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[fuckcrumpets]

“There is ZERO reason for [female-only] spaces to exist.” Okay.

[loserdogma]

What they meant to say was “there is ZERO reason for female-only spaces to exist that I respect.” There are thousands of reasons for female-only spaces, they just do not respect or value those reasons.

[doingitatmybirthdaydinner]

if males aren't any more unsafe than females, then go be with the males. go in the male bathroom and locker room, and the male college dorm. you'll be safe, because amab bodies are not unsafe and you don't have trauma from amab bodies. tell the males in those spaces that they won't be better for excluding minorities.

[furryprovocateur]

trying to have fun on the internet and not consciously think about how child abuse and csem is not taken seriously by most people and the ones who do think we should do a cyber patriot act

[furryprovocateur]

it is becoming increasingly clearer with each year that the only two schools of thought allowed to exist are "child rape is fine to eroticize and exists in an apolitical vacuum" and "the only way to stop child rape is to let parents hsve unauestioned dominion over their property as they have historically". does anyone else want to get out of this machine. the machine we're in. can we get out of it?

[betterwurld]

The reality of the situation is that this issue is going to require enforceable regulation to solve. Enforceable regulation wouldn't just look like a sloppy blanket ban; it would be a system of policy and cultural changes.

I absolutely understand the concerns many have voiced re: privacy, internet safety, etc. when it comes to some of the more quick-to-draw methods proposed by countries lately, but shrieking "OMG censorship we're all going to die!!! You can't regulate this WHATSOEVER or all democracies will crash and burn!!!" is not productive or helpful to the discussion.

We know that this material is causing harm. We know that this material is perpetuating rape myths about CSA, which emboldens the rape culture we live in. We know this material is emboldening paraphiles and grooming children. We can't just leave things as they are and turn a blind eye because the possible solutions might be "inconvenient."

It's important to remember that owning and distributing VCSAM is already illegal in many democratic countries, and have been for a long time. Canada, Ireland, the UK, Australia, New Zealand, and France just to name a few. None of these countries have fallen into an authoritarian hyper-censored hellscape; in fact, many are in much better positions than the US.

It IS possible to regulate this material without authoritarian doomsday occurring, and anyone arguing otherwise has an ulterior motive. The exact same "doomsday" arguments were used to defend CSAM with real children in the 70s.

[craigslits]

[tomaszboy]

TIFs post stuff like this all the time but if anyone dares to suggest that their dysphoria isn't innate and is actually a byproduct of a deeply misogynistic society you will get branded a TERF and stoned.

[betterwurld]

We can't criticize material that is objectively harmful to women and children (pornography, romanticization of incest, pedophilia, rape, etc.) because "censorship is bad."

Ignoring the fact that criticism =/= censorship (otherwise their criticisms of us criticizing them would be censorship--hypocrites!), let's think for a second. Why is censorship a bad thing?

Historically, governments have used censorship to stop ideas from spreading around their civilians. We see this historically with the banning of books promoting "communist" ideals, books that have criticized the government, or books that speak out against injustices towards marginalized groups.

Thus, why do governments censor fiction? Because fiction has the power to change minds. Fiction has the power to spur people to action. Governments acknowledge this; and that's why books are banned. If fiction did not have the power to be seriously disruptive to what the government wants their civilians to believe and do, there would be no point in banning them.

So, acknowledging and worrying about censorship whatsoever forces one to accept that fiction does affect reality. Fiction does change minds and behavior. Fiction does normalize and justify ideas becoming reality.

And if this is the case, perhaps there are some things that should be censored. Even the bastion of free speech, the US, does not consider every type of "speech" protected, for this exact reason. Hate speech, on paper, is banned and not protected. CSAM, on paper, is banned and not protected. How effective/proactive their government is at actually enforcing this is up to debate, but these topics are banned specifically because it is acknowledged that their existence does cause harm--not only towards actual victims, but towards cultural ideas and norms.

[floof-ghostie]

"You only like this character because she's a woman!" okay and you hate her because she's a woman, knowing that she has all the traits you would enjoy in a male character.

[neetlesbian-deactivated20240403]

"At what point can OSA radfems who date men and get abused be expected to take responsibility for their risky behavior? I mean what did they expect? They read the statistics." At literally no fucking point you idiot troglodytes. Please throw your laptop out a window and don't talk to any other people until you get your head screwed on straight.

[neetlesbian-deactivated20240403]

Men are actually human beings with agency and not rabid wild animals so they get to take full responsibility for when they hurt women! There's no need for the woman, no matter how feminist and educated she is, to take any responsibility because he gets to take it all <3 hope this helps!

[biohazardfemale]

It's victim blaming with extra steps. "She should have known better than to go out" "it's your fault for being near those men"

[skyptical-deactivated20251018]

“As long as you remain *one of us* we will lovebomb you and tell you how valid and special you are and how you’re so brave and wonderful for identifying as trans, but the second you decide you no longer identify that way we will coldly shun you and demand you stay quiet” babe that’s a cult

[skyptical-deactivated20251018]

Cults also operate by cutting people off from their families and support groups. That’s why alienating people from their families is such a big focus in the trans movement.

See, the concept of “found family” is not a new idea, nor is it inherently a bad thing. In the gay rights movement, there were of course a lot of people who were kicked out and disowned by their parents for being gay, and so there was an understanding that some people can’t rely on their families for support. Sometimes family can be toxic, and sometimes you really do have no choice but to cut them off.

HOWEVER, the focus in gay rights was always more about trying to make families more accepting of their gay relatives. Cutting off the family entirely was seen as a LAST RESORT when there were no other options.

With gender ideology, however, I’ve noticed there is WAY more of a fixation with straight up separating people from their families right away, telling people that any family member who doesn’t wholeheartedly buy into their new “identity” or is concerned about the transition is a bad person who can no longer be in that person’s life. They’re basically saying “hey kids, if your mom isn’t super on board with stopping your puberty and injecting you with hormones and giving you dangerous surgeries on your genitals, that means she hates you and wants you dead!”

It’s utterly ridiculous but that’s how cults work. They have to separate members from anyone who might step in and make them realize that the cult is bad for them. Members can’t have a family, because *THEY* are the new family now.

[choco2milk]

I have a personal account of this -

During my first appointment at the Planned Parenthood where I was prescribed hrt (after my FIRST appointment mind you) the "doctor" looked at my chart, saw that I had recently turned 18, and said -

"I bet you were dying to get away from your awful parents!"

I really wish I had listened to the gut instinct I felt after she said that, because it really rubbed me the wrong way. At the time, yes I was excited to start hrt, which my parents definitely did not want, but they were by no means awful. As "bigoted" as they were about me being trans, I knew that they loved me and were only concerned that I would end up regretting it. They ended up being right.

[anjomecanico]

People are so indoctrinated by patriarchy that mentioning something neutral like "men on average are physically stronger than women" will get you accused of saying women are inferior to men. Like, nobody said that, you are the one who believes physical strength equals worthiness and value as a human being and is projecting it on completely neutral assumptions.

[anjomecanico]

The use of physical strength as a measurement of worth and value is one of the most male supremacist things in the book, that assignment of meaning was obviously made by men to portray themselves as superior to women (and therefore justify a system of male rulership, control and dominance over women) because they conveniently had more physical strength than women on average. For example, they didn't choose immune resilience to that purpose for a reason, you know.

This should be obvious for people who claim to be feminist and anti-patriarchal.

[kiefbowl]

the reason why every few years there are thought pieces on the panic of dropping male graduates and dropping male grades and dropping male attendance in colleges is bc universities know it drops the value of their product

[feministdragon]

yep, because in our male-centric world, any time women get into something, it becomes socially devalued, because apparently if women are doing it it must not be very hard/important. ref. biology, ref. nursing, ref. school teachers, ref. social sciences, ref. programming

it's "women's work". but it's the foundation of society, everything would stop dead in its tracks without us

[kiefbowl]

yep, if you can’t be a high paying engineer w/o an engineering degree, but suddenly the engineering field is majority of women, the engineering industry becomes devalued (been shown before that pay drops across an industry if it switches from male dominated to female dominated), then suddenly an engineering degree isn’t so illustrious. Or whatever degree…medical, law, etc.

[missmastectomy-deactivated20250]

I've been meeting more and more 21-24 year old trans people and so many of them are just so... childish?? They still act like teenagers. And at first I was judgemental of them. I do not respect that they are grown adults that continue acting this way.

But I've also learned that a lot of them started transitioning at 14, 15, 16, etc. So fucking young. Indoctrinated and put on this horrific medical malpractice train that they just can't get off of. There's a really disturbing lack of self-reflection that baffled me until I realized that transition has basically stunted them.

This applies more for the ~everyone is valid uwu~ crowd than the transmedicalists, who usually want to just move on with their lives. But these people are stuck in this ideological bubble where they cut out anyone who disagrees with them. They reject anything that makes them feel uncomfortable, that threatens their perception of their gender, which is so fragile that it can't be held under scrutiny. And they know it. It's why the act the way they do. Allowing their views about gender and the world at large to develop would also mean leaving behind their zealotry. They cannot do this because of how invested, physically and socially, they have become in this ideology. Leaving it behind would mean loss of friends, loss of ego, maybe even a full detransition. It would mean death.

[fox-steward]

this tracks with my experience of transition, which i started at 18-almost-19. i felt stuck there maturity-wise for so long, invested in this one narrow goal to the neglect of any other life goals i could have been pursuing. i did not engage in age-appropriate growth during this time (at least not willingly).

happy to say i have since caught up to myself, a process in which detransition was only the first step.

[298320482349204821999]

so much kink shit is just men trying to justify their desire to hurt women and pretend like they can go into a room, hurt someone, get off to hurting someone, and then walk out as if that doesn’t mean anything about who they are as a person

[aspiringxxspinster]

[currentlycryingaboutlancelot]

even with watching a movie from like the 90s it’s insane how much everyone looks like a Normal Person compared to anything filmed today

[currentlycryingaboutlancelot]

it’s something about the aggressively obvious 2020s makeup too on everyone in every movie no matter what the time period is. it’s the 19th century they do not have highlight!!!!

[currentlycryingaboutlancelot]

look at meg march in 1994 vs 2019. they both look great! however! emma watson is wearing very obvious lipstick, mascara, concealer under eyes heavy foundation etc etc. you can see this at a glance. i literally in making this comparison had to google if this was a promotional image that she took or actually a still from the movie because her makeup just looks like normal 2019 makeup that a girl from 2019 would wear!!! (not to mention her costume. different post.) then look at trini alvarado on the other left. obviously she’s wearing tons of makeup because she’s in a movie and she has tons of lights on her all the time but it doesn’t look she is!! you can see circles under her eyes!! she doesn’t have The Shine to her face that emma watson does. she looks so much more believable as a girl from the 1860s not because she’s a perfect representation but simply because she does not Obviously Have On Modern Makeup

[draculuve]

female hair removal culture is crazy actually bc why are we pressuring half the population into bald mammal cosplay

[gatekeeper-of-witchcraft]

I’m not saying anyone should or deserves to get hurt, I’m just saying there’d be a lot fewer women pretending there’s no difference between getting hit/tackled by a male vs a female in contact sports if they’d actually experienced it

signed: me, who has boxed, sparred (taekwondo) and fenced against males, both “cis” and trans-identified

[the-rad-menace]

There's a horrible moment of realization and sinking animal fear the first time a man actually uses his physical strength against you.

I've been in a situation where a man wrapped his arms around my waist and it took myself and THREE other women to pry him off me, punching, pulling, and clawing his arms. You absolutely don't understand the strength advantage men have it until you experience it first hand. You think you do, but you don't.

[chadradfem]

Even men that don’t work out are likely to have more upper body strength than a woman who does work out. I used to lift weights and have retained the muscle despite no longer doing it (protein maxxing ftw) and yet a skinny guy who has never been to the gym could overpower me.

It doesn’t mean we’re inferior, but this is reality when you’re female.

[radicaloracle-deactivated202509]

I wrestled (not professionally) against two TIMs on testosterone suppression and HRT. I was taller and heavier than both, and I'm considered strong for a woman. They still smoked me every time, and that was in a playful context.

[meanevilwitch-deactivated202601]

another doodle