transfem lady sharing stuff i think is important! asks r open but preferably to sharing GFMs or something my personal donation link place; $wobbledogian cashappp
To be a trans woman is to be perceived by polite society as lying on a spectrum from “creepy male pervert” to “feminine object of sexual desire which can be freely beaten, raped, and murdered with no societal consequences.”
The best part is that not only can I not choose where I lie on this spectrum, but anyone who isn’t me can freely move me around on it however they like.
sorye if i cant ask this im nust too scared to post this on my account cuz TMEs follow me thay i made friends with and idk how to word it in a way to trick the audience into hearing me out with good faith,
but this video is a really good critique on the word transandrophobia,, like it goes in depth on the explaination in a way i feel people can understand
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTBPGoY2e/
Yeah this is a good video by @the-whipping-girl (who I've had disagreements with in the past but who's content I largely enjoy) about the origins and multiple (mis)uses of transandrophobia as term. I'm a lot less charitable than she is, I don't think that transmisanbros "mean well" so much as I think that most of them are not being intentionally transmisogynistic, and I think the multiple definitions of it create a motte and bailey tactic to allow the term to evade criticism, but this video's rhetorical function is well served by its cordiality.
I would add that the history of the term is deeply tied to it's cousin, "transmisandry", but that history is much less 'innocent trans men using a term with no analytical power' and more 'transmisogynists inventing a term to undercut transfeminism', so that cordiality would have been impossible to maintain, and I understand why it wasn't brought up.
I said this far my eloquently on my last blog but "transphobes see trans women as men, so trans women are victims of misandry" is such a transphobic way to talk about shit. 1) the transphobe is wrong, you don't need to play devil's advocate. All you do is signal to trans people that you don't think they're actually their gender. You're making the issue worse 2) trans women are women. always. Yes including if they don't pass or aren't taking hrt. 3) misandry isn't fucking real.
Also, anyone who's actually seen how trans women are treated knows its a lie to say that transphobes see us as men. They don't treat any man the way they treat trans women.
They treat trans women as a class of women that they know they are completely free to abuse without any fear of consequences.
Video has captions! (not entirely accurate, though.)
Transcript under the cut, and cut into tiny pieces for easy reading!
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The other day I made a video talking about how white transmascs appropriate black culture in order to feel more masculine because they associate blackness with masculinity.
And never before in my life or in posting videos about trans discourse have I gotten so many comments from people acting completely oblivious or confused to the issue, Even though the issue is a very simple statement.
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I think it reflects the fact that a lot of white queer people are just incapable of thinking about issues if it is not personally affecting them.
And I think this reveals a weaponized incompetence issue in the larger white queer community when it comes to racial issues.
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When someone brings attention to intracommunity issues not about race, I never get these comments. I never get comments acting confused or acting like what I'm talking about is so incomprehensible, or saying things like "well, I've never seen this happen."
Because people accept that maybe this has happened.
but the second someoke brings up a racial issue, suddenly it's incredibly confusing and complex. And people need to explain five million different ways to where they get it.
And obviously other people call bullshit to this, and they say "this is very clearly you just refusing to understand this, not you being unable to understand."
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And a lot of people in the comments seem to be resorting to the fact they're neurodivergent to excuse the fact that they're not aware of racial dynamics in the queer community.
And I think that this is a larger problem. People like to flee back back to a marginalized identity [??] and talk about how they're queer or they're neurodivergent - in order to get away from complex critiques about the way that they ignore racism in their own community.
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There are two possibities:
either one: these people are aware of the issue and are pretending not to know about it
because it allows them to escape accountability
or two: they're just genuinely not aware of it
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but both of these things are real problems because it means that white queer people either do not notice or do not care about the racism happening in their own community.
Because the problem identified is not a niche issue, it happens all the time.
But the refusal to use critical thinking or even just look in the comments for other explanations before jumping to acting confused and acting ignorant of the issue is a bigger problem that white queer people need to examine in themselves.
Remaining ignorant on issues of race and acting like you've never seen this happen or you never heard this before is a result of you ignoring it, not a result of it not happening.
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The fact that tons of people in the comments who are black queer people are saying "this happens all the time" but white queer people are saying they've never seen it happen - suggest that it's not that it doesnt happen it's that white queer people don't recognize it happening - because they don't actually pay attention to racial issues in their community.
Which is why when it gets called out they act so confused about it.