Beautiful Disaster

30’s. Toronto.

[missvanta-xoxo]

Your daily reminder that Black Women are the blue print

[achillesinhighheels]

my sexual fantasy Is to have someone notice my absence and wonder about me

[aidashakur]

As a woman the best thing you can be is a leaver.

[wetheurban]

Protect your slow mornings. Their urgency doesn't have to be your emergency.

[blckgirlacid]

I need my weird alone time or I will explode

[selfcarereminder]

rest is part of the process, not a prize you get when you’ve finished everything. you don’t have to earn it first

[angel-fruitcake]

i can handle one (1) Event™ per day. whether it be a phone call, an appointment, trip to the grocery store, play date with a friend, etc. only one, that's it. any more than that and i am Stressed

[thevirgodoll]

It's really, really hard showing up for life when you are chronically ill. Like it's really hitting me that everyday I am in physical pain, so when I do feel it I know I've pushed myself a bit too far. Things that I would love to do get put on the backburner to preserve my health. I'm learning to not feel guilty for relaxing and doing what is best for me. The world keeps spinning and rest is so hard to do in a society that doesn't give you that chance. But to rest is to prepare for a longer journey ahead and I have to remember that through giving myself grace for a better tomorrow.

[classycookiexo]

[classycookiexo]

[aidashakur]

Women who leave >>>

[theunrhymablerhymes]

Hot take but I think abled people shouldn't be allowed to decide what a disabled person needs and what are reasonable accommodations

[mxjackparker]

Don't leave your friends and even acquaintances to go to the hospital alone. If they don't have someone already going with them and don't explicitly tell you they don't want you there, go to advocate for them. Outcomes for sick people change dramatically when they have someone else there to observe doctors (making them know they can't get away with negligence) and note symptoms from an outside perspective.

Going to the hospital is scary and even someone totally unprepared to be a medical advocate or physical support will be better than nothing, purely from their presence. You can grab food, be there with your phone to search if theirs dies, go in search of a doctor, distract them from pain or discomfort... go with them.

[fairycosmos]

sooo annoying that my parents didn't provide emotional support growing up now it's a whole fucking thing

[fibromyalgicaf]

Hey if you have chronic pain, you gotta remember that the cognitive load of dealing with that is exhausting. Just that alone. Never mind what else you've got going on.

You're not lazy or being dramatic; you're overloaded.

[aetas-aurea]

So many women have internalized the idea that being difficult makes people think less of them, when in my experience the opposite is almost always true. Every single time I have spoken up, voiced what I actually need and refused to shrink the moment in order to be more comfortable for everyone else in the room, I have been approached afterward by people who wanted to know me better. There is no reward waiting for you on the other side of making yourself smaller. People do not love you more for taking up less space, they simply get used to you taking up less space and adjust their expectations accordingly. Every time I have been exactly as audacious as the moment required, it has opened doors rather than closed them and I have made real connections directly because of it rather than in spite of it.

[thevirgodoll]

this year i'm making it a habit to have my feelings and just let them pass. i truly believe pain is stored in the body... so when i feel a feeling i just let it rise up and take over. feel it, acknowledge it and let it go. there is no benefit in concealing every single emotion. it's much more beneficial to express my negative emotions and let them exist than to push them down and shame myself for feeling them. with great growth comes great vulnerability.