All that and a Bag of Dicks. . .

my name is Abigail , also no my icon is not me and this is a Fandom, pets, urban exploration, food, anything i like ,Blog

[ratcandy]

we just keep naming bugs like this

[thedeadbelle]

Guo Pei

Spring 2019

Couture

[maculategiraffe]

lots of times if I tell my boyfriend that I am proud of him for dealing with a situation, or that I'm sorry he's having to deal with a situation, he will say "no it's my own fault." meaning that he feels like he doesn't deserve praise or comfort for dealing with a situation that is his fault. (for example a financial problem caused or exacerbated by him having been too anxious or absentminded to deal with the situation sooner.) and I tell him this and I will tell y'all this, that I don't believe that. I think you are even braver and stronger for taking steps to deal with a mess that is of or partly of your own creation, because you have to cope with guilt and shame on top of the thing itself, and because you're fighting against the same ingrained dysfunction in yourself that caused the mess. that's like the bravest and most constructive thing you can do and you should be proud and I am proud of you.

[kelpforestdwellers]

also, mistakes don't mean you deserve to suffer

[thehappysmiler]

doctor diagnosed me with a kind heart and dope soul

[thehappysmiler]

prescribed me 7 thousand mgs of love and laughter

[keremelcream]

from “The Gardener” by Mary Oliver

[the-big-mood]

[yuumei-art]

☀️Sunflower🌟Starflower 🌘Moonflower

  I started out painting the sunflower kind of realistically and then the rest just ran away from me

[qwertibo]

me emitting a psychic blast killing everyone

[soracities]

the “humans are inherently selfish” fanclub can genuinely and in all honesty go to hell. i once came back from a school yard where the kids had heaped piles of leaves and cut wildflowers on a narrow strip of grass bc a bee had died. i actually want to cry.

[cup-of-anxi-tea]

when i was a child, my parents told me our houseplant would die of lack of sunlight. i was so young i don’t even remember this, but apparently, my response to this was starting to carry the plant around like an emotional support stuffed animal. whenever my family went outside i would hold the pot on my head to make it reach the sun better. i wasn’t in school yet, didn’t have any exposure to the lessons on caring they give in elementary, i don’t remember my thought process - but i can guess. kids integrally care about things, even tiny bugs and inanimate plants. humans care.

[karadin]

don’t let them beat it out of you

[saint-batrick]

as someone in my 40s, may i also add: if they beat it out of you? put in the work to relearn it until it’s a part of you again. a part you’re proud enough of that if someone tells you it’s dumb and you should stop, you can laugh and say “oh, no. no, i don’t believe i will.” and then keep on keepin’ on.

compassion can often be a skill that needs to be relearned. so relearn it and revel in it.

[headspace-hotel]

Don’t let your heart stay barren

[videogomez]

[videogomez]

[latibule-e-deactivated20231012]

— Arabelle Sicardi, from “The Year in Ugliness.”

[amateur]

[a-mayan-joy-has-nuts]

Leave him? 😆

[victorious]

Me because that shirt is rad:

[the-big-mood]

This shirt made me laugh more than it should have!

I got mine from HERE

[comicgeekscomicgeek]

Yep, dump him. That shirt is hilarious.

[boring-anime-fan-deactivated202]

Your boyfriend is a cat of course he wouldn't understand a shirt

[void-star]

Love bombing is not a euphemism for "too much affection too soon," or "high desire for contact."

"Love bombing" is a term originally used in the context of cults to describe a deliberate and coordinated recruitment method that involved feigning friendship and interest in a potential recruit, via flattery, flirtation, physical affection, and very directed positive attention to everything the recruit says in order to lure them into the cult.

Since cults and abusive relationships operate in similar ways and use similar tactics, love bombing in an interpersonal relationship looks like manufacturing closeness in order to trap someone into a relationship in which the abuser has all the control.

And I know these days there's a million bullshit junky articles out there that make you think this is a symptom of cluster b personality disorders, but there is no way for you to be love bombing somebody without realizing it.

If you are an affectionate person and the level of affection and attention you give makes someone uncomfortable, you are not "accidentally" abusing them.

If you are uncomfortable with the level of affection and attention someone is paying you, they are not de facto abusing you.

Love bombing is about using someone's desire for human connection to fast track them into a situation you control and will feel disinclined to leave.

[xenobotanist]

[haxxy]

being in your mid twenties is a little bit like being drawn and quartered

[haxxy]

[goosemixtapes]

actually i experience “body horror” every day. because. um. i have one

[one-time-i-dreamt]

And why did the value plummet, Marissa? Why did it plummet?

[red-mercer]

Would like to know how exactly she wouldn't fuck up Netflix or Hulu

[sreegs]

Yahoo thought Tumblr would be the next PDF

Yahoo’s grand plan for Tumblr was to turn it into a “next-generation PDF”

They didn't really get it.

[noctumsolis]

What does that even mean? PDF as in Portable Document Format?

[sreegs]

i cannot stress enough that i dont think yahoo even knew what a pdf was