Sad Middle Aged Gays? Enter: me.

Jade/34. They/them. It/Our Flag Means Death. Camerasparring on AO3. Mostly NSFW, no minors or antis. Follow back is camerasparring.

[punksalmon]

whenever you take too much time to write something know it is because stephen king has been stealing your life force

[gorgynei]

in the age of repression and purity culture, getting more perverted is the only morally correct course of action

[i-effed-it-all-up-deactivated20]

no, i don’t watch that show, but i do follow its developments extensively via tumblr

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

maybe y'all didn't notice but fat people who don't hate ourselves sure did notice that people were obsessed with shitting on fat people in the late 90s and early 2000s (conservative political time) and now are again (fascist political time), coincidentally while the market for weight loss has become a 90 billion dollar industry due to glp1s.

you are not immune to propaganda. it makes some people a whole hell of a lot of money for you to hate fat people and fear becoming (or staying, I think like 70% or something of the US is fat) one of us.

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

a lot of the fearmongering over fatness comes from studies directly funded by the weight loss industry...i think people don't really realize or think about the fact that research can absolutely be influenced and skewed by its funding. there is also research that shows that an amount of the negative health outcomes for fat people come from anti-fat bias. if you go to the doctor with concerns and the doctor simply tells you to lose weight, your problem is neglected and you may not even bother going to the doctor with the next problem.

every fat person you know for the most part probably has a story like this, of medical neglect. many of the stories i've heard personally are when the complaint or the doctor wasn't related at all, like being told to lose weight at the ear nose and throat doctor or at the dentist. it's straight up just bias. it's such a thing that in the show Shrill it's portrayed, when Aidy Bryant goes to the gynecologist and her doctor suggests she get gastric bypass.

the studies on health and fatness are simply not that black and white and there is basically no research that shows that more than an incredibly tiny minority of people can lose weight and keep it off for more than like 2 years. bodies have set points that they gravitate towards, it's not a personal failure. this also is how the weight loss industry succeeds so well - repeat customers.

some of the harm associated with fatness is also due to weight cycling, which is very hard on your body and is even worse if you get off a GLP1, which according to a recent study causes weight to be regained at a rate that is 4x faster than without taking a GLP1.

you don't have to hate yourself. you don't have to hate other people for their body type either. it makes me so sad to see the thinspo tag going around again in 2026 a lot like it was back in the day.

some resources to learn more here:

https://www.reuters.com/article/business/healthcare-pharmaceuticals/feeling-fat-may-be-worse-for-you-than-being-fat-idUSTON079061/

The Healthiest Weight Could Actually Be 'Overweight', Huge Study Finds

A study spanning almost four decades and involving more than 100,000 adults in Denmark found that those with an 'overweight' body mass index

there's so much crazy shit once you go down the rabbit hole. for example, BMI was not invented by anyone with a medical background. it was never meant to measure individual health.

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

U.S. Weight Loss Industry Grows to $90 Billion, Fueled by Obesity Drugs Demand

The U.S. weight loss industry reached an unprecedented high in 2023, estimated at $90 billion, largely driven by surging sales of the widely

Body fat supports your health in surprisingly complex ways

Evidence is mounting that our body fat supports everything from our bone health to our mood, and now, research suggests it also regulates bl

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

just gonna reblog this forever because i love fat people and we deserve fuckin basic human dignity and respect regardless of our weight

[luxiomahariel]

shoutout to fat nonbinary people

everyone say thank you to fat nonbinary people

[avatarmerida]

Happy pride month to the tiny cowboy and tiny Trojan man from Night at the Museum

[futurakid]

[leg-stealing-bee]

[closetedguyy]

[knitordeath]

This hands down the best comment in the notes, I will not be taking criticism.

[song-of-sea-and-sky]

happy pride month 2021 I ain’t quittin’ you…

[msue0027]

[maxstarfall]

[gengaritez]

[pumpkin--rabbit]

[minyicho]

[thedreamthieves]

i once again want to say that hulu used to be entirely free with ads, and if you watched two minutes worth of commercials at the start of an episode the next 24 hours would be commercial-free. and now you pay $11.99 per month to watch things with commercials. what the fuck are we doing and how did we allow this to happen lol.

[marisatomay]

This Pride I hope that all of you never ever forget that no amount of sanitizing your sex life or sanding down of your LGBT edges will make bigots accept you. So, don’t debase yourself by capitulating an inch to them, especially in ways that throw your fellow community members under the bus.

[marisatomay]

You are a degenerate faggot in the eyes of bigots whether you’re wearing a nice button down and slacks with combed hair or leather daddy kink gear. So stand with the freaks who will stand with you until the end—long after the bigots have abandoned you despite your claims to be “one of the good ones.”

[azure-arsonist]

Our fandom forbearers did NOT suffer through Anne Rice, strikethrough, and other bullshit for fucking ACOTAR and Harry Potter fans to fucking ruin it for all of us by selling fanfiction. I am not losing novel length yaoi epics because some of you don't know how to act in fannish spaces and yes I do blame the booktokification of fanfic but I also blame those of you that treat fandom like content to consume and not a community to engage with.

[lux-scriptum]

No, you see, I wish to be an author. Not in marketing. Or an influencer. I wish to tell my stories, be told I did a fantastic job, and then go back to my hovel to scribble some more. I am delicate of constitution and awkward in crowds.

[johannestevans]

Love it when you watch a Super Normal Heterosexual Movie and its central conceits are like "are men....... capable of love? Are women....... capable of sexual desire?"

And the movie has won like 100 awards and if youre like "lmao what" straight people want to burn your house down

[johannestevans]

I'm by no means insulting heterosexuals btw i'm an enthusiastic student of your culture. I even watched Meet The Fockers to better understand what is up with you people

[lucylehane]

You do an eclectic celebration of dance!

The Birdcage (1996)

[lesspopped]

affirmation: I am capable of finishing the works of pornographic fanfiction I start writing

[dykecadence]

periodic reminder that the queer liberation library is an awesome non-regional library you can add on libby to access hundreds of queer titles. NO LIBRARY CARD NEEDED. i just found an audiobook for a pretty new release on there with no waitlist. also everyone use libby for your local library too NOW

Libby Access — Queer Liberation Library

[queerliblib]

free!!! queer!! books!! for anyone, anywhere in the USA!

you can browse the collection here

sign up for a QLL card to check ebooks & audiobooks out

& if you love what we’re doing you can toss us a few bucks here so we can keep doing it <3

[blessherhearttx]

OMG - really?

[queerliblib]

really!!! we’ve got 501(c)3 status and everything! turning 2.5 years old next month <3

[theorcasfriend]

My small Midwest town tries their best to have inclusive titles.

QLL always has what I want. ALWAYS

[queerliblib]

😭😭😭 <3

[feluka]

i hate the way fat antagonists have their weight moralized and used as a metaphor for greed and corruption and i hate the way it's overcorrected into fat people being "soft squishy friend-shaped cupcakes who look like they give incredible hugs" and i long for the day we have nuanced, interesting, and complicated fat characters and most of all i long for the day people are normal about fatness

[intosnarkness]

Here’s the thing: authors know when they get a rec on an older story. There’s a telltale uptick of kudos (with a 10-15% comment rate if you’re lucky) in your digest email.

The thing is, there’s no way to know where these people are coming from. In the before, when fandom was more in the corners we all knew about, you could search LJ or a message board or whatever social bookmarking site we were using. You could join the community and participate.

You could get a little dopamine hit by seeing someone tell their friends why they loved your story.

Anymore, those recs are hidden in discords, or in tiktoks or instagram slideshows that you can’t search for. They’re inaccessible, not discoverable unless you’re already there. You may never know why 27 people left kudos on an old story of yours, what they liked and found in your writing. You just get the thumbs up and a kinda lonely feeling, cause these could be your people. You could like them, maybe. You could be friends.

But you’ll never find out why they stopped by, or what people are saying about you behind your back, and that’s sad.

So thank you to the people who still do public rec lists on this webbed site. You are my sunshine, and I’m appreciative of all of you.

[saathi1013]

If you are recced a fic and enjoyed it, leave a comment telling the author where you came from! We like to know!

[picascribit]

There are 2 types of fanfic:

fanfic that I like

fanfic that is none of my business