass through me. And when sleep has gone past I will turn the outer eye to greet the new morning. When the sleep has gone there will be everything. Energy and will to live will remain.

indirectcomedian

xena gave us trans drag lesbianism as a treat

autisticexpression2

There are layers to this. Earlier in the episode, Xena discovers her secret while they're sharing a locker room. A woman she has got naked with turned out to be trans. It's the exact scenario terfs are always fear-mongering about, but Xena just shrugs it off.

Also, the kiss was a big deal not just because it was gay but because the trans actress was HIV positive. They wanted to show the world that you can't contract HIV just from kissing someone. Bear in mind, the AIDS crisis was still fresh on people's minds in the 90s.

Happy Pride.