#genuinely: this is what further research into the famous 'marshmallow test' showed#it wasn't that kids who were able to delay gratification were more likely to be successful later on#due to intrinsic qualities#it was that kids who had a stable upbringing were more likely to be successful#and ALSO: those kids had trust that their caregivers would keep promises#which is WHY they were willing to give up one marshmallow now for the promise of two marshmallows later#kids who did NOT have trustworthy caregivers#or who were in a fundamentally unstable situation#DID NOT have that trust so they wanted their one marshmallow NOW#same deal here i think#it's not that Gen Z is bratty#it's that they have no trust in the system and no faith that promises will be fulfilled#and frankly i do not blame them -@cicerfics
Honestly even as an elder millennial I've started seeing this in myself. I'm struggling to save for something long term as opposed to buying it as soon as I have the money - because if I wait, who knows if it will still be there? Who knows if it will still be the same quality? Who knows if the price will still be affordable or if it will have once again spiked enough that I have to save up for it?
And that's for someone who had an entire lifetime of buying into the system and hoping things would eventually get better and pay off. I'm not surprised at all that people younger than me are even more jaded and cynical.
my mum has severe knee problems and needs a replacement. Today she was told she's too fat to be operated on and the knee specialist suggested she gets a gastric band - which also involves surgery. So my mum was like first of all you didn't read my file because it explains that I'm not fat because I eat too much second of all you said it's impossible for me to get surgery and then suggested I get a surgery about it? He then asked her her weight and height, didn't believe her answer, and made her prove it to him because she "looks fatter than that". So she was like so you also just entirely based this on looks instead of actual numbers?
My mom went through something similar. She needed a knee replacement and her doctor wouldn’t okay it until she lost weight, which was difficult given the whole knee problem preventing her from walking thing. He told her she was too dangerous to operate on and that there were just too many risks.
My mom tried to lose weight in vain for months before she finally gave into my begging her to get a second opinion. The first doctor she saw next scheduled her for surgery the same day she met him. When my mom asked about the risk of operating on her he told her that there was some minor risks for complication and that all she would need to do to alleviate the risk was spend an extra night in the hospital so that they could keep a look out for any complications.
There were zero. There were also zero complications when she had her other knee done, her hip replaced and her gallbladder removed.
Almost like the first doctor was entirely full of shit and just trying to coerce his patient to lose weight by scaring her for fucking nothing, even when she was living day to day in excruciating pain and desperately needed a surgery.
I got that from a neurosurgeon who told me the risks were too high that if they put me on my stomach I'd code.
I got a second opinion. The second doctor didn't quite roll his eyes when I told him what the first doctor said, but he did say, "I'm not worried about you coding. The biggest risk is that success rates are lower for obese patients but there will be a zero percent success rate if we don't try.
My primary goal for surgery was that I would be able to sit without pain after. Not only didn't I code, but by a month after the surgery, I was weaning off pain meds because I didn't need them anymore for post surgical pain, and climbing stairs. At 2 months out I was able to drive more than 3 hours a day.
Too fat to operate on is not a patient problem--it's a skill issue.
I'm passionate about literacy because I believe that access to communication and information is a human right. but also because I'm waiting for a delivery that they keep going to another house on my street with a similar name, and it needs a signature but the residents aren't there during the day. Today will be the third attempt. Please I just want my parcel
when i say i like hiking, i don’t mean “eight mile backpacking trip with special gear and an emergency beacon” sort of hiking, i mean a three mile loop to go look at pretty things and then a huge brunch after.
this is in no way a slam on hardcore hiking, it’s very fun, but i mostly just need to lower people’s expectations when i say hiking is a hobby of mine
Harrison Norris For our blacked-out War Boy eyes, we used this really thick MAC eyeliner, and at the end of the day, we got to the point that we stopped trying to get it off the inside of our eyes. It was impossible, so we gave up and lived in guyliner for eight months, and the funniest thing was that as we got toward the last two or three months, we'd start seeing all the locals in town—the guys who had nothing to do with performing or being War Boys—were wearing guyliner as well. We accidentally glam-rocked the shit out of that place.
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[ID: A Mastadon post by Christopher Phin. It shows a font where each letter of the alphabet is a capitalized bubble letter with the lowercase form of the letter included in the linework. The text of the post reads, "Suddenly and viscerally obsessed with these letterforms. Why has that never occurred to me, and why is it the first time I'm seeing the idea?? (Font is ALS Lamon by Dmitry Lamonov)" /end ID]
Christopher Phin also posted a Cyrillic version that Dmitry Lamonov (Дмитрий Ламонов) created:
"In 2017, [Lamonov] created the outlined / neon display typeface family ALS Lamon (published at Art Lebedev), which won an award at Granshan 2017 and at TDC Typeface Design 2018 (where credit is only given to Artemy Lebedev who was trhe [sic] art director of the project)." (source)
Lamonov is a Russian artist and designer:
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i very strongly dislike the PCOS community on tiktok because its all people talking about how to lose weight and lower testosterone and reduce body hair and i think a big part of it is how doctors introduce PCOS as a Scary Bad Thing that will Hurt You and make you Fat and Hairy and then give you 0 information on it before they throw you on birth control and tell you to lose weight. and its always very revealing to me when people talk about PCOS how they feel about fat people, hairy people, and intersex people, because if youre really that scared of looking like you have PCOS then you probably dont like other people who have those traits, PCOS or not. this is all to say that i think its extremely important that there be PCOS positivity even if it is a very frustrating and painful condition because a lot of the symptoms have been slapped with undue concerns when in reality theyre harmless and only deemed as issues because the healthcare system is evil
burgers are awesome. so are pussies. so you'd think something called the "borgussy" is something very good, but according to my friend Karl Marx such is not the case.
Happy tenth anniversary to this comic. I just learned that it’s still being shared constantly on Tumblr. I don’t totally understand why people like it so much, but I like it too.
Learning how to manage my adhd symptoms without relying on anxiety has been so difficult even with medication actually but I think I’ve figured out that like. You’ve gotta let yourself be slow sometimes. Sprinting isn’t really a sustainable way to go through life.
It’s easier to start earlier on something when you give yourself permission to not finish it all at once and to let yourself do things in the order that makes sense for you.
Combining adhd with anxiety and a societal desire for efficiency can make you put things off because you don’t wanna do that all at once but you also wanna get it done Right Now
But it’s like. Let yourself work for 20 minutes and then take a nap and a little walk and then return to it after dinner. A little bit of slow living is fine, actually. You won’t die if you don’t finish the whole thing in one sitting.
Living with adhd doesn’t mean making yourself more like people without adhd. It means working with yourself. Letting yourself shake your hands and vibrate your knee. Looking out the window with your coffee and breathing slowly even when you have work to do. Working in the middle of the night. Putting things where you’ll remember them and not where it’s most “logical” to put them. Getting in both your overstimulation listening to ten pieces of media at once time and your blankly staring at the wall time. Learning how to account for your bad memory and planning ahead for it.
You can’t brute force your way into being neurotypical. You can’t run in a river. It’s never gonna happen. Neurotypicals are running on a gravel road. You’re not. You never will be. You can’t run. You can however build a boat and not listen to the little voice in your head that says you should be running.
I used to think that too. However it turned out that what was stopping me from coming back to it later was the stress. The evil wall that stopped me from coming back to the thing turned out to be made of stress and societal expectations. Allowing yourself time to rest and get other things done can make it easier to do things in small pieces.
And I mean actual rest. Not putting it off while stressing out the entire time about how you’re not doing it. Which is hard to achieve. I know from experience. It is possible though. You need to learn how to work with yourself and actually rest. Not sit there stressing about how much you’re not doing.
A decade after lead-contaminated water was found in Flint's water system, the legal battle to replace lead water pipes is nearly finished.
Jul 9, 2025
The Flint water crisis began in 2014, after lead-contaminated drinking water was found to be leaching out from aging pipes into homes citywide.
The American Civil Liberties Union and the Natural Resources Defense Council, with help from other activists and nonprofits, have released statements on the recent progress, celebrating the milestone.
The statements which they chalk up the crisis to “cost-cutting measures and improper water treatment,” that the state “didn’t require treatment to prevent corrosion,” after a “a state-appointed emergency manager” switched the water supply to the Flint River.
There is no safe level of lead exposure; each nanogram causes harm. In addition to long-known risks, such as damage to children’s brains and certain cancers, there is also significant evidence that exposure to lead is linked to numerous cardiovascular diseases, including stroke and heart attack.
The coalition mobilized the citizenry and filed a lawsuit against Flint and Michigan state officials to secure safe water. The result was a settlement in March 2017, under which a federal court in Detroit ordered Flint to give every resident the opportunity to have their lead pipe replaced at no cost, as well as conduct comprehensive tap water testing, implement a faucet filter distribution and education program, and maintain funding for health programs to help residents deal with the effects of Flint’s tainted water, according to the NRDC.
The coalition then returned to court six times in six years to ensure the city and state kept to the timeline, which was delayed by COVID-19, and other reasons which The Detroit News described as “spotty record-keeping” and “ineffective management.”
On July 1st, the State of Michigan submitted a progress report to a federal court confirming that, more than eight years after the settlement, nearly 11,000 lead pipes were replaced and more than 28,000 properties were restored where the maintenance had taken place.
Of the 4,200 buildings where lead pipes are known to still be in service, their owners have either left the properties vacant, abandoned, or have declined the free replacement under the Safe Water Drinking Act. The coalition has said it will continue to monitor city and state progress on these remaining lines.
“Thanks to the persistence of the people of Flint and our partners, we are finally at the end of the lead pipe replacement project,” said Pastor Allen C. Overton of the Concerned Pastors for Social Action, one of the organizations that sued the city. “While this milestone is not all the justice our community deserves, it is a huge achievement.”
The position I occupy online is interesting because I can so clearly see that the internet has this deep artificial division between Sex Internet (where the porn lives) and Not Sex Internet (where we put everything else), even on websites with few formal barriers around sex; and someone like me, who produces work where sex and eroticism are central, but who is taking an approach that straddles the line between the pornographic and the literary/artistic, does not easily fit into either camp.
Right now, sex in art is relegated to a separate, other space, one that hides from reflection and thought. Almost no one right now sees sex and the psychology of eroticism & pleasure as a subject worthy of serious artistic engagement. For eroticism to only be expressed in the context of porn, that is a sign of powerful and widespread sexual shame.
This is especially a problem because eroticism is such a fundamental component of art in general. In fact, I would argue that storytelling itself is largely erotic in form, because it’s all about creating a desire in the reader and then fulfilling or denying it. (Obligatory disclaimer that this is a generalization.) Avoiding looking at it directly is not good for our artistic culture!
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