This is me.

Age: 39 || Pangender Flux || Omnisexual || AFAB || Married w/2 kids || They/Them Pronouns || Background: Geek, Nerd, Life long learning, Avid Fandom Fic Reader, Artist (digital drawings, papercrafts, bookbinding & repair, writing poetry & prose), Witch, Baha’í, (hereditary) Ashkenazi Jew, Mental Health Advocate, LGBT+ Supporter,

[this-is-me19]

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Witchy Resources

Creating my grimoire digitally @commonplace-book-magics

Great witchcraft tumblr blogs

@breelandwalker

@witchesversuspatriarchy

Storm/Weather magic

@stormbornwitch masterpost

@she-who-keeps-the-lighthouse

Information

Love magick

Avoid curses

Alternatives to “So mote it be”

Simple ways to practice magick everyday https://www.tumblr.com/thecupidwitch/758278768770138112/simple-ways-to-practice-magic-everyday

Where do magic correspondences come from? https://www.tumblr.com/hagoftheholler/673485802844700672/where-do-magic-correspondences-come-from

Folk names for herbs, body parts as plant parts, and animals as plants

Bath magic masterpost

Emoji Magic AKA technomagic

Time correspondence table: Hours and Days of the week

Tasseomancy (Tea Magic and Readings)

How to Bless Stuff

Bath Magic Masterpost

How to prevent spells from backfiring

Teas, brews, and potions, oh my!

Witchcraft for the Grieving

Prevent Spells from Backfiring: https://www.tumblr.com/this-is-me19/721794047866486784/how-to-prevent-spells-from-backfiring

Spells

Emoji Spells Masterlist (not mine!)

No

Money Bowl // Money Bowl & friendly reminder

Salt Bowl

Travel protection prayer

Candle magick beyond colors

Calling A Storm and Stopping A Storm

Sinking

Addiction Removal Spell https://www.tumblr.com/this-is-me19/759525793272578048/addiction-spell

Curse Phrase

About https://www.tumblr.com/this-is-me19/711922631151075328/the-busy-ghost-bog-mog-i-was-reading-up-on

https://www.tumblr.com/this-is-me19/681399137577713664/you-got-a-curse-to-make-all-the-transphobes-in-my

https://www.tumblr.com/this-is-me19/722839380651278336/if-this-isnt-a-curse-i-dont-know-what-is

https://www.tumblr.com/this-is-me19/752318384347201536/may-you-be-misgendered-as-often-as-you-misgender

https://www.tumblr.com/this-is-me19/760802270731501568/may-heshetheypronoun-always-have-to-poop

Ingredients

Honey

Spellsugars

Herb(al Lore)

Crystals and Gemstones

Folks Names for Parts of Plants (AKA Animal part names in old spells are really plant names and parts)

Ginger

Sigils

I dream peacefully

Anti demon possession

[weavemama]

DO NOT SUPPORT SALVATION ARMY 

[jackharknessday]

I can back this up. It isn’t only their shelters.

I have a family friend who worked at our local Salvation Army headquarters as a a secretary. This particular office took all the Christmas donations for children in need, put them in a warehouse, and on a designated day the staff and their friends picked through them all, taking whatever they wanted. She saw people hauling away bikes donated for specific families. Some local children had hundreds of dollars of gifts donated in their name, and on Christmas they received three cheap things, items likely not even from the person who sponsored them.

My friend quit, and I’ve not given them a dime of my money since then.

Do not give to the Salvation Army.

[gayfeatherfiend]

Do Not. Give. To. Salvation. Army

[rab-it-deactivated20231030]

My turn.

I’m a wildfire and disaster logistics specialist.

I deal with a lot of agencies who provide disaster relief.

I used to say the Salvation Army’s disaster services were the one (literally the ONE) good thing they did.

They would come in, set up a canteen trailer, make and pass out hot coffee and donated food in a disaster, usually being one of the first agencies to get there and the last to leave.

Then I found out.

Every time they did this, regardless of if they were actually invited or deployed by the agency in charge (usually FEMA, sometimes others) they would SELF-DEPLOY. Meanjng they would just show up. Ok. That’s not TOO bad, sometimes agencies have to take initiative and get there before the red tape is sorted out. BUT. They, after they left at the end of the incident, they would send FEMA or the host agency a BILL. They used one or two paid employees (usually the driver of the truck and a supervisor); and many VOLUNTEERS, but they would bill for EVERYONE’s Labor at standard federal rates. They would bill for the food they distributed even though it was all donated by another agency or private parties. They would bill for the coffee they made and the supplies. Except they would use electricity from the shelter location, water from donations or from the shelter, and in many cases, they would get the coffee and industrial filters DONATED, but bill for them at retail prices.

Don’t FUCKING give to the Salvation Army.

[knight-of-vengeance-deactivated]

The Salvation Army is also ass to the workers. A good number of people join it, naively thinking that it’s doing good, and end up leaving cynical and beaten down. The management is hostile, if not outright abusive, and demand some ridiculous hours of it lower to mid-level staff. Don’t support these people.

[fisharescary802]

Unsettling update

[oldearthaccretionist]

Find better local charities and shelters and give to them instead!

[moonybyte]

Also just for even more horrific context on the original twitter thread?

Salvation Army reached out to Milknmuffins and asked what shelter she’s at with the promise to address the abuse in it. She…ended up saying where she was. She was thrown out onto the street. It’s also all on Twitter.

They invited her to a personal talk so she could explain the situation in person.

And then they threatened her with a screenshot of a rape-threat made supposedly by her:

And then threw her out into the street while claiming she broke house rules that

So yeah, the Salvation Army is a bunch of entitled assholes that will treat the most vulnerable like shit if they dare try to do anything that makes them look bad

[supernovafirefly]

The “Fuck Salvation Army” posts are making the rounds again, so conisder this your reminder: Do. Not. Give. These. Assholes. A. Single. Fucking. Penny.

Do not support them in any way, shape, or form.

[eagletrekkie]

‘Tis the season to say FUCK the Salvation Army.

[trainsgenderfoxgirl2816]

I knew they were horrible but I didn’t realize they were that bad

[yeahokayillreblogthat]

Yeah okay, I’ll never fucking donate to that 💸

[this-is-me19]

Until having to be LGBT+ supports because necessary in society, they and chik-fil-A were all anti-LGBT+. What did you expect of them?

They’re American Christian organizations. They’re a club and want money. Capitalism rules in the USA.

I know. I was born here.

[this-is-me19]

Ever hated mega loathed something you’re really really good at?

That’s how I feel about cleaning.

I could do a cleaning business. I know I could but I hate cleaning.

I sweat and get dirty even with gloves. I hypersweat which is normal for me and my homeostasis has issues deciding if it’s gonna be hot or cold. Thank you POTS.

I’d rather go through people’s stuff and reorganize it. It’s more fun. I love organizing.

I’ve thoroughly clean my stove and oven. I’ve throughly cleaned my shower, toilet, and bathroom floor.

I’ve swept and vacuumed, boraxxed along the wall, and rearranged my bedroom.

I loathe cleaning.

And I wanted to dye my hair blue too.

I miss being blue. It’s a navy blue.

[this-is-me19]

How to tell your kid is autistic without a diagnosis:

They rinse the paper plates and plastic wear since they know it must be done with the regular plates and silverware.

This is because they tend to think in rules and absolutes. Having exceptions is not always easy for them to understand. That’s okay.

Also, realized yesterday that Lilo is autistic.

[ordinarytalk]

Recovering from autistic burnout as a high-masking adult:

To recover, you literally need to manually learn skills that most people learn as a toddler

You need to learn what makes your body uncomfortable, and what to do to fix it

If you are high-masking, that usually means that you have learned to ignore every distress signal your body sends unless it is a distress signal that a neurotypical person would recognize. People have likely been unintentionally gaslighting you about your lived experience your entire life

If you feel bad or panicked for no reason, stop and try to pay attention to your body. Are you tense? You are likely feeling physical pain somewhere. If you've been gaslit about your pain your entire life, you might not be able to identify it.

Go through a sensory checklist.

SIGHT: Try closing and covering your eyes. If this gives you relief, the lights are probably too bright. You may also need differently-colored lights

SOUND: Cover your ears. Does this give you relief? If so, you may need earplugs or noise canceling headphones. You may also benefit from a neutral or pleasant background noise, like soft music or brown noise.

TOUCH: Are your clothes uncomfortable? Your chair? Your body? Do you feel greasy, like you need a shower? Do you need softer, sensory-friendly clothing?

TASTE: Do you need to brush your teeth or tongue? Would chewing on something help?

SMELL: Is there a strong or unpleasant smell in the room? Do you need to clean or empty a trash can? Would an air purifier help? Would a pleasant smell like a candle help?

INTEROCEPTION: Are you hungry? Thirsty? Tired? How is your posture? Are any of your muscles tight or sore? Scan your body slowly from head to feet, tensing and loosening each group of muscles. Going for a walk or doing a series of quick stretches may help a lot.

Learning how to do this stuff is not intuitive, if you've had an entire lifetime of gaslighting telling you that everything hurting you isn't a big deal and you're being dramatic over nothing.

This takes time, it takes work, it's not intuitive, and it's hard. Most people forget how hard it is, because they learned this as toddlers.

If you want to recover, you need to relearn your whole body. And get over your idea of "normal" and just wear the damn sunglasses and put on the headphones. If people stare, fuck em. You're disabled and they can deal with that.

[ultrafacts]

According to the CDC, in 10 percent of those drownings, the adult will actually watch the child do it, having no idea it is happening. Drowning does not look like drowning—Dr. Pia, in an article in the Coast Guard’s On Scene magazine, described the Instinctive Drowning Response like this:

“Except in rare circumstances, drowning people are physiologically unable to call out for help. The respiratory system was designed for breathing. Speech is the secondary or overlaid function. Breathing must be fulfilled before speech occurs.

Drowning people’s mouths alternately sink below and reappear above the surface of the water. The mouths of drowning people are not above the surface of the water long enough for them to exhale, inhale, and call out for help. When the drowning people’s mouths are above the surface, they exhale and inhale quickly as their mouths start to sink below the surface of the water.

Drowning people cannot wave for help. Nature instinctively forces them to extend their arms laterally and press down on the water’s surface. Pressing down on the surface of the water permits drowning people to leverage their bodies so they can lift their mouths out of the water to breathe.

Throughout the Instinctive Drowning Response, drowning people cannot voluntarily control their arm movements. Physiologically, drowning people who are struggling on the surface of the water cannot stop drowning and perform voluntary movements such as waving for help, moving toward a rescuer, or reaching out for a piece of rescue equipment.

From beginning to end of the Instinctive Drowning Response people’s bodies remain upright in the water, with no evidence of a supporting kick. Unless rescued by a trained lifeguard, these drowning people can only struggle on the surface of the water from 20 to 60 seconds before submersion occurs.”

This doesn’t mean that a person that is yelling for help and thrashing isn’t in real trouble—they are experiencing aquatic distress. Not always present before the Instinctive Drowning Response, aquatic distress doesn’t last long—but unlike true drowning, these victims can still assist in their own rescue. They can grab lifelines, throw rings, etc.

Look for these other signs of drowning when persons are in the water:

Head low in the water, mouth at water level

Head tilted back with mouth open

Eyes glassy and empty, unable to focus

Eyes closed

Hair over forehead or eyes

Not using legs—vertical

Hyperventilating or gasping

Trying to swim in a particular direction but not making headway

Trying to roll over on the back

Appear to be climbing an invisible ladder

So if a crew member falls overboard and everything looks OK—don’t be too sure. Sometimes the most common indication that someone is drowning is that they don’t look like they’re drowning. They may just look like they are treading water and looking up at the deck. One way to be sure? Ask them, “Are you all right?” If they can answer at all—they probably are. If they return a blank stare, you may have less than 30 seconds to get to them. And parents—children playing in the water make noise. When they get quiet, you get to them and find out why.

Source/article: [x]

Follow Ultrafacts for more facts!

[mermaibee]

BOOST FOR THE SUMMER. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.

[1q8njk-deactivated20221112]

Can I just say thank you to OP for putting such a detailed description on this?

I’ve been a lifeguard for 6 years now and of all the saves I’ve done, maybe two or three had people drowning in the stereotypical thrashing style. And even those, like the save I made last weekend, it was exactly like OP describes where the person’s head is going in and out of the water but it isn’t long enough to get any air. Mostly you recognize drowning by the look on someone’s face. If someone looks wide eyed and terrified or confused, chances are they’re drowning. That look of “oh shit” is pretty easily recognizable. And even if you can’t tell for sure: GO AFTER THEM ANYWAY. I’ve done “saves” where a kid was pretending to drown and I mistook it for real drowning, but that’s preferable to a kid ACTUALLY drowning.

Also please remember that even strong swimmers can drown if they have a medical emergency, get cramps, or get too tired. If your friend knows how to swim but they’re acting funny get them to land. And even if someone can respond when you ask them if they need help, if they say they do need help? GO HELP THEM.

However . If the victim is a stranger, I can’t recommend trying to get them. Lifeguards literally train to escape “attacks,” because people who are drowning can freak the fuck out and grab you and make YOU drown as well. If you do go in after someone, take hold of them from the back and talk to them the whole time. IF YOU ARE GRABBED: duck down into the water as low as you can get. The person is panicking and won’t want to go under water and should release you. Shove up at their hands and push them away from you as you duck under. Don’t die trying to save someone else.

Please guys, read and memorize this post. Not all places have lifeguards. Being able to recognize drowning is such an important skill to have and you can save someone’s life.

[inspector-loki]

Just incase!

[witchofobsession-deactivated202]

In a water park once, I was suddenly grabbed by a child and he dragged me under the water without warning. I was going to get angry with him when I resurfaced because I thought he was being an ass, until I looked at him go back in and out hyperventilating the entire time. I grabbed him under his arms and began trying to drag him out while screaming for the lifeguard.

When the lifeguard got us both out, a woman came running down and accused me of harming him and said he had been completely fine in the water. That there was no reason to drag him out of there. The lifeguard had to explain to her that her son had been drowning, to which her response was to say that she didn’t hear him call for help.

People seriously need to learn the signs.

[princedrewwrites]

http://spotthedrowningchild.com/ really demonstrates how easy it is to miss drowning 

[this-is-me19]

I need to sleep! I work at 7 today ugh

[actionables]

[toostoked]

art

[mattheuphonium-blog]

This is my fucking favorite thing I’ve ever seen I’m sobbing

[celestial-naiad]

I thought the baby was copying them, but its actually the other way around and now I’m cackling. This is stupid cute.

[aregrettablehullabaloo]

This video clip has watered my crops and cleansed my angry soul!

[anais-ninja-bitch]

a smol choreographer

[hgedits]

now it's only me. only us. correction.

[biteofcherry]

Important experiment: Observation of a Dom's reaction to unexpected stimuli (of being hit with a small rubber ball)

[thezombieprostitute]

Make sure it gets written down!

[biteofcherry]

That's a very good point. Which means I can't be tied down, need to make proper notes and write down conclusions.

[thezombieprostitute]

Steve: No need for the notes. I've got a camera set up.

[biteofcherry]

[thezombieprostitute]

Steve: And if you have trouble remembering what you were thinking or feeling in a moment, we can recreate it the scenario.

[overclockedopossum]

If you tell neurodivergent people they need to "get comfortable with being uncomfortable" I am putting gravel in your shoes. No you can't take the gravel out. You have to deal with it. Dealing with it makes you a better person. What do you mean "pointless suffering".

[northstareclipse]

People don't understand that "comfortable with being uncomfortable" is literally the baseline of nearly every disabled adult (both physically disabled and neurodivergent). Like, that's what we've fought to be for the better portion of our lives already. What we spent years getting familiar with our limitations for. And then now we have all these twee dipshits with frog icons and such telling us we gotta stack more on top of that, or our souls will rot and take our ✨communities✨ down with them 🥺🙄

[overclockedopossum]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

[sanguinifex]

Ok so the people saying that don’t mean this. They mean seeing a homeless person in public and not calling the cops on them.

[overclockedopossum]

The prompt for this post was an autistic person I know telling me about how they made themselves do something they were uncomfortable with because they'd internalised that they had to "get comfortable with being uncomfortable" and had a really bad experience which made things worse and at the time they blamed themselves for.

The reason this is resonating with disabled people in general is because they have been told it, in the context you seem to have recognised yet chosen to ignore of "perform non-disability in a way that's actively upleasant for you so that we don't have to deal with you being all disabled". I've been told it too. Whole classes of "therapy" are based on it, or at least devolve into it when mis-applied.

Seeing a homeless person in public is not inherently "uncomfortable" anyway and there's no need to act like it should be.

[black-white-and-leather]

[this-is-me19]

Gorgeous photo but personally, the angle makes them appear so skinny in an unhealthy way. If that’s them, that them. I know many families like that but it takes a bit getting used to. The Jew in me wants to cook and feed them a lot.

[tastefullyoffensive]

“And Then Everyone Clapped” — 44 People Lying About The Weirdest Things

[were--ralph]

me and my oc's

[depsidase]

[this-is-me19]

Amen, says my 5’3” self

[remanence-of-love]

[seasonofhorror]

THE ADDAMS FAMILY

1991, dir. Barry Sonnenfeld