gay pain in the ass

sam / 20 / australia / film student / this is my reblog personal etc, the main is samgender.tumblr.com

[eliasericson]

hm

[lemonyandbeatrice]

here’s the thing: survivors of abuse shouldn’t be expected to disclose their abuse when conversations about abuse culture are coming up. 

it’s up to people who are not survivors to take a step back when they’re at risk of speaking over us.

and of course, non-survivors should continue to work to dismantle abuse culture and speak out about it, but acting like it’s coming from a place of personal experience when it’s not is always harmful. 

there will be conversations where your voice is not needed and that’s okay. just listen to what we’re saying and elevate our own thoughts.

[beachdeath]

[joh-a-umeko]

ココロの美しいヒト

[advicefromsurvivors]

Being abused can seriously affect your ability to distinguish between “not obviously pleased” and “obviously displeased” because abusers go from Neutral to Hostile for absolutely no discernible reason, and eventually you start worrying that everyone is going to be like that and you start feeling this urge to make absolutely sure that the people you actually care about aren’t mad or upset, because to you, “there’s no evidence that they’re not angry” is the same as “there’s evidence that they are angry”

[solitarelee]

I have never heard this put into words before but it explains so much. Even as a kid I was constantly scared my mom was mad just when she was making a neutral expression cause she could go from 0 to 60 with no other warning. 

[ancient-string]

Omg I didn’t realise. I do this. I’m constantly checking that people are ok and not mad.

Because that’s what my dad did. 0-rage monster in a second.

[anguisettesnakedtruth]

Hyper vigilance over other people’s emotional state because of previous / repeated / continuous exposure to volatile people is seriously just…the most exhausting, fucked up, draining, relationship-fucking, driving-yourself-mad thing and it is so rarely explained well or talked about at all and I’m SO GLAD this post is going around.  If someone is even slightly less than being 100% positive/happy/approving of me I pick up on it right away, even if it has absolutely nothing to do with me, and I fret and stress and am on edge. Which is so unfair because other people are allowed to have feelings and they’re allowed to express those feelings and it’s almost never about me anyway.  And then trying to explain that you expect them to be volatile assholes when they’ve never shown any evidence of being that way, and trying to say that it’s not personal, is almost impossible. Because it’s always taken personally and how can they not, really? 

[gwschoolhiatus-deactivated20161]

I wonder what the discourse looks like to people who don’t have this

[thefilmstage]

“The language of film is further and further away from the language of theater and is closer to music. It’s abstract but still narrative. Everything feels less rehearsed. It’s more experimental than classical.” - Emmanuel “Chivo” Lubezki

We explore how the cinematography of Emmanuel Lubezki is shaping the landscape of modern film.

[alexenglish]

ay can we stop pretending like ADHD isn’t a Real Mental Health Issue and is Easy To Deal With? it’s a hugely detrimental disorder that effects performance in school and at work, and personal relationships on multiple levels. with ADHD it’s difficult to implement the routines necessary for day to day functioning. maybe educate yourself before criticizing a disorder that’s very fucking hard to live with. 

[transmanterry-blog]

for those unaware, I’ve been told by several friends they didn’t know this, adhd can effect basic survival rituals. Adhd makes sleep nearly impossible most of the time, makes cooking a too long task which c a n easily lead to a microwave diet, it makes basic reading and comprehension without interest physically exhausting (FYI that means us adults with adhd are fucked) and can even cause major, drastic mood swings as our energy plummets and skyrockets sometimes even resulting in straight up manic episodes. ADHD & ADD are very serious and real stop acting like they’re not a big deal.

[rngrn]

I want Luke to be soft smol dork not bitter oldman pls and also have more time with Rey ;u; 

[swampcandy-blog]

[solene-chevaleyre]

[doeofdevotion]

today at the bookstore i asked the lady working if she had any lgbtq books that i could check out and her eyes magnified in what i mistook as horror and i thought i had offended her and then she said “i have a bag of lesbian fiction in the basement i’ve been waiting for someone to finally ask” and she all but burst down the stairs to get them for me

bless

[thesylverlining]

“I have a bag of lesbian fiction in the basement” is my new go-to pickup line

[mohtz]

“The cost of oblivious daydreaming was always this moment of return, the realignment with what had been before and now seemed a little worse.”

cherik atonement au for @rotring00

[piavalesca]

[potatocrisp]

50′s aesthetic is great and all but imagine…80′s aesthetic fallout

[mysterysystems]

thank you @just-like-bart for putting this idea in my head:

god DAMN fallout 4′s shitty hetmasc-centric writing couldve been completely ditched if there was a plot twist that your character was a synth. fuck. dammit.

let’s recap:

you no longer actually have to have your PC care about their spouse/child in the main story to give them a motive to progress. you can just have a PC wanting to find out about the man who killed them and then get delivered The Plot Twist, at which point you want to seek out the institute yourself to ~~~discover the mysteries of yr creation~~~

as soon as you find out it makes you actually care or at least think about the commonwealth’s rampant bias against synths

this ALSO means they can actually have shitloads of romances of any given romantic/sexual orientation and it doesnt contradict anything since the memories of married life arent “your” memories

it gives you a reason to care about the railroad’s plight and a means to make the BOS’s extremist fascism more subtle so you can still hate them without maxson being Steampunk Hitler

it actually fits in with the synth plotline of “what really constitutes life” and makes it actually central to the synth-centric plot – AND HAS AN ADDITIONAL LAYER OF METANARRATIVE BECAUSE YOU’RE *NOT* A WASTELANDER, YOU’RE A PERSON PLAYING A WASTELANDER IN A VIDEO GAME!

FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’M SO MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[idkselly]

when u broke af but u strongly support treating yourself

[shitpolsays]

[powerburial]

im going to cry

[direlog]