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âYou and this perfect person, who youâve never met before, to come out of nowhere, fit into your life perfectly, complete you, and make you whole for the first time in your life, like your mother did for me.â
And even though what he said sounds sweet and whatever, the way it manifested to my seven-year-old self is, âIf you are not with someone, you are broken. If you are not with someone, you are incomplete. If you are not with someone, you are not whole.â
And thatâs not just something that my dad made me feel, thatâs something that we as a society for the last 40 years has made every single child feel. Every Disney prince has a princess, every princess has a prince, and every television show or movie always has a character in it that doesnât want to be in a relationship. Theyâre happy with who they are. But guess what, by the end of the series? They were wrong! They were wrong for wanting to be alone, the fucking idiot!
Itâs all to do with love. Everyone needs someone. And when you raise children in that world, where everything points towards love, when youâve raised them for 18 fucking years, when you become an adult for the first time in your late teens and early 20âs, weâre so terrified.
Weâre so trying to be an adult that some of us will take the wrong person, the wrong jigsaw, and force them into our jigsaws anyway. Iâm going to force this fucking person into our lives because itâs much better to have something than nothing.
Then five years later, youâre stood looking at this jigsaw you donât recognize, being like, âAh! Thereâs a fucking cunt in the middle of this!â And in that moment, you have a very, very difficult question to ask yourself. Do I admit the last five years of my life have been a waste? Do I waste the rest of my life?
My generation has become so obsessed with starting the rest of their lives that they give up the one that theyâre currently living. We have romanticized the idea of romance, and it is cancerous. People are more in love with the idea of love than they are with the person they are with. The worst thing you can do with your life is to spend it with the wrong human being.
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