the reports of my gender are greatly exaggerated

Em they/it trans* queer adult crippling mental illness

[thislousytshirt]

i dropped my phone in a pond and just decided to not install tumblr on my new one for my mental health. so you wont see me for a while lol. contact me on discord

[eredhes]

[ID: Image one - photo of a painted clay horse figure. Image two - rough painted sketch of the same horse. The horse is light brown with white dapples, a white star, and two white socks. End ID.]

Final piece and initial sketch for a custom horse commission.

[elodieunderglass]

So plump! So pleasing! thank you @a-disaster-piece!

[firawren]

People who are hard on yourselves: may I humbly offer you the 100 floors of frights philosophy?

In the SNL David S. Pumpkins sketch, a couple is on a ride called "100 Floors of Frights," where they see a different scare on each floor, and at one point they complain about many of those floors being lame. And then Kenan Thompson delivers this line of deep philosophical wisdom: "Hey look—it's 100 floors of frights, they not all gonna be winners."

My husband and I use this line all the time to give ourselves grace. For instance, I'm a good cook, but when I make a dinner that doesn't turn out well, I will literally say out loud, "It's 100 floors of frights—they're not all gonna be winners," or just "Look it's 100 floors of frights."

It just means when you do a thing a whole lot, there's bound to be some instances that are bad. You don't have to be good at the thing 100% of the time. You can't be good 100% of the time. Some of the 100 floors are gonna suck. It doesn't negate your skill at creating the rest of the 100 floors.

You can use this for anything: art you make, performances, school assignments, days at work, outfits, sex sessions, literally anything that you are too hard on yourself about when it doesn't go great. Listen to Kenan Thompson and remember that it's impossible for them all to be winners, and that's okay.

[claudiagray]

My husband and I use the phrase this way ALL THE TIME. It's helpful!

[firedragon1321]

Would also like to add that I'll forget all the "scary" floors by tomorrow, but I'm sure as shit not forgetting David S Pumpkins. What you think is crap might be gold to someone else.

[alex51324]

And on a related note, when you watch the skit, you will see how David S Pumpkins pays off in the scariest part of the ride.

They aren't all winners, and sometimes you need to do a table-setting episode.

[pardalote]

All the beaded objects I've made so far this year.

[a-polite-melody]

Part of the problem in people accepting that masculinity is something which can affect oppression intersectionally is the way people conceptualize oppression itself.

People won’t accept trans men are oppressed for being men because “it implies trans women oppress them.” Which… there’s not a throughline there for me. That’s not an implication I’ve ever meant in my discussions of transmasculine oppression. But that it’s projected onto me is telling of what the people saying that I must believe this believe themselves.

They believe that oppression comes from the oppressor. Misogyny exists because men oppress women.

However this isn’t quite right. Misogyny exists, as a component of sexism, as the way to keep women in line within the patriarchy, and yes, in ways which often benefit men over women. Fundamentally, patriarchy exists to create hegemony. While benefitting men over women, that doesn’t mean it is only ever beneficial for men. Patriarchal hegemony is pressured onto men violently just as patriarchal hegemony is pressured onto women violently. This is the source of the oppression, not any particular gender of person.

This is how trans men can be talking about being oppressed as men and then “turn around and try to claim they aren’t saying trans women oppress them, as though we didn’t just hear them say men are oppressed which must mean they blame women.” Yeah. It doesn’t compute to you because of how you conceptualize patriarchy only as man>woman and not the rest of it.

[trainstationsparrow]

[toothmuncher3000]

viewing queer identities as “this is the label that makes me happy and feels most accurate now” rather than “this is who I am, was, and always will be” will definitely take the pressure off, friends. changing your mind is proof that you have one.

[askvaseshipping]

All I really have to say is… Pharaoh Atem

🖼️ Credit: Tetrodot (On bluesky)

[snarp]

As far as I’m concerned, Twitter literally only exists to permit Tarn Adams to say shit like this.

[thislousytshirt]

i never feel like i can participate in conversation about transmasc fetishization in smutfic because a) im not really that much of a masc, and b) im a huge gender fetishist, and so are a lot of my transmasc friends. this includes fetishizing things like "traditional gender roles", gay stereotypes, transmasc stereotypes, transphobia, femboys, twinks, forcefem, misgendering, forced detransition, etc. ive known so many trans guys and ftx's over the years who are into that. to me its very much not a case of "fetishization is bad" but "please tag your gender fetish and stop presenting it as representation" which i feel is like, not a wanted perspective lmao.

[thislousytshirt]

actually i will say this: if youre going to go after another trans* person for their "trans fetishization", you better have something better than "they find their own body attractive".

I personally will defend cis people who find trans* people hot, but I don't feel like i should NEED to defend trans* people who find themselves hot. I think if being attracted to trans* bodies is transphobic (WHICH IT ISN'T) then trans* people should at least get a pass for their own bodies.

[thislousytshirt]

i never feel like i can participate in conversation about transmasc fetishization in smutfic because a) im not really that much of a masc, and b) im a huge gender fetishist, and so are a lot of my transmasc friends. this includes fetishizing things like "traditional gender roles", gay stereotypes, transmasc stereotypes, transphobia, femboys, twinks, forcefem, misgendering, forced detransition, etc. ive known so many trans guys and ftx's over the years who are into that. to me its very much not a case of "fetishization is bad" but "please tag your gender fetish and stop presenting it as representation" which i feel is like, not a wanted perspective lmao.

[busket]

I get legit worried about people reading Unicorn, Hunted (my comic with a trans man protagonist that is all about being a trans man) and saying "it would be better if it had a woman protagonist :/"

I put so many sapphic women in the main cast! so no one is allowed to look at Haelan, a trans man who was born female and fought to grow into a man, and say that "he should be a girl" because you dont value trans male representation

[hope-for-the-planet]

After a decade of death, Canadian scientists say they've found the sea star killer | CBC News

A team featuring Canadian scientists has, after years of testing, determined the cause of the devastating sea star wasting disease. The culp

Sea star wasting disease has been brutally decimating sea star populations up and down the West Coast for about a decade. It's been a frustrating and devastating mystery for a long time.

Sunflower sea stars are one of the hardest hit species, with 87% of the population wiped out in some areas and total extinction in others. Sea star die offs are particularly bad, because they prevent sea urchin populations from getting out of control. Sea urchins feed on the kelp that forms the basis of the whole ecosystem, so without sea stars the kelp forests take a big hit.

Now scientists have identified a bacteria that is very likely causing the disease, which is related to the bacteria that causes cholera in humans.

While this is just a first step for recovery, it means that sea stars and habitats can be tested for this bacteria before reintroducing them to previously diseased habitat. Scientists can also begin to study this bacteria more intensely and potentially find a cure.

Thanks to @just-a-funny-little-brain for sending this story in!

[hope-for-the-planet]

There’s hope for sunflower sea stars, with their killer unmasked and reintroductions pending

There’s hope for an iconic ocean predator that has mostly disappeared from California’s coastlines: the sunflower sea star (Pycnopodia helia

I wanted to add this follow up article here because there is even more recent good news on this front!

Due to incredible work from AZA aquariums, Indigenous groups, and several other entities we now know how to breed sunflower sea stars in human care. As someone who used to work professionally in invertebrate care, I can't stress how amazing an accomplishment this is, to go from knowing almost nothing about their reproductive timing, how to raise the larvae, or even how to tell males and females apart to successfully raising a next generation.

(Image from the article)

Sunflower sea stars are one of the species hit hardest by sea star wasting disease and considered critically endangered--they were wiped out from 99% of their habitat.

Back in August 2024 there was a first round of sea star reintroduction by researchers at the University of Washington, and now the Sunflower Star Laboratory is preparing to release even more.

[qcharlie]

my craziest take is you can be cis in a trans way if you feel like it. Like its literally no big deal. if you wanna be completely cisgender but still feel as if you're alienated from your agab then you can be cis in a trans way

[qcharlie]

you can be cis and give yourself other pronouns too. you can be a woman who's he/him and entirely femme. who cares. Literally who cares

[qcharlie]

[anarchistmemedistro]

THERE IS OVERLAP AND COMMUNITY IN EVERYTHING

[alessandriana]

ICE to Buy Tool that Tracks Locations of Hundreds of Millions of Phones Every Day

Documents show that ICE has gone back on its decision to not use location data remotely harvested from peoples' phones. The database is upda

Stolen from the Electronic Frontier Foundation:

[mikkeneko]

Here's a link to the EFF page that contains this information:

How to Disable Ad ID Tracking on iOS and Android, and Why You Should Do It Now

The ad identifier - aka “IDFA” on iOS, or “AAID” on Android - is the key that enables most third-party tracking on mobile devices. Disabling

On Android 

With the release of Android 12, Google began allowing users to delete their ad ID permanently. On devices that have this feature enabled, you can open the Settings app and navigate to Privacy > Ads. Tap “Delete advertising ID,” then tap it again on the next page to confirm. This will prevent any app on your phone from accessing it in the future.

On iOS 

To see which apps you have previously granted access to, go to Settings > Privacy > Tracking. You can set the “Allow apps to Request to Track” switch to the “off” position (the slider is to the left and the background is gray). This will prevent apps from asking to track in the future. If you have granted apps permission to track you in the past, this will prompt you to ask those apps to stop tracking as well. You also have the option to grant or revoke tracking access on a per-app basis.

Apple has its own targeted advertising system, separate from the third-party tracking it enables with IDFA. To disable it, navigate to Settings > Privacy > Apple Advertising. Set the “Personalized Ads” switch to the “off” position to disable Apple’s ad targeting.

[queeranarchism]

One of my pet peeves is when people describe cave-dwelling homo sapiens or even late hunter-gatherers with only names like 'grug' and 'ogg'. They're homo sapiens! They have the same brains and mouth and vocal cords that we do.

The earliest name we know from oral history is an Egyptian king named Iry-Hor, the earliest name we have written down is a Sumerian accountant called Kushim. The earliest known author is a Sumerian priestess named Enheduanna. Another name we have from that period is Enmebaragesi. I probably forgot some other beautiful names in this directly-from-wikipedia list. We can't look further back, but there is nothing to suggest that we were less capable of giving each other beautiful complex names.

Why does this matter? Because the idea that we as a species are constantly becoming superior is bullshit and is tied up closely with a lot of very harmful ideologies (capitalism, eugenics and fascism, to name a few). We're not becoming a superior species. We're passing on information and inventing more stuff and figuring out how to live longer, but those are social processes, they come from humans taking care of each other and valuing the preservation and free exchange of knowledge. They don't come from being fundamentally better than our ancestors, we're not.

[thislousytshirt]

hold on - do we actually know that this kind of spoken language with complex vocalizations originated with homo sapiens? I thought that wasnt certain yet.

[genderkoolaid]

genuine question: a lot of the time when i see transmascs and trans men etc talking about transandrophobia, they say that people hate them for "performing masculinity" or "being masculine" and i never know what anyone actually means by that? not the hating part-- i mean what do you all mean by "masculinity," what characteristics do you consider to be "masculine," etc? it always seems really vague and hard to grasp what exactly is upsetting people

It is vague! In my opinion there's kind of no way for it to not be vague to some degree because masculinity is socially constructed (as is everything gender).

When people talk about "performing masculinity" they mean doing things and presenting themself in a way that is culturally coded as masculine/associated with men. This can be aesthetic (in the West generally short hair, facial/body hair, flat chest, deep voice, men's cut pants and shirts, cologne, etc.) or it can be in terms of actions or personality traits (being logical, competitive, interested in sports/guns/other "boys stuff) or, at its most basic, identifying yourself as a boy/man/masculine.

It's all going to be subjective to some degree, although there are general trends we can use to talk about this stuff. People have ideas and stereotypes attached to masculinity, especially when it is appearing in different people—with transandrophobia, the problem stems from masculinity being performed/embodied by a person who is seen as female, who is socially expected and pressured to perform (patriarchy-appropriate) femininity as part of the gender role they have been assigned. It's less about the specific actions or aesthetics that people are labeling as masculine, and more that people experience discrimination because something about them is perceived as masculine and that is seen as a problem. Does that make sense?

[canadianwheatpirates]

Also it can't be overlooked that part of "performing masculinity" is just saying you're a man. One of the big ways anti-transmasculinity has functioned in my life has been people responding to me saying "I'm a man" with "oh I bet you [insert horrible stereotype here]". They did this even before I started medically transitioning and early on in my social transition, so they weren't reacting to my physical or personality traits; they were reacting to the act of me saying "I'm a man".